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My friend (we are in early stages of dating) lost his mother about 18 months ago. He is spending today in another state with his brother and SIL. I would like to acknowledge mother's day with him and any emotions he may be feeling but I'm not sure if I should and if so, what to say.<br><br>
Any advice on what to say to him and how (call, text, etc.)? I don't want to intrude on a personal time but I also want to give him the chance to talk if he wants to...<br><br>
Should I try to call? Should I send a text?<br><br>
I was planning on calling around noonish but I think he will not pick up his phone. If he doesn't pick up, I was going to text saying: "I know you are thinking and reflecting on your mother today. I know it may not be an easy day for you but I am here if you want to talk."
 

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I think your plan sounds good... only I think I might skip the call attempt. Just send the text and then be totally ready to pick up the phone if he calls <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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i personally don't think a text message is appropriate for any "heavy" conversation. everyone has different opinions, but i think a call would be better if you want to reach out to him.
 

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I was going to say text, but I think if you're dating I would call. If he doesn't answer, leave a message just saying that you were thinking about him and you're there if he wants to talk.<br><br>
ETA: If he does answer, say something along the same lines "I was just thinking about you, and wanted to let you know I'm here if you want to talk. How are you doing?"
 
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