[minasmom]

Hi,

First of all I hope this is in the right forum.

I've recently started looking after a 2.5 yr old girl one or two days a week.
My dd [14 months] seems to be having MAJOR issues with her. My dd has
always been super attached to me and just recently has become more
comfortable with being around others without me. Since this little girl has
been coming here my dd has bit her, cried for hours [and I mean hours with
no calming her down] and is generally miserable when. It turns into a competition for toys and my attention.

I'm starting to wonder if doing this homecare is such a good idea. This little girl is fine, the usual stealing of toys and stuff like that. That seems to really provoke DD.
My dd swipes at me and bites me when she's over. A lot of the time I can not pay 100% attention to my dd, although I'm always talking to her, telling her what I'm doing and where I'm going in the room. If I need to leave the room she comes with me. She still get VERY upset and cries until i pick her up. She also spends a great deal of time trying to nurse and I know she doesn't normally nurse as much, so she is reacting to her stress by nursing.

How would you all deal with her behaviour? Is now not a good time to take
care of another child??? am I doing harm to my dd??? Or should I just keep going with it and hope she can deal with it eventually?? She gets overstimulated i think, she went to bed at 5:30 today [just after the little girl left] !!! I just don't know how to deal with her behaviour and I would hate to think I'm causing my dd stress that can be avoided.

Sorry this post is all over the place, I'm trying to gather my thoughts!

--Angela

 

[minasmom]

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Originally Posted by Piglet68 Wow. It sounds like you've got your hands full. I don't really know what to suggest. It could be that your DD just isn't dealing with this well at all, and maybe you should put a stop to it. OTOH, it could be that with the right techniques and approaches you can make it alot easier on her. Maybe if you gave us some specific examples of incidents that happen and what you do about them...?

hi,
well lets see one example would be when I need to bring the daycare girl to the potty. I don't feel 100% comfortable just leaving my DD alone in a roome so I've put a bunch of toys in the tub and I'll sit her in there while I lift the little girl onto the potty. Occasionally I'll tell my dd that I'm taking her to the bathroom and just let her follow us, so I"ve tried both tactics. In the tub she tries to get out while screaming and crying [not safe and I have to tell her NO because my hands are full holding the little girl] and if I don't take her with me, she follows and screams and cries to get me and then I'm dealing with getting the little girl off the potty and trying to hold my dd back. Is this enough of an example? I mean sometimes its because the little girl wants to sit in my lap and read with me, i grab her and my dd wants to climb on too, then my dd tries to slap and bite the little girl [she HAS bitten her once, i felt terrible]. I don't want to totally stop taking care of this little girl, i really like her and we need the $$$, but I'm not sure about the cost to my dd. My husband doesn't agree though, he thinks she just needs to deal with it. I'm not so sure. She's only 14 months old!

The little girl's mother and I have decided that it will mostly be half days, occasionally full days. I'm sure there will still be issues, but at least they won't go on for 8 hours!

I wrote another novel!

sorry and thanks for listening

--Angela

 

[minasmom]

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Originally Posted by Juniper Is wearing DD an option? When I am watching children I sometimes wear DS on my back if he is teething or feeling like he needs more mama time. Once he gets his fill he is more content to play with others. (he is only 11.5 months, though) Jennifer

It is an option sometimes, but I have a really OLD metal frame carrier that hurts if I wear it for too long, like more then 30 min. I'd love an Ergo but we are really strapped for cash right now. DD loves the backpack [or cac cac as she calls it]. I'll try it next week, but she usually doesn't stay in it for long. Maybe it will be just the thing to give her a little mama time though.

Thanks

--Angela