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My DH is very smart guy. He has a Master's, a law degree, and a Ph.D. He is a college professor. He CANNOT diaper. Just doesn't get it.<br><br>
Today, I was in the middle of a project, and there weren't any ready to go AIOs in the diaper basket. I told him to get one of the pocket fitteds, put an insert in it, and put it on our DS. Then put on a cover over it. Any cover.<br><br>
An hour later, I changed the diaper. The fitted was on inside out so the snaps were facing our child and the wings flopping all around. He decided to use an HH as a cover (even though there were 6 wool covers laying out), but he didn't put it on correctly. Half of my DS's behind (covered in the fitted) was sticking out of the HH. The velcro tabs weren't even fastened correctly.<br><br>
Last night I had a snapping AIO ready to go for him. He put it on backwards.<br><br>
It's not like we just started CDing. It's not like he's too dumb to get it. It's not like I haven't showed him how this stuff works. I'm not angry, just befuddled.<br><br>
What is it about guys? Do they just not care enough.? My DH claims that he lacks the diapering gene.<br><br>
Any insight? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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:LOL I'm sorry but that is too funny!! My DH is pretty much the same way. Diapers just don't interest him so he doesn't take time to learn how to use them correctly. He figures if he got it on the baby, and no major leakage is occuring, it's good to go! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: I've bought him his own little stash of front aplix, all one piece AIOs, and if those are dirty I just give up and change the baby myself because I don't want to know what kind of inventive combinations he'll come up with. I think that most guys lack the diapering gene, although there are a select few out there...
 

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my dh actually does care about cloth and he *still* can't figure it out! We changed to cloth mostly because dd clearly prefers it and is more comfy - and he's willing to make an effort bc of that (the enviro stuff sounds too much like 'diapering for world peace', I think, too esoteric) *but* I swear, give him more than one thing to stick on her butt and he gets completely overwhelmed. you'd think that his engineer brain could figure out snaps and aplix, absorbent side in, label out, etc. Happily, after a few failed experiments he agreed it was worth spending the extra $$ for AIO's so we did and that's that. Now I just have to get him to throw in a doubler/liner (hopeless, I think!)....
 

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My Dh said he didn't know why they called it a fuz easy cover because those ones were hard to put on<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> . He does fitteds and covers pretty well but side snaps confuse him.
 

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It's because he wants you to stop making him change the diapers!!
 

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My dh usually does pretty well, but recently he had to put dd to bed and when I got home I asked him if he remembered to double diaper her. He told me that he put a snappi-ed prefold on her and then a stuffed HH on top of that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:<br><br>
Luckily he also dressed her in her fleece pants so she didn't wake up in a puddle the next morning.
 

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My DH loves the cloth but for the life of him he can't figure out the differences between AIO's and fitteds. So when I fold dipes I put them altogether with the appropriate doubler or insert and lay in the liner and then snap it together the way it should be (if it's snapped). If it's a fitted I lay it in a cover and snap the cover. It sounds crazy but this is what works for him. The few times I don't do it he sticks a cover over an AIO, forgets to put an insert in a FB or goes out of the house with her in a snugtofit (thin dipe) without a cover! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Thankfully at least some of our DH's try! I have a friend whose DH won't even change a disposable.
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;"><i>Originally posted by girlfactory</i><br><b>It's because he wants you to stop making him change the diapers!!</b></td>
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It's got to be what she said! There's no way he could mess up that bad!
 

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ok, my dp usually does ok, on the rare occasions when he deigns to change a diaper, but recently he really pulled a doozie. We have a AIO pocket dipe, PUL outer & fleece inner. He layed the prefold on, not inthe diaper, plus he put it down on the PUL side & had the fleece side out. The best part? It's a velcro diper, you'd think that would have given away that he was putting it on wrong, plus he's used this exact diaper numerous times before.....I think they're just hopeless, whether it's by choice or design, or a little of both probably varies from one guy to another.
 

