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I met someone who claimed her 10 month old self-weaned and I didnt realize that was possible. It sounded somewhat believable because she expressed sadness over it and claimed she loves to nurse.
 

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Sounds like a <a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/baby/back-to-breast.html#strike" target="_blank">nursing strike</a> not weaning to me.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I mishandled ds#2's nursing strike at about that age and am still very sad about it...you'd think I'd know better since I nursed DS#1 to over 3yrs! *sigh*
 

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This is what I thought! I really didnt think that a 10 month old would actually self-wean. It is such a touchy subject though because I want to educate but I dont want her to feel badly about something already in the past. Hmmm.
 

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i think people also dont understand exactly what weaning is. If a baby just stops nursing - its a strike. Weaning takes months and months and is a very slow process.
 

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If she has younger or will have more kiddos you could say something like:<br><br>
I have been reading alot about child-led weaning. I have found it very interesting that a child will not self wean until at least the age of 18 months. Talk about how weaning is not a sudden stop that it is a very slow process.<br><br>
If she is not having anymore, then there is really no reason to push it.<br>
Good luck mama!
 

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Dd went thrugh a nursing strike at 14mos an I was so grateful for kellymom.com at that point. I would have thought it was weaning if I hadn't educated myself. Now she's 19mo and shows no signs of slowing down.<br><br>
Sounds like it was a strike to me too.
 

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I've been in a position like that before and it is difficult. And I've also experienced it as it was happening. This woman's 16 month old stopped nursing basically overnight. I was going to suggest not reacting loudly when he bites(which she had been doing and is known to cause strikes), not giving him any more cow's milk, not giving him his sippy, try cosleeping, etc., but when I started off with mentioning that my doula(a LLL leader) said that it wasn't possible for a child to wean this young(in a bewildered, confused tone, not being rude or anything), she got very defensive. She had a know-it-all attitude and wasn't being receptive at all. So I didn't push it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I totally see how some say that their babies self weaned early. Mine would've weaned like that too if I didn't know better. I do however feel that some babies ARE ready to give up then. I think "I" have pushed my dd into nurisng this long and I'm not sure that's CLW as I feel that sometimes I shouldn't have pushed so hard and just listend to her. I NEVER have given milk, She didn't start solids until LATE in her 9th month, Barely had any then and didn't start little meals until 12 months. After that I gradually gave more and more solids but always and still nurse FIRST. She started going to bed w/out nursing and now still does at times. I think that it would've been easier to let it go then when SHE didn't really need it. KWIM?<br><br>
All that said I'm SOOOO glad I still have her nursing, I think it's best for her At least until the age of two I hope we make it that long!!
 

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My ds went on a nursing strike at 11 months old...it lasted about 4-6 weeks, but then he went back to nursing. He selfweaned at 23 months old...I assumed it was another strike, but after 7 months of trying he never went back...I personally felt 23 months was too young to self wean...I think his sensory issues and autism have a lot to do with it, he never enjoyed nursing even as a newborn...I refused to give him a bottle cause I was afraid if he ever got one he'd never nurse again.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I totally see how some say that their babies self weaned early. Mine would've weaned like that too if I didn't know better. I do however feel that some babies ARE ready to give up then.</div>
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I don't understand how a 10mo baby could be ready to wean. They'd still need a breastmilk substitute at that point. When a 10mo stops nursing there is a reason. Something is interfering with the nursing relationship--bottles, pacifier, mom's pregnant...
 

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Cinder that's EXACTLY the way I felt about bottles. My dd is on her way to weaning I really believe. She's trying to cut wayyy back. Not too fast but quicker than I have read about.<br><br>
sunnysideup: I don't think the 10 month old is ready to wean, I just meant that I do believe some babies ARE ready to wean sooner than the 2 year mark that most ppl feel is CLW. I feel that I've coaxed/pushed my dd into going this long. Yeah there are times she needs/wants it but not very often. I think it's me that has kept her going this long, KWIM? I don't think its a normal thing but I do think that some babies are "over" it sooner. Hope that makes sense.
 

