Well, first let me start out by saying that my three previous births have been dreams. BUT I always felt I had to "prove" that birth was no big deal (like it was like taking a big poop or something) and I would right away get back into the swing of things the very next day. Doing wash, going to the store (twice I did this with babies 24 hours old), cooking etc. Now this isn't to say my dh wasn't trying to help, I was just refusing to let him. Well not this time. I realized yesterday after dealing with my sick family for a week (first one kid, then my hubby and another kid) that I was so pooped out. I needed a break, but I have no relief coming until this baby is born (in about 4 weeks). So then a light went off in my head. I am going to do NOTHING!!! After this is born. NOTHING, NOT A BLOODY THING!!! I will lay in my bed with my new baby and nurse and sleep and read to my other kids andin the evening I will get out of bed and sit out in the back yard and look at my garden. I will let my dh do EVERYTHING, I will not complain and eat whatever weird things he comes up with. I will let him to the wash, and run around with the kids and me and my baby will just chill in the bed. I think I have proved enough to myself that I can do it all right after giving birth, I just know now I don't want to do that. I wanna cuddle up with my baby and change those little diapers SLOWLY. I want to introduce this little one slowly to the world. I can hardly wait!