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Whoooo boy. I just had an interesting conversation with the mom of the little boy I babysit (I'll call her L). L is finishing her masters this summer, so I'm watching her baby AND her older 2 boys from June 1 until Baby Boy arrives. All this really involves is shuttling to and from daycamps, so it's not a big deal, and it will keep me busy. But...........she's going to start working in the Real World, meaning outside of campus life, after her GA-ship is done in mid August. And, she's asked if I'm interested in continuing to watch her LO. Right now I do 15 hours a week, give or take a few, but it would increase to 30 if I did this. And she's not sure if it would be 5 mornings or 3 full days. I'll have my own 2 month old and my toddler, who will be not quite 2 1/2. I know that licensed home daycare providers do this all the time, but it seems to me that I'm going to be very, very tired. The income is really my primary reason - we NEED the money I bring in. We don't just want it, we NEED it.<br><br>
Am I crazy??? I'm getting a kick ass double stroller this weekend, and Mom is buying me an Ergo when she gets back from her vacation. I'll have an extra, appropriate carseat that I could use if I needed to pop the kids in the car and drive around town for a bit of diversion (think bank drivethrough and then a few minutes of sanity cruising), and we have a large patio and backyard area for play, plus a big community playroom and a great outdoor playground all just literally across the street. Heck, I might have just talked myself into not freaking out about it.
 

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Bethany,<br>
This sounds like wonderful news if the little one fits well into your family and you are up to it! I babysat when my kids were little for extra income to give me the oppurtunity to stay home with my kids.<br>
I don't you are crazy at all, we do what we have to for our kids and if adding an extra one that works well with your kids is the way to do it then <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli">: yeah for you! I am so happy that this will take some financial strain off!
 

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Now that I'm thinking about it, I really do hope she finds a half or 3/4 time job that will work for her schedule and mine. I don't think I could handle fulltime with another baby, although I could be wrong. And T will be in school most of the day, so it may not be as hard as I like to try to convince myself it will. Look at <a href="http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v119/bdavis337/?action=view&current=DSCF0639.jpg" target="_blank">THIS PICTURE</a> of MT and TR playing - they just adore each other!
 

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AWWWW that is so cute Bethany! I think half the battle is the kids getting along and like I said if the little one fits then you are so lucky! When I babysat I had one little girl that did not fit with our family, her mama's parenting also did not fit with my parenting so in the end it was a disaster!
 

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I'm really fortunate that this mom, while a bit more mainstream than I in many areas, has similar parenting processes and expectations for her family. So our kids mesh together really well. Our only real differences are co-sleeping and napping, which is really an easily left alone subject that doesn't matter anyway. Well, ok, vaxxing is a big deal to her. She brings it up a lot - I'm delaying and selectively vaxxing MT, and she's worried about it effecting her son. Which makes me laugh a bit - b/c if HE'S vaxxed, then it shouldn't matter what MT might be a carrier for. But I digress..........
 

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Does your 2.5 yr old still takes naps? If they don't, you're going to be tired anyways and if you're up you might as well make some extra income.<br><br>
I think that will be the hardest part, just being so tired all the time. My almost 3 yr old gave up his nap about 3 mos ago and it SUCKS. Besides the fact that I don't have my free time anymore or time for myself to nap, I was REALLY hoping that I could get him and the baby on the same schedule so I could get a break. Oh well, not gonna happen. So for me, I know I would be completely exhausted but with no chance of getting a rest anyways then adding another kid in there wouldn't really matter and at least I could make myself feel better by buying myself something lol.
 

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He still naps, mid day, for about 2 hours. He really needs it, so I doubt it will disappear anytime soon (I hope!) He'll be 2 next month, and 2 1/4 when the baby is born.
 

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Bethany, I think you will find the other child there a great relief as far as having a playmate for your lo during the day while you're caring for the new baby. I would definately do it, so long as everyone got along, the mom was responsible (didn't leave the kid in your care more than necessary/agreed upon, yk?) and offered decent pay. I actually LIKE and volunteer to keep my neices/nephews/friend's kids on the weekend, just so Braden will have someone to play with (which keeps him out of MY hair for a little while!) It's *VERY* hard to have an only--they require LOTS of entertainment, and I think with MT there by himself, without a someone to 'play' with, it will be more stressful than if there were an extra kid (built in playmate) there for his entertainment...<br><br>
Good Luck! It sounds like a really great opportunity, actually!<br><br>
Alayna
 
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