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my DH does ok for the most part. He'd should after all, he's fourth of ten kids; he's been around cloth and sposies the better part of his life. The diaper and cover always go on correctly *BUT* never tight enough. The baby always leaks because he leaves huge leg gaps. I think he is afraid he'll squish her if he makes the diaper any tighter. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;"><i>Originally posted by girlfactory</i><br><b>It's because he wants you to stop making him change the diapers!!</b></td>
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If this is it, how do I get him to quit it? He's NOT getting out of diaper duty! I work outside the home. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;"><i>Originally posted by girlfactory</i><br><b>It's because he wants you to stop making him change the diapers!!</b></td>
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<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> yuppers, pretending to be diaper incompitent in order to not have to do the "dirty chore" because he knows you'll do it anyway. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> now this may not pertain to all men, but i'm sure it does to quite a few. lol reese
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;"><i>Originally posted by monkeysmommy</i><br><b>My dh usually does pretty well, but recently he had to put dd to bed and when I got home I asked him if he remembered to double diaper her. He told me that he put a snappi-ed prefold on her and then a stuffed HH on top of that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:<br></b></td>
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Hey that is better than putting on the HH first and the prefold over that! LOL sounds pretty bulky though! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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i have no words of widsdom for you, just thought i'd let you know you are NOT alone. dh too has his masters and phd, in engineering none-the-less. he comes up with the most interesting and difficult combos. the ONLY diaper he can put on successfully everytime is an apronstrings stuffed pocket. fitteds too go on inside out. he can snappi but doesn't like the looks of prefolds. he says the remind him of loin clothes, lol. he can do wool covers or anything that pulls on but sometimes i'm afraid to see what is on underneath!!!<br><br>
his continual coment is, " you need some engineer designing these diapers, " but what i think he means is that there needs to be a dumb- proof dipe designed for dads. i have to agree with kathleen, the problem with men is just that--they're men <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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it's a guy thing...when we used sposies, he put one on backwards once!!!!! she wore it like that until her next change!
 

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He told me that he put a snappi-ed prefold on her and then a stuffed HH on top of that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:<br></td>
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Wow! I am so impressed that you dh knows the words snappi and HH! The diapering was so boggling to the boys dad that I would never have introduced the vocabulary that goes with it. I did try in vain to get the inside out application of fitted diapers corrected but that never worked. It always amazed me how he could make something so simple seem so complicated!
 

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My dh has heard me giggling over these types of threads so often that he doesn't even want to risk being teased.<br><br>
He is extremely adamant that we have plenty of prefolds (he calls these the green and blue diapers<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> so that he doesn't have to worry about making a diapering goof.<br><br>
He's on this super dad kick lately and the other day he actually stood over me and critiqued my folding technique <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> !
 

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This is an example of education gone awry. Your hubby's head is so full of IMPORTANT STUFF that he can not remember small facts about how to diaper.<br><br>
My professor DH does a bit better than yours-- but then I would expect this, because he only has a Ph.D., so his head is not quite so full of IMPORTANT STUFF. But, still, the diapering disasters that I have observed include: 1) AIO snapped wrong side out, as in PUL against baby and hemp inner on the outside; 2) pocket diaper with no stuffing; 3) wool liner inside a wool cover (worked surprisingly well and quite trim! perhaps he's a genius after all); 4) wool cover over wool-in-one; and 5) my personal favorite, the lysol bathroom wipes ("what? they say 'wipes'") for cleaning the baby (after more than a year of using cloth wipes and being shown where the extras were kept).<br><br>
My DH can also navigate his way smoothly around major cities in the US (NYC, Boston) in the car, while he always turns the wrong direction in the small town we live in now.<br><br>
I do suspect that there is a latent part of many husbands (some kind of leftover cave man logic) that believes that if they repeatedly screw up some household task, we'll get exasperated and send them back to their IMPORTANT work (hunting wooly mammoths) outside. Most probably don't do it intentionally; it's that Y chromosome thing.<br><br>
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