Thanks CarrieMF, seems this is something not to stress over...I'm just :LOL at all the well wishers seeing my little one chewing his fingers saying "oh, he's getting a tooth there" I just have to say he's been doing that for 6 months already!
I have also heard from a friend to start brushing sooner (even before teeth come in) as the gum massage is soothing, plus it gets them used to having mama clean their mouth. I never heard it helps break the skin for the teeth to come out! I'll remember that for when ds actually has visible teeth under his gums.
BTW, any mamas with toothless babies...are your babies still on pureed foods and BM mainly? Do you have to hold off on the finger food a while till some teeth come in? Ds is not a great solids eater, but what he does eat still has to be pretty mushy. I've seen other babies his age chewing on bread etc...but wondering if the no teeth thing means he'll have to stay on baby food?