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Hi there,<br><br>
I just wanted to share a modest success with you all, just in case some of you are facing the same issues and might get some help from our experience.<br><br>
A while back, I posted that we were having a really hard time putting ds, 2, to bed. He was really fighting being put to sleep- he'd asked to be nursed but then would just goof around; then he'd ask for dp and goof around some more, eventually asking to nurse again. It went on and on and was exhausting for all of us.<br><br>
We'd been thinking ds was just napping too late and were restricting his nap so that he was always awake by 3:00. This meant he was often napping for barely an hour and a bit. And I was obsessesed with getting him to bed earlier (like by 8:30 at the latest). So we had him up by 6:30, napping no later than 3:00 and then trying to put him to bed earlier. It just wasn't working.<br><br>
Despite all the freakin' sleep books we've read that say an agitated kid at bedtime is usually overtired, we were shortchanging him on his nap in hopes that he would fall asleep earlier and with greater ease. WRONG! One day I let him sleep later for whatever reason and he was a different child that night. He enjoyed his evening with us and went to bed calmly after I nursed him and handed him off to dp. Now we let him sleep much longer in the afternoon (it was 2.5 hours today), and while he does go to sleep a bit later, it's not a battle AND he sleeps in until about 7 in the morning. I can't tell you how much this has improved our lives. And it's not even like he was a total nightmare before, just a little difficult. Now, it's so much better.<br><br>
It seems we've found a routine and schedule that are better suited to his own biorhythms or whatever. The books say they should be in bed early, but this time seems to really work for him. And I can't tell you how much I appreciate the longer nap! I really needed that.<br><br>
Anyhow, thanks for reading this. I hope we continue on this path and I hope this post contains something that may be able to make someone's nights a little better.
 

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Great news!<br><br>
This is yet another example of follow the kid, not the book.<br><br>
dd has never slept like "they" said she should <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
-Angela
 

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<span>Congrat's, Momma, & thanks for sharing! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I have to say, I agree with you about the time thing. My son has ALWAYS been a night-owl! He was born late at night, and I guess he just never got over it. He's almost 1.5 years, and 9pm is the EARLIEST he ever gets to sleep. We tried the "sleep schedule" thing for a little while- but like you said, it was a battle almost every time & I think the earliest he got to sleep on that was 8:30. Now we just let him do his own thing- he naps when he wants & we just keep an eye on him around 9:00 to see when we think it's time to put him to bed. Often the later we let him stay up the easier it is to get him down & the better he sleeps. Case-in-point, last night he went down at 10:30 (I didn't even get half way through his Dr. Seuss book) & he only woke ONCE- at 6am!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></span>
 

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Thanks for posting your story. I know that the books aren't always right, but I've been anything/everything to help us sleep. My DS is 6 mo and to say he's not a good sleeper is an understatement...<br><br>
For months I've been trying to get an earlier bedtime to work, but nothing seemed to help. He would just resist. Recently, I've just been "going with the flow" and he goes to sleep around 8:30pm...still wakes about 4 times a night, which is better than before.<br><br>
I can't wait for that seemingly elusive "sleeping<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sleeping.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sleeping"> through the night"...
 

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I'm glad you found something that works for all of you! It's so frustrating when the "expert advice" just makes it worse.
 
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