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I know someone whose boys weaned at 11 mos and 13 mos. She knows TONS about BFing and was really broken up about it. She had a birth center birth, EBF for 7-8mos, KWIM?? Tried everything she could think of. It wasn't a strike, but it was kind of quick ~ like over a 4week period. She tried even taking other food away in the hopes of getting them to pick up, but they just wouldn't...<br><br>
I wondered whether her supply had diminished somehow (she's one of those skinny little things! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ).<br><br>
It's hard in these situations b/c there's always the "I should have tried" or "maybe it was [insert unrecognized issue here]" ~ I try to keep room in my mind for the possibility that, for whatever reason, things sometimes happen out of "the norm".
 

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It could be a strike. Is she pregnant? James pretty much weaned almost cold turkey (went from nursing like every 2-4 hours to only nursing twice a day...in the span of a week) when I got pregnant. Lots of babies don't but some do. *shrug*
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I met someone who claimed her 10 month old self-weaned and I didnt realize that was possible. It sounded somewhat believable because she expressed sadness over it and claimed she loves to nurse.</div>
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I've been thinking about this a lot lately, too, as I've heard several stories of "weaning" at early ages. One acquaintance said her son just stopped nursing one night at 8.5 months, and then happily took a bottle the next day, which he had never done before. Another said her son "weaned" just after his first birthday, and another said he "weaned" at 11 months--ds saying "No no no!" when she offered. (Although in the last case, this coincided with her going to a VERY stressful job with long hours and no pumping support, so she does say that she didn't do anything to get him back on the breast, b/c the timing actually worked for them.)<br><br>
It's really hard to know what to say in these situations. It's quite obvious (to me) that this is NOT weaning. But you also don't want to scold people once the event has already happened (I mean, realistically, most of these women aren't going to relactate weeks later b/c I tell them to <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ). If anyone has come up with a graceful way of handling this, I'd love to hear it!
 

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A dear friend of mine's DD weaned at 8 months. It was definitely not a strike but looked like one at first - it was abrupt. She continually offered the breast but K would not take it, she wanted to drink out of her cup. So my friend pumped and let her drink bm out of a cup. After 3 or 4 months it became obvious that K was not going to go back to breastfeeding. This is a child who had no artificial nipples at all. I thought it was kind of bizarre, really .... but I guess all babies are different.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I met someone who claimed her 10 month old self-weaned and I didnt realize that was possible. It sounded somewhat believable because she expressed sadness over it and claimed she loves to nurse.</div>
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I believe it. My DS absolutely was not interested in nursing anymore around 11 months. It made me sooooo sad!! I kept offering it to him thinking he would change his mind but he really just didn't want to do it anymore.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">A dear friend of mine's DD weaned at 8 months. It was definitely not a strike but looked like one at first - it was abrupt. She continually offered the breast but K would not take it, she wanted to drink out of her cup. So my friend pumped and let her drink bm out of a cup. After 3 or 4 months it became obvious that K was not going to go back to breastfeeding. This is a child who had no artificial nipples at all. I thought it was kind of bizarre, really .... but I guess all babies are different.</div>
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yep! i could have written this story word for word. my dd had never had any sort of artificial nipple either, and i'm still pumping for her almost 7 months later. even though it might seem young, every child is different, and there's always a case (like mine) that really just breaks all of the rules. i guess all i would like to say is, don't assume anything, cause you probably don't have the whole story.
 

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I'm not a great milker like many women I know, who could nurse triplets if called upon to do so, so I feel that by 12 months my supply has dropped to the point that my babies lose interest and wean themselves naturally. I want to nurse #4 as long as possible, but I can already see him spending less time at the breast and turning it down sometimes when it's offered-- although I certainly wouldn't call it a strike, because he does nurse numerous times during the day and sometimes night.<br><br>
If she says her 11 month old is weaning, I'd believe her. Some kids are highly motivated to nurse by the comfort and contact it provides, and others are motivated primarily by the food, imho. If there's not a lot of food going on there and she's a snuggly mommy otherwise, the baby may not have a driving need to nurse. That's fine-- 11 months is nothing to sneeze at in the USA. She should be proud of herself for keeping at it that long, and roll with what the baby wants to do from here on out.
 
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