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for us former nursing mothers to support the current generation of nursing mothers?<br>
I am now 51 years old. My bf days are over; I haven't nursed a child since 1991, when my then 4 year old ds weaned himself. My friends are all older, like myself; I don't have any nursing mothers in my life right now. If, while you were nursing at the mall, or a park bench, I were to approach you with a smile on my face and say something like "I'm so glad to see you nursing your baby. I nursed my kids, and it's one of the happiest memories of my life," how would you feel? Would you feel supported or not? If not, what would be a better way to support you? TIA! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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i think it is beautiful to support nursing moma.. but i couldn't say how i would feel.. with five kids usually when i am in a mall i am about to go insane.. nursing is a little mental retreat for me, but still in all i would appreciate the gesture!
 

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I would love to hear that!!! I sometimes wish I had said encouraging things to nursing moms, but haven't got up the gumption yet. I think that is fabulous!
 

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Honestly, I would probably burst into tears!! I think that's a wonderful gesture <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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That would be wonderful! So many of moms who are currently nursing are nursing alone without much support and community. Few of us learn about nursing from our mothers and grandmothers; rather we learn from books, articles and forums.<br><br>
I would love to hear from anybody with a positive outlook.
 

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I would be VERY encouraged and happy if someone my mom's age came up to me and supported my bfing (my mom does this plenty, but I'd love it from a stranger)
 

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I was at Disneyland when an OLDER woman supported me in the nursing of my son. It was wonderful, and I have made several simular gestures to women I see nursing. Even if it is just a "you two look amazingly beautiful."
 

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I would definitely appreciate it!
 

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I would definitely appreciate it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb">
 

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What a beautiful gesture! Something like that would make my day, or maybe my week, month or year!
 

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I would be truly touched and would feel like hugging you. Even reading your sentiment online makes me feel supported.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> In this oppressive cultural climate, we MUST support one another. Thanks for yours!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I nursed dd in the park a couple weekends ago and afterward, a woman at the picnic table next to me said, "I miss breastfeeding so much." Her smile was so welcome. Our V.S. nurse-in was the next day, and I carried that feeling with me as I went.
 

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Awwww! I'm getting tears in my eyes reading your responses! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/happytears.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="happytears">: Thank you all very much! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
It sounds to me that "mothering the mother" SHOULD be the role of us grandmother types, but you (the collective you) are not getting this from your own mothers. How sad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Well, I guess a stranger like me will have to step up to the plate and fill in, however inadequately.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you all!
 

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I would love it if you said that to me<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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THAT would be fantastically refreshing, and desperately needed in my case (and I'm sure countless others). I get so tired of feeling afraid to feed my baby and worrying about people's reactions to it. Having someone give me a verbal or non thumbs up would give me the courage to nurse another day, so to speak.<br><br>
Thanks for caring enough to put yourself out there. I admire your compassion and courage! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I would love it if someone said something to that effect. Just the idea of receiving a postive comment would tickle-me-pink. I sometimes just even say "What a lucky baby" if I see a woman nursing.<br><br>
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I think it would be unlikely for someone to take offense (who knows, someone might, I suppose) - but I think that for whatever reason, the "next generation up" is allowed more leeway in terms of striking up conversations with younger moms (or at least, they do it more often <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">).<br><br>
I'd say go for it, it might be just the thing that mother needed to hear. I've never had a stranger say anything to me while BFIP, but I had a wonderful conversation with an older woman (60's or 70's) who told me that she had breastfed her childen even though "no one else did," while she and her husband were living in graduate student housing, and that it was a wonderful thing to do. I don't know her really, she was just part of a group I'd worked with in the past and they'd invited me to a dinner where Ina's breastfeeding/allergies came up. It was great that she was so supportive ... I hope that even if her children ff'd, grandchildren are getting that bf support from their grandma now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Also - honestly in terms of nurse-ins etc., or National Breastfeeding Week etc., I don't think it matters whether the people who are involved are lactating, or have ever lactated. I am not breastfeeding right now, but am going to wear a lactivist tshirt that week ... I've read glowing reviews of how nice it was to have husbands along at the Victoria's Secret nurse-ins. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I think a lot of women worry *most* about what other women will do/say, and they worry about your generation (well, you're the tail end of it, but women in their 50's-70's) the very most (or at least, that's the group I expect to be most likely to be judgemental of my breastfeeding). So it can be powerful to have someone like you at events etc., IMO.
 

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Oh, I love supportive comments! Especially the older he gets...<br>
Also, stories from yourexperience can be fun to hear, every nursing mama has at least a few.
 
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