My 18 month old has coslept since birth. She has gradually become more and more restless (not to mention taller and bigger), and now she kinda manages to take up almost all of the entire king sized bed.She flops around, turns in the opposite direction, drapes herself over and on top of us, and kicks one or both of us in the head almost all night long. In addition, it requires me to lay down with her and usually nurse to get her to go to sleep, which isn't a huge deal for bedtime (although she goes to bed late) but is much more of an issue at naptime. I have an almost 3 year old who is in the process of gradually giving up the afternoon nap, and I cannot get dd2 to bed while dd1 is up. For one thing, she knows dd1 is probably doing something interesting and for another, dd1 can't "play quietly in her room" or anything like that without running in and disrupting the process. THe only thing that works at all is to put dd1 down for a nap (later than dd2 needs to go down) and then get dd2 down. But as dd1 is transitioning away from said nap, it's problematic. And I need to spend some one on one time with dd1 too! It would be nice to cuddle her or rock her to sleep. My hubby thinks we should stick her in the crib at naptime and close the door for an hour or two.... He says, "Well, dd1 was sleeping in her crib by herself at 18 months. You even let her cry a little." But they have very different personalities. DD1 was always very independent, slept fairly badly with us herself after about six months, and while she would fuss a bit, slept better and seemed to quiet better if allowed to fuss a bit when transitioning her. But dd2 is very clingy, more physically attached, anxious, insecure.... I dunno. We also knew with dd1 that dd2 was coming and I didnt want to cosleep with two, so there was incentive there. My instinct just said moving dd1 to crib was the right thing to do, but I feel like doing that to dd2 is wrong. Am I playing favorites? I dont want to do cio, but I do want all o us to sleep well and hubby to be happy. I want dd2 to get the sleep she needs during the daytime as well as at night. Ideas?