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<p>I won't go into the long story of what happened to me - it's already posted on this board - it's called "2 weeks ago." I'll spare you the details.</p>
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<p>Anyway.. have any of you felt like your midwife, doctor or hospital let you down and possibly caused (or at the very least didn't prevent) your miscarriage/loss? Especially when they were supposed to be the best?</p>
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<p>I feel like that.. and now I feel like there is no country for my uterus (think "No Country for Old Men"). I'm not sure where my reproductive health should reside. I go back and forth between "should I go back to my doctor/midwife because they know my history and they are at the best hospital in my area?" Or "should I find another provider because my current doctors suck." Basically I go back and forth between thinking that everything that happened was just a very unfortunate accident and nitpicking every single event from my first prenatal visit until I went into preterm labor at 18 weeks and blaming everyone who made a misstep.</p>
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<p>I just don't know what to do. I see a specialist on Tuesday for a possible Myomectomy to have my fibroids removed.. I go back and forth about that - just because if I have the myomectomy my chances for having a c-section are almost 100%. My birth plan just won't ever happen the way I would like it to, it seems. But that's another story altogether.</p>
 

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<p>I can't answer all of your questions.  I feel for you, I really do.  It's not an easy situation.</p>
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<p>I just want to point out, however, that a birth plan is just that; a plan.  It's not rigid, it's not set in stone, and it's certainly not a garantee that things will happen they way we want it.  Even in the best of situations, your ideal birth is just a fantasy since it's based on wishes and not actual event.  </p>
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<p>Birth is what it is. It's just a small step in a huge picture of parenthood.   It's always wonderful, no matter how it happened. </p>
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<p>Just listen to what the specialist has to say, ask lots of questions, and listen to your intuition. </p>
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<p>I wish you peace!!!</p>
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<p>Thank you Bena -</p>
<p>You are totally right. Even though I went into pre-term labor.. deep down I'm happy that I got those few hours with my precious baby. I hadn't thought about it like that. And at the end of the day - I'll just be glad to have a baby - no matter how he or she gets here. Now I just need to figure out what to do about my doctor/hospital situation. I'm hoping the specialist will have some OB recommendations.</p>
 
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