[MOMTOALEXIS]

Hi everyone, I've been off MDC for about 2 months after a failed IVF cycle in february 09. I needed time to get myself together as you all can understand. I need a little advice on what you guys think of my situation.

After our BFN only one embryo made it to freeze at day 6. We transferred 3 embies at day 4 and none took. I never even went back to RE to see what the reasoning was. Once my beta was negative I couldn't bring myself to go back there. I also had OHSS pretty bad and am still quite tramatized from it. So of course I couldn't stay away for long and went to see RE today. I would like to try and thaw out that one embie in hopes of it surving. RE will do that but he suggests we do another fresh cycle and get more to freeze from that cycle and add them together if I didn't get preggo from IVF #2.

Problem is I am petrified of getting OHSS again and I used up 3 weeks of sick time at work in Feb. and can't do that again. Eventually that one will have to be thawed and I am just hoping for the best. If it doesn't survive I feel I need a couple more months to pursue IVF #2. Does this sound crazy or should I just wait a couple months and start all over again. Nurse and RE seem to look at me like I'm nuts. Also did AP for the first time today and feel good about that. RE said my eggs looked strong and they do not have any answers of why 8 fertilized and only one made it to freeze. Maybe it's my one miracle baby. That's what I need to think right now.

Any advice would be great, this has been such a rollercoaster and we don't want to tell our family again because everyone was waiting by the phone on beta day which was too much pressure. Thanks. Hope everyone is hanging in there.

 

[gemasita]

Gosh, I don't think it's crazy at all to try putting the one back before doing another fresh cycle. Our FET was really a lot easier and cheaper than the fresh cycle and if you had OHSS last time, I would think an FET would be a lot easier on you. You hate to invest in another fresh cycle if you don't have to. I understand that they probably don't choose to put one back on a frozen cycle but it really is a lot cheaper than a fresh IVF so it's worth a try at least. Or maybe you could call another clinic for a consult and see what they would say, just to make sure that your thinking is correct about trying with that one. I'm pretty sure it's been done before!

 

[wtg4miracle]

MomtoAlexis--my gosh welcome back. I am still here. I thought I needed a break but decided to stay on here. I am sorry for the negative and the OHSS. This is hard one to decide. Knowing that your little embie went to Day 6 is really good. This might be the one for you. If you are not emotionally and physically ready for another fresh IVF I would go back and get your little baby back in you. Then after IF you have to go and do another cycle. But I am hoping you will not get that far. You were in my thoughts for a long time. Did they tell you what happened? If they have any thoughts what went wrong. I would love for you to come back and cycle with us.

 

[tessie]

Sorry to hear of your negative. It's tough to deal with, I know.

Can I ask what your clinic's stats are for frozen transfers and the stats for single and 2+ frozen embryo transfers? That would be a factor I'd consider.

I'd also consider age. Given that fresh cycles are usually better than frozen, success wise, if I was over 35 I'd give serious consideration to a fresh cycle now while my eggs were still in reasonable condition.

Did your RE give any suggestions as to how they'd try and avoid ohss next time? That would be a big factor for me.

Maybe you could compile a further list of questions and make a further appointment at the clinic? Good luck, whatever you decide.

 

[Julia'sMom]

MomtoAlexis -

I remember your cycle, as I was behind you by a couple of weeks, also turned out to be bfn (never made it to ER, but did IUI instead). This is such a heartwrenching decision. Some factors you may consider...how does the clinic do FET's? Would it be natural, or do you have to downregulate then manage a cycle with drugs before the transfer? How much time/money would be invested? How would you feel if the unfortunate situation occurred where you went to all that effort, only to not have it survive the freeze, god forbid? Did the RE have a suggestion to reduce the chances of OHSS next time? Also, why did you transfer 3 in the first time? If that's what is recommended based upon your age and diagnosis, then what are the chances of 1? Is the effort worth that chance, for you?

Personally, I might try it since my embies tend to be strong and we considered transfering one anyway. However, if I was older, I'd be leaning more towards a fresh cycle. Note that I have not had OHSS, so that is a whole other consideration you have.

 

[nummies]

momtoalexis- I have been wondering about you,

. I am so sorry for everything that you have been through. I would also want to at least try with the one embie before doing another fresh cycle.

 

[MOMTOALEXIS]

Thanks so much for all the responses.

Tessie- I will be turning 32 so I'm thinking I still have some time to wait for another fresh cycle. Re said he would stim me much slower at a lower dose to avoid OHSS. Still not convinced though, it wasn't easy explaining to dd why I looked 9 months pregnant overnight.

. I'm also not sure of their FET success rate but I am def. going to fing out. Thanks for the tips.

Jm-Congrats to you first of all. You two have been through so much and deserve your BFP so much. We decided to put back 3 because RE said one was very good and the other two were ok. I don't think he thought that one frozen embie would of made it. I was suppose to have a 5dt but the office called me on day 4 and told me to come in , i guess just incase they didn't make it to day 5. I already had symptoms of OHSS and the RE had a hard time finding mu uterus due to my ovaries being so large they were in the way. Wonder if he should of done the transfer. But too late, should of could of never helps.

GEM-Your words were extremely inspiring. You are too cute. Good Luck to you with this cycle. I hope this is it for you.

So I'm gonna start estrogen pills tonight and nurse said if i change my mind it's not a big deal i could just stop the pills. It won't cost much at all for the cycle. One injection of cetrotide(have to look that up still) and then just PIO.

 

[Julia'sMom]

Sound like a good plan! Good luck and may this be your miracle embie.

p.s. There is a FET thread, if you want to get some more support.

 

[crazyrunningmama]

Hi there! I have done 2 fresh IVF cycles and am in the middle of my 4th FET cycle. If I were in your shoes, I think I'd lean towards doing the FET, especially if you are freaked out about doing another fresh cycle so soon. You could look at it as doing a FET while you wait til you're in a place where you'd be ready for another IVF cycle. FET's are a lot cheaper and easier on your body, for sure. Good luck and come on over to the FET thread if you like!!

 

[MOMTOALEXIS]

Just wanted to update and thank everyone for responding, it really helped make my decision easier. We went ahead and transferred our one lonely embryo. It survived beautifully the re said, he was shocked himself and said it was a gamble that paid off. Everything was great until today. Had ET on 5/13/09 and got our first BFP 0n 5/22/09 after 20 months of ttc. But the good news didn't last long. BFN today. Chemical Pregnancy. This has got to be the cruelest joke anyone can play on someone. I somehow bounced back after our failed IVF pretty well. But this I will never bounce back from, pregnant for just a weekend. While it is nice to know that we can get pregnant it does not ease the pain even a lil. Dh is completely done and has given up. He is crushed. He spent the whole weekend telling me he is going to be the best father ever, i never seen him so happy. He has lost all hope and I am right there with him. We need to get our life back and end the battle. Thanks for all your support through the year and good luck to everyone in this horrible struggle.

 

[DaisyMae08]

I am so, so sorry to hear that. How absolutely devastating for both you and your husband.

 

[poetgirl]

I am very very sad to hear this. You are in my thoughts.

 

[nummies]

I'm so sorry.

 

[crazyrunningmama]

I am so sorry. Please take care of yourself.

 

[wtg4miracle]

Oh MtA--

I am so sorry to hear this. I know this is so painful and heartwrenching. I hope you can find some peace in all of this. Its so sad to see that you finally get the bfp and its taken away from you so quickly. I just don't understand why this happens to the best of us. I hope the summer will be better for you guys.