[missjessicajames]

So I'm three months ppt and it seems I just finished my first period. Can I just say I'm a little confused, I've been exclusively breast feeding and following all of the guide lines for ecological breast feeding. My daughter has been a pretty good sleep since she was born but hasn't recently started sleeping more at night. I just don't get how my period could be starting so soon! The only thing I can think of is I had a really bad infection after delivery that didn't clear till about 10 weeks ppt could this really just be my body's way of cleansing it's self?

I definitely want a big family but I'm not ready to be pregnant again. I had a dream last night I was pregnant and I woke up in tears. I don't know why I'm so scared about being pregnant again, but the idea just freaks me out right now. Does this make me a bad person that I'm totally not ready?

No I'm just rambling, sorry about that. I just wasn't prepared to deal with this yet I thought I'd have at least another three months to finish my research and decide what would be best. Thanks for listening to my rant.

xoxo

 

[MaerynPearl]

Not all women lose their period until they're done breastfeeding.

I got it right away after having both of my children and i breastfed each for almost a year.

 

[jen&james]

I on the other hand take forever to get it back. My LO is only nursing 6 times a day and sleeping thru the night at least 8 hours and still no PPAF. With my first it didn't return till 21 mo PP. It's diffrent for everyone. You are not bad for not wanting to get pregnant. It is boilogical for us to feel that way to protect our new nursling.

 

[mama to 2 girls]

You're not bad at all!

Exclusively b/f is NOT a good form of birth control (in my instance anyways) I get my periods back at 6-8 WEEKS pp! None of my kids got pacies(at that age), we co-slept, fed on demand... all that stuff.....

 

[MoOnFiReGlOw]

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Originally Posted by mama to 2 girls You're not bad at all! Exclusively b/f is NOT a good form of birth control (in my instance anyways) I get my periods back at 6-8 WEEKS pp! None of my kids got pacies(at that age), we co-slept, fed on demand... all that stuff.....

Yep! same here

 

[harmonyhobbit]

The average is 14 months, but that means 50% will fall below the average. Some women also have a period around 3-4 months, and then not again for a year or more. It's a big time of hormonal adjustment, so don't panic yet.
We really aren't meant to have pregnancies less than a year apart. It does happen, but it's not supposed to work that way. You haven't had a chance to recover from your last pregancy and you are still adjusting to mommyhood. You haven't done anything wrong. You are not a bad mommy for not being ready. I wasn't ready for my second child and my older was almost 3 and a half. It didn't make me a bad mom, and doesn't mean I didn't love my child, or my new baby. I just had a lot of personal crap to deal with, and a baby wasn't part of my plans just then. But things do happen.
If you haven't already thought about it, it's time to consider birth control options. Barrier methods are safest, at least until you decide on something else.
Good luck.

 

[belchers1]

I think genetics play a role. Ask the women in your family when their periods returned after childbirth (if they EBF).