[maybaby18]

I talked with my husband last night and I told him that I want to breastfeed until my daughter is 2 years old and maybe older, but he says that it's a bad idea, cause it'll be embarressing for all over us, breatfeeding a 2 year old that can walk and talk. I don't know what to do. I want what's best for my baby. What should I do?

 

[maciascl]

My suggestion, though it is hard to do, is just not stress about it now. You have lots of time between now & when your DD turns 2 for your Dh to see how much breastfeeding is a need for your DD & to educate him by dropping little tidbits of info here & there. Right now I would just focus on today or the next few months & let it happen.

DH & I had agreed pretty much that at 12months it would be time to start weaning & by 18 months be fully weaned. Well...DS self weaned at about 27 months when I was about 4 months preg. It was sort of a shock to us all. Plus I feel like DS might ask to start again when he sees the baby nursing & I am ok with that..atleast I think I am

But DH doesn't even blink when I say stuff like that, he agrees. So you just never know what will happen over time

 

[mika85]

I may be wrong, but I think most 2YO only want to nurse about once a day, or when they're sick or hurt, and its more of a comforting thing. Screw what other people think, anyway!

Most moms don't plan on nursing for more than 6 months, so good for you!

 

[alegna]

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Originally Posted by mika85 I may be wrong, but I think most 2YO only want to nurse about once a day, or when they're sick or hurt, and its more of a comforting thing. Screw what other people think, anyway! Most moms don't plan on nursing for more than 6 months, so good for you!

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Um, no. My dd must have missed that memo. 2 years old tomorrow and nurses at LEAST 8-12 times a day as do all other nursling toddlers I personally know.

-Angela

 

[alegna]

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Originally Posted by maybaby18 I talked with my husband last night and I told him that I want to breastfeed until my daughter is 2 years old and maybe older, but he says that it's a bad idea, cause it'll be embarressing for all over us, breatfeeding a 2 year old that can walk and talk. I don't know what to do. I want what's best for my baby. What should I do?

Well if he doesn't want to nurse her at two that's his choice

You're the mama. And the pp is right- plenty of time between now and then for him to learn.

-Angela

 

[shoefairy3]

I'd say take it one day at a time

It really isnt your DH's decision anyway...some arguments are best not had

 

[J-Max]

I totally vote for relaxing and not worring about it, and stop talking about it

. My dh was firmly in the nurse for as little as possible (his mom did it for about 3 months for all her kids), but not as long as my mom ( a tandeming, extended nurser

). Well #1 bf for about 6 months (long story), #2 weaned 5 weeks before #3 was born (at 16 months) (her choice, dispite my best efferts to keep her going), and #3 is going strong at 17 months, with no signs of stopping.

DH will mention once in a while, "are you going to wean her yet?" but always says it is not as bad as he was expecting, and he is always very upfront about defending me if anyone says anything about still nursing! Plus he realises how much easier it is for every one if they have nursies to comfort them and put them back to sleep at night (stuff he would have to help with other wise)

 

[mothragirl]

my boyfriend was freaked about extended nursing too. i stopped bringing it up. now that she is a bit older he can see how much she needs to nurse so he doesn't mention weaning.

 

[forthebest]

aw mama it is so sad that people specially husbands/family think it so bad to bf for longer than a year or so,so sad.I have friends who fed for over 4 years. The longer you feed the better nutrition your babe gets as long as you look after yourself its not a problem. Every child is different, I did not make it the 2 years with any of my dc and was continually harrassed to stop feeding after about 1 year,specially while pregnant with 2nd dd, after about 16 months it gets worse and people actually look perplexed. Its your choice and its hard cos we are affected deeply by others opinions, but you just do what you want.

 

[artgoddess]

Mama, please just enjoy this time with your newborn and spend all your thinking in the here and now.

My DP thought 1 year, I smiled and said "We'll see" then he thought 2 years, I smiled and said "we'll see" now he's saying maybe by the time he's 4. And he's not just tolerating extended nursing, he's very supportive of it at well. When they see how important a thing like nursing is and continues to be DP have a great way changing their thinking and even laughing at themselves when they look back on what they used to think.

Oh and btw, my 2.5 year old nurses round the clock.

 

[Robin926]

Take it one day at a time, mama. Right now, it's hard to imagine nursing a 1 y/o, let alone a 2 y/o. But you start out nursing and the baby becomes a 6 m/o, a 9 m/o, an 11 m/o, then a 1 y/o and they're really no different than the day they were before. So you keep going and the same thing happens at 18 months and 2 years. Just don't bring it up, just keep on nursing that baby, and if he still feels weird about it, talk about it when the time comes.

 

[SabbathD]

I agree with pp on not discussing it now. I would just nod your head say 'uh huh!!' with a big smile on your face and watch (silently of course) your child's first birthday come and go. I doubt your husband will ever say anything about it, and then realize 'wow!! we are still nursing her at 3? didn't even realize it!!'

 

[mhr1406]

If your DH is anything like mine he will change his mind... I know it is heartbreaking. My dh wanted me to wean our ds at 6 months (that was a month ago) for the same reason you mentioned. He and I talked about it then and I showed him some information I got from the web about ENing. After he saw the benefits for ds and me he was blown away. He actually said he felt stupid for asking me to do something that would deprive our child something so wonderful. lol
given time and lots of communication he might turn out to be your biggest supporter. here is a link to some infomation given to me last month.
hth

http://kellymom.com/smf/index.php?topic=7493.0