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Hi Everyone<br><br>
I have so been enjoying reading this forum for the last eight months since we learned about Rudolph Steiner and waldorf. I have learned so much and we are planning to sign my son up for a parent/toddler class in the fall.<br><br>
In April he will be two and we are having family and friends come and celebrate with us. How do people handle this with birthday parties if most friends and family don't know about waldorf?<br><br>
Is there a nice way to mention in an e-mail to everyone that we would prefer natural things or include some web sites? I was thinking since we don't really need anything should we ask people to just bring something meaningful from nature? Though that might be hard since we live in a very urban city.<br><br>
Also are there any nice birthday rituals that people have really liked to do with their little ones?<br><br>
Thank you so much!!!
 

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If you don't really need stuff, perhaps you could tactfully offer two options:<br>
1)gift certificates from a list of places you plan to buy from in the future<br>
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2)donations to any organization that the donor prefers (or again, you could provide a list of orgs, perhaps child oriented)<br><br>
This year my library received a very nice donation. One of my volunteers had her sister give to the library instead of spending money on a Christmas present. Everyone ended up happy. The sister was spared Christmas shopping, the volunteer was spared a present she didn't really need and was able to support a local service and the library got the donation.<br><br>
Deborah
 

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The birthday present thing is always an issue. It seems rude to direct people in their gift giving if they don't ask but on the other hand you really don't want a lot of plastic toys. What I have done in the past, is not say anything and wait for people to ask. Many ususally do and then you can direct them to wooden toys, silks, etc. plus experiences like a trip to the museum. At 2 your child will enjoy whatever he gets but if he gets something you don't like, let him play with it that day and then have it disappear after a couple of days. People rarely come back to look for the stuff they gave as a gift. Take it to a consignment store or donate it to charity.<br><br>
Happy birthday to your son!
 

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I'm not sure this would be a Waldorf option (this thread came up on the main page) but while some people won't understand "Something from nature" (I'm thinking plastic sprinkler heads, lol) they would probably understand something like "Your favorite children's book" or "Art supplies".<br><br>
If you actually don't want any gifts, I think saying "no gifts" or "we'll donate any gifts to xyz charity" would be fine, too.
 

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Thank you for your replies.<br><br>
We are thinking now of writing an e-mail to everyone and saying something like we would love it if everyone brought something special from nature - I hope we don't end up with sprinklers <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
and a note saying something about their connection to our son and then making a book with all the notes.<br><br>
I was thinking of holding my son on my lap while people present things to him but i am not sure how long he would hold still.<br><br>
I did look at those wooden candle holders used for birthdays but they seem so expensive. Has anyone ever used or bought them? Do you think it is worth it?
 

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my dd just turned three<br>
after receiving a barbie for xmas from a well meaning aunt(it was played with that day, then put away and since donated, lol) I felt I really needed to somehow express our family lifestle/goals /wishes etc fro presents<br><br>
so on the invites I wrote<br>
(there were fairy invites)to protect all the fairies we prefer natural playthings, books or clothing. Of course time(outings/activities) spent with our fairy is treasured much more than any present!<br>
maegan is hoping for outdoor playthings and also has a wishlist on <a href="http://www.atoygarden.com" target="_blank">www.atoygarden.com</a> under "***" and on <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com" target="_blank">www.amazon.com</a> under "***"<br><br>
when I spoke with everyone before the party, I asked them if they felt the invite was ruse or presumptious, and they all denied it and said it was helpful. 2 friends bought from our wishlists. the rest brought outdoor things(gardening, etc) The aunt brought a tutu, a kid yoga and another workout thing which was cute and I had suggested something for exercising, cuz dd is in gymnastics and I do yoga.<br><br>
so it worked out very nice, not one gift was inappropriate. We don't outlaw plastic, but we do prefer natural and homemade items.<br><br>
the gift receiving time is always hectic, I gave out treat bags right before this, then did games
 
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