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see my post in frugality<br>
we are in an employment at will state, basically the company doenst need a reason to fire you... DH got wind he is gone by the end of the month..<br>
this s a HUGE shocker, he is with the company 8 yrs is an upper level executive... however most of his pay was bonus and stock.... based on his take home check we qualify for WIC....<br><br>
DH is upset and sad... there is not alot of employment here in general that will pay the bills, nevermind something at DH current level.<br><br>
I have no idea what to say to DH, there is not much i can do to make this better... im Pgnt, we have 6 kids soon to be 7.. thats ALOT of mouths to feed...<br><br>
what can i do for DH...
 

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WOW <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">: thats rough.... I helped my dh fill out applications and asked friends and family if they could help us find dh a job and was just extra nice....
 

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Wow! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you both!<br><br>
I think helping him fill out applications, print resumes and mailing them will be a big help to him, and maybe some motivation. I know my dh had a hard time getting the motivation to finally take/send the applications and resumes after finishing them.<br><br>
He needed to know that I had his full support. Especially since it was going to mean a pay cut no matter what job he got.<br><br>
Reassure him that you support whatever decision he makes (where to apply) and that you love him no matter what.
 

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He needed to know that I had his full support. Especially since it was going to mean a pay cut no matter what job he got.<br><br>
Reassure him that you support whatever decision he makes (where to apply) and that you love him no matter what.</div>
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I agree with the above, I think that this is the best thing you can do for him.
 

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If I were in his shoes, I can imagine that would be a big blow to the ego....I don't know how your DH handles stress, but I'd think if it were me, I would need my partner to cut me a lot of slack while I came to terms with it all.
 

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I can't say it better!<br><br>
And, yeah, help him with his search. Look online, edit his resume, send him out the door every day and make him tell you what he did when he gets home.<br><br>
Don't let him wallow.... let him be sad, but also let him know that you still support him.<br><br>
Good luck and <<<hugs>>><br><br>
Kim
 

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just read this thread.<br>
how are things?<br>
my suggestions would be don't be afraid to move.<br>
if your area has limited jobs, then consider a different area. scary, but could be the best thing for you.<br>
also, sit down and really cut your expenses. be brutal. everything that can go, goes. that helps with some of the financial pressures....
 

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He can also look at any open positions inside the company ... ones with a different boss. Some people have been able to get out of a layoff by transferring to another boss/division. I even did it myself, once.<br><br>
He should also look at LinkedIn, a free networking site. Lots of job contacts there!
 
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