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I'm proud to be a SAHM, but not proud of the cumbersome name. When people ask if I've gone back to work, I say, "No, I'm a full-time mom." I realize this makes it sound like moms who work are only part-time moms, which of course they are not, but I use the term because I literally watch my baby full time, 40 hours a week plus all the other hours in the week!<br><br>
I sort of like the "homemaker" title but it is a little old-fashioned. And I definitely wouldn't consider myself an accomplished home-maker.<br><br>
Does anyone have another title you like to use for yourself to describe your role?
 

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I'm a homemaker. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I refer to myself as a sahm or homemaker
 

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I just say I am a mom.
 

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I like the term "domestic engineer"
 

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I'm not currently a SAHM, but when I was, I'd say 'I'm a mom'. Usually followed by, 'it's WAY harder than anything I did while WOHM'.
 

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I say SAHM, the "homemaker' label drives me insane. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

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Homeschooling mom
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">Great replies! Keep em coming.
 

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I like 'homemaker', because I am making a home. To me, 'making a home' does not mean 'doing the dishes' (although it sometimes has to include that out of necessity). Making a home means being all the mom I can be to my son.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: I tend to just say "I homeschool ds" and leave it at that.<br><br>
About a month ago I had a similar conversation with my grandmother. She called me a housewife, and I kinda felt ruffled. To me, "housewife" and "homemaker" are antiquated terms, particularly the former. They seem to imply that being domestic, dusting all the knick knacks and sweeping the floors 2x a day trumps getting down on the dusty floor and finger painting or building an alien command base out of legos and lincoln logs.<br><br>
SAHM is a cumbersom phrase, but I prefer it over the homemaker or housewife. I agree that full time mom seems demeaning to woh and wah mothers.
 

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I like "homemaker" because on top of parenting I do the bulk of the cleaning and cooking and things like that. To me there is nothing shameful or demeaning about making a home.
 

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I don't like the term housewife at all. Probably because it doesn't say anything about being a mom. I kinda feel that way about homemaker a little as well, because it leaves out the most important part, IMO.<br><br>
I find that if I am proud to say whatever title I say people respect me more. Where as if I am worried about what people's projections will be, then it is easier for them to project their negative views onto me. Does this make sense?<br><br>
So it feels best for me to say I am a mom, therefore I get the most respectful reactions from this term.
 

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Interesting thread. I'm a WOHM but my dh is a SAHD. I think he usually says "homemaker" on forms. I agree that it would be great to have a term that describes what he does but without some of the old-fashioned connotations or cumbersome descriptions.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/notes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="notes">:
 

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I just normally say "I work at home".<br><br>
I don't like the "full-time mom" thing. Because I feel that all mothers (except for the mentally ill ones) are full-time moms. I AM a homemaker, and I actually like that word--but I feel uncomfortable using it because I feel that people project June Cleaver/Martha Stewart onto it. I don't have any problems with folks who like to do things in that vein, more power to them, but it's not me.<br><br>
I wouldn't mind reclaiming "homemaker" from 50s advertising.<br><br>
When people have asked me in depth, I explain that our family hobby is sustainable living, and some respects that really can be a full time job. I have time to garden/volunteer at the CSA. I have time to research and plan out meals so that we eat well and soundly out of our 1 month supply we get from the grass fed/self slaughtered/family owned and operated ranch meat that we pick up. I have time to poke through garage sales and thrift stores for our clothing, and to barter with people. But I have time to do that AND have a very relaxed schedule, where the kids have lots of down time and we have a peaceful, unpressured environment *in the house*. I'm an introvert, so is DH, and while I do have social people-loving kids, they are all introverts as well--so having that unpressured, ample alone time is important to protect our sanities.<br><br>
But most people, when asking, just want a ready category. If they ask "where do you work", and I say "at home," that can satisfy some folks. Others might ask (since telecommuting is pretty popular aroudn here) "Oh, are you a developer?" because they want to connect with me because they too enjoy working at home and want to talk to someone who 'gets it', and I can smile and say "actually, I stay at home with the kids. But isn't it nice to telecommute? My husband does and it's really brought us very close as a family."<br><br>
It's a little like answering your child's questions about sexuality. Sometimes we overthink the answer, freak out at imagined motivations that aren't there, or give waaaay TMI when all the person wanted was a simple categorical answer. So I start with the simplest answer. If the person wants more conversation, I'm happy to oblige.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I say SAHM, the "homemaker' label drives me insane. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: I don't know why, but that label drives me nuts too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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