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<p>What on earth possesses people to tell an 8 week pregnant woman pregnancy horror stories?  I took my son to a play date with 3 other women, one of which was my sister.  Another woman there proceeded to regale us with a long horror story.  My sister tactfully asked her to change the because SHE was getting emotional over it.  The other woman said ok but. . .  and then jumped into another one!  And I don't mean sharing that she had had a miscarriage in the past but telling graphic stories about "this woman" she "knew."  I bluntly interrupted her story and said, "You do know I am early pregnant right."  She said yes (of course she did, we had just been discussing it) and then went right on about another baby dying!!!!  I interrupted her again, pretty ticked off and told her flat out I did not want to hear any more.  Truthfully, I was handling it better than my sister who was starting to act like she was going to start crying.  Of course the woman had to finish her story really quick.  REALLY????  I jumped in with a story about a set of triplets whose mother breastfed them all for 6 months and my sister started talking about sets of twins and triplets she has taught in the 6th grade. And then we got ready to leave pretty quickly. This is my sister's "friend" and I told my sister, I will do a play date one more time with her but if she starts in on the horror stories again I am going to get quite rude!</p>
 

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I'm so sorry that happened to you and that she didn't get the hint. You and your sister were way more patient than I would have been!<br><br>
I'm at the point where I just get up and leave in the middle of a pregnancy or birth horror story that is too much for me for any reason. Not necessarily leave the play date or anything, but stand up get out of earshot until she has gotten it out of her system because otherwise it will cause anxiety and nightmares.
 

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<p><a data-huddler-embed="href" href="/community/u/236379/BethaniaDawn" style="display:inline-block;">@BethaniaDawn</a> That's awful! How do people not get the hint? <img alt="headscratch.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/headscratch.gif"> I agree with Sihaya, you were way more patient that I would be!</p>
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<p>I just KNOW this is going to happen, already decided to cut people off mid-story and say firmly, but politely, "Sorry, that's a bit sad/disturbing/horrible/anxiety inducing and I just can't hear it right now, let's change the subject." </p>
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<p>I'd rather deal with the awkwardness of that moment than the memories of the stories and the worries that come along with it... <img alt=":eyesroll" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style=""> </p>
 
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