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My 7 month old dd has been have some serious trouble sleeping both at night and during the day recently. I keep reading that babies should have an early bedtime. Her's has fluctuated and my favorite was when she was going to bed around 9. Now, I feel like I am not in the door for five minutes when she starts giving me sleeping cues including yawning and rubbing her eyes. I get home at 5:30 and my dh at 6:00. I can't stand the thought of putting her to sleep so early! It is really breaking my heart. I had just thought that if she was able to sleep as late as she wanted in the morning that putting her to bed early would be non-issue but now I am not sure. I am currently reading the no-cry sleep solution (which I love because the section after Early Bedtime was What About Working Parents?) and Pantley suggested going with the early bedtime and then after you have some of the other sleep issues revolved, try to push back the bedtime. What do the rest of you do?<br><br>
Let me say Thanks in advance. You are all so helpful everytime I have a question or a concern. I don't know what I would do without this community.
 

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Hmmm. In our house, when my kids were 7 months old, I don't believe we had a "bedtime" yet. They were still napping 2-3 times a day and usually went to bed with us, anywhere between 9-12 a.m. As they got older we instituted a "bedtime", but that was closer to 18 months, when they were down to one nap per day.<br><br>
Bedtime for both kids is now 9 p.m. Between 8-9 is wind down time (baths, stories, getting PJs on, etc.) and the kids are usually asleep by 9:30.<br><br>
editted to add: Also keep in mind that if you expecting a 7 month old to "sleep through the night" as we as adults often define it, you may be disappointed. "Sleeping through the night" for a 7 month old means sleeping in one stretch for about 4-6 hours. So, if they go to bed at 9:00 p.m., then sleeping through the night is waking up at about 3 a.m. to do business (eat, poop, play <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> ), a time when most of us would prefer to be sleeping <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. So, at that age, I probably would have let them take a nap at 6:00 p.m. for about an hour, maybe two. Then get them up until about 11:00 p.m., take them to bed and hope they sleep until 6:00. I also kept the bedroom as dark as I could to promote the idea that it was sleep time. 4 out of 5 times it worked <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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You probably won't want to hear this, but we went with the earlier bedtime and it was really in dd's best interest. Like you, I heard a lot about the benefit of earlier bed times. I also did some independent research about it and realized that babies are wired very differently from us. There is a definite time when they should be sleeping and a time when they are at their most active and most receptive. Not everyone agrees with this view, but I found it very hard to simply ignore the advice of numerous doctors and research studies in this are.<br><br><br>
Basically (and you probably already know this) if the bedtimes (and naps) are out of wack, then babies become overtired and a sleep deficit begins to form. It won't form immediately, like at 7,8, or 9, months, but it is usually very apparent by the time baby is 12 months old. An occasional sleep deficit isn't a problem. The bigger problem comes years later when the baby becomes a toddler and you have a hyper toddler on your hands. In fact, some research indicates that some kids that are diagnosed with ADHD have chronic sleep deficits that may have contributed to their perpetual state of hyperactivity and inability to remain focused. In this respect, babies are like adults. We function at a lower level when we are sleep deprived. We don't drive as well, think as well or do work as well. Babies, because they need X amount of sleep a day, can also become chronically overtired. The thing with babies, however, is that it isn't enought for a baby to sleep, say 14 hours at night. They need to sleep at *age* appropriate times in order not to become overtired.<br><br>
After reading all of the information and talking to other parents and a few peds, I was convinced that good sleep habits are as important as good food is to a baby.Although it all makes a lot of sense, it really sucks when you are a working parent and you don't get home till later.<br><br>
What we did in our home is to get up earlier, when dd was in the best of moods and well rested, and spend as much time with her in the mornings, rather than keeping her late at night. Also, I left work early whenever possible to get home earlier, knowing that around 6:30 dd will have had it for the day and would need to go down for bed. We also made a big production out of bath time. That was something special we did as a family and we made it into a big event. That way, we spent some meaningful time with dd while she was in a good mood and not overly tired.<br><br>
Also, on weekends we are a little more lax about bedtimes so we could stay up with her. Dd is now 20 months old and I really think that part of the reason she has such excellent concentration is, because she is pretty well rested overall. I've noticed that many other kids her age are totally hyper and, coincidentally, their parents do not maintain any type of sleep schedule. This could, however, also be a part of the kids' personality, so it could be a combination of both.<br><br>
In any case, I understand where you are coming from. I just wanted to share my experience and thoughts with you. Good luck and happy sleeping! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sleeping.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sleeping"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sleeping.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sleeping"><br><br>
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We always followed our baby's cues on this, and until she was around 1 year old, she went to bed around 11 pm almost every night (give or take a few short-lived phases of change). She was even like that in the womb (never active in the morning until after 9 or 9:30). She did sleep in, and she never seemed to suffer from a late bedtime, so I really think that "early to bed" may suit some babies, but not all. And I also think it depends on how well they are sleeping (for how long) and napping, too.<br><br>
In your case, it sounds like your baby wants to be an early-to-bed baby right now, and I would also try to honour that, even if it means you spend little time with her. I don't think it's really fair to mess with their internal clocks that way: if she is ready for bed at 6 pm, go with it. It's not fair to keep her up, and maybe that's why her napping is not going well.<br><br>
The good news is that babies often do change their sleep patterns. With us, DD began going to bed early when she started walking alot and being active. Now she's down around 8:30, up at around 8 am, and I love it. Your baby may change, too, so don't worry that you won't be seeing much of her until she's going to high school, lol.<br><br><br><br>
Now that I've spouted off my brand of wisdom, lol, I'm going to move this to the Nighttime Parenting forum... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My daughter was an early to bed baby. she took forever to sleep through the night (a very frequent waker), but we did have a "routine" which followed her lead, usually meaning bedtime was 7:30. this sucked of course, because i wouldnt get home until 6pm. she is still like this and she is now 16! my second baby was a 10 o'clocker, and still is and he is now 13. i put him to bed around 9pm or so, and he cooed and ahhed for about an hour till he fell asleep.<br><br>
some babiies just need to go to sleep early. i would follow her lead and see what happens.<br><br>
good luck!
 

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My dd just went to bed with us, around 10-11 PM. She's going to be 3 in December and we just now have started giving her an 8:30 bedtime since she's in her own room now. We are resting before the new baby comes!<br><br>
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Our little baby is almost 8 months and goes to bed at 7-7.30. It suits him, and I can't change it! Unfortunately he has been waking up just before 6 which I don't really like. If I keep him up later he just gets grumpy! Last night we were at friends for dinner, and he totally would not sleep. He bounced in his jumper and was totally cheerful until 10 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> but when we got home all hell broke loose! Poor child, I felt like such a bad parent. I'm never going out again!<br><br>
Today he has had a huge sleep 2.5 hours, and has just gone down again 1.5 hours later. Now I miss him today!<br><br>
Stick with the bedtime your child is showing you I think. They are all so different, but they let you know in their own way, and I really don't think there is too much parents can do to manipulate it. Good luck!
 

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We don't have a bedtime for Kailey. She just falls asleep one her own, or if she is having trouble falling asleep we will nurse. Many times I find her asleep on the bed or couch. Usually it's about 10:30 before she heads off to sleep.
 

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Have you tried letting her have a short nap at that time? When both my sons were that age they would take a nap around 5-6pm. My ds#2 is now 14 months and usually takes his second nap from 4-6 still and doesn't go to bed too terribly late.
 

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Ds, now 2.5yo, has gone through several different phases, the earliest being 6:30pm (this lasted for a few months), the latest being 9:30pm (when we first had the time change this last spring). But for the most part, he has pretty much consistently gone to bed at around 8pm. We have never had a set bedtime - whenever he was tired was when he went to sleep.<br><br>
They will go through different phases, so try not to get too worked up about a particular one that isn't working for you. I was pretty worked up when the 6:30pm bedtime thing was happening, because it meant that I really couldn't get a break because I always had to be home by bedtime. Dh didn't get home until 6, so it made the evening very rushed. But it didn't last too long.
 
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