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"got distracted" and let your baby fall off the picnic bench.<br>
I am sooooooo mad at here. NEVER again will she hold her grand daughter. thank god my FIL was standing to the side of her and has really good reflexes. