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Well, first let me start out by saying that my three previous births have been dreams. BUT I always felt I had to "prove" that birth was no big deal (like it was like taking a big poop or something) and I would right away get back into the swing of things the very next day. Doing wash, going to the store (twice I did this with babies 24 hours old), cooking etc. Now this isn't to say my dh wasn't trying to help, I was just refusing to let him. Well not this time. I realized yesterday after dealing with my sick family for a week (first one kid, then my hubby and another kid) that I was so pooped out. I needed a break, but I have no relief coming until this baby is born (in about 4 weeks). So then a light went off in my head. I am going to do NOTHING!!! After this is born. NOTHING, NOT A BLOODY THING!!! I will lay in my bed with my new baby and nurse and sleep and read to my other kids andin the evening I will get out of bed and sit out in the back yard and look at my garden. I will let my dh do EVERYTHING, I will not complain and eat whatever weird things he comes up with. I will let him to the wash, and run around with the kids and me and my baby will just chill in the bed. I think I have proved enough to myself that I can do it all right after giving birth, I just know now I don't want to do that. I wanna cuddle up with my baby and change those little diapers SLOWLY. I want to introduce this little one slowly to the world. I can hardly wait! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/fbbf.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="familybed breastfeeding"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
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Good for you!!!! Take that time, you can never get the babymoon back.<br><br>
I wish I had listened to everyone (midwives, etc) and done the same thing. Did way too much after my last birth, but DH left town on business, and I HATE asking for and/or receiving help from family & friends. Wish I could just hire someone to help out, but $$$ is too much of an issue.<br><br>
Enjoy your new little one when they get here!
 

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My midwife told me to stay in bed for 2 weeks and then until my mother left at 3 weeks to stay in bed and take advantage of being able to stay in bed. After about a week, I asked my husband for a tv and then my computer to work and play a little. When i would get stir crazy, I'd call a friend to come over and chat with me a little while -- it helped.<br>
At the end of 2 wks, my husband refused and forcably held me from going down the stairs to do laundry. I think the mw told him that if I didn't heal properly that I'd never want to have sex again <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br>
do nothing, you deserve it (well, you'll be feeding your baby!) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I wish I could stay longer really. But my dh can only get one week off and neither my mother (too much for her to come and stay...emotionally she is very uptight and anxious. The kids would make her crazy, BUT she could actually pay for things and go to the store) and my MIL (she is much better with the kids, but is broke and would cost a lot to feed, and she hates driving so she wouldn't help with erronds and she doesn't help out with chores either) are just not options. They would do more harm than good. LOL. Oh weel, I am looking forward to my time in bed with this baby! : )<br>
Hey, is there a way to change my user name to mamaoffour? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
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