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What is it with kids refusing the use the toilet (or even try) ?<br><br>
I hear this struggle between moms and kids whereever I go, and I have my own 3 yr old who sometimes does the same thing.<br><br>
At home, she knows when she needs to go (though sometimes she really does seem to wait till the last possible moment) so I typically don't bother her about it unless it has been many hours and I know she's drank a lot, or when she first wakes up.<br><br>
But when I need her to use the potty before we start a road trip, or while we are out at some outdoor event where toilets are a rarity, why is it that kids like mine struggle against this so much?<br><br>
You'd think that having an accident five minutes after arriving a toy store would have taught a lesson (since she had to leave the toy store right away and then wear wet pants all the way home, since Daddy forgot her change of clothes). But no! Sigh.<br><br>
When will they learn? I guess if I’m honest with myself, I didn’t learn this lesson until I was 16…
 

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I'm right there. If I suggest, she will not go. I'm trying to come up with a sneaky way to make her think it is her own idea.<br><br>
Maybe asking questions like "what do we do before we get in the car?"<br><br>
In our case, it's feeling like a powerstruggle, which is probably not healthy. (She's winning, btw!)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm right there. If I suggest, she will not go. I'm trying to come up with a sneaky way to make her think it is her own idea.</div>
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At one point, it worked for me to just announce <i>I</i> was going to go to the bathroom before leaving. At another point, I think I said I was going to use the bathroom before he did and he'd rush off to use it first. There are some flaws in that second technique (I don't like to encourage competitiveness/racing) but it helped in a pinch. And I would follow it up with dramatic silliness. "Oh no, I wanted to do it first!"
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">At one point, it worked for me to just announce <i>I</i> was going to go to the bathroom before leaving. At another point, I think I said I was going to use the bathroom before he did and he'd rush off to use it first. There are some flaws in that second technique (I don't like to encourage competitiveness/racing) but it helped in a pinch. And I would follow it up with dramatic silliness. "Oh no, I wanted to do it first!"</div>
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This worked for us too!<br>
Ds is almost 6 and he finally realizes that it's smart to use the toilet before a car ride.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">its so normal and so annoying!</div>
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yes. so very normal. and so very annoying.<br><br>
we round-robin our techniques. we're currently on reminding her one time to go. if she has an accident and we're home, she's completely on her own to clean it up and get changed (or to bring me clothes if she needs help snapping buttons/doing zippers). if we're out and about and it's a "piddle" I just always bring 2-3 pair of clean undies. If we're out and about and wet pants are involved we go right home.<br><br>
it's getting better. sort of. sometimes. and then worse. and then better. ish. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> i just try not to stress. eventually she will be 100% potty self-sufficient.
 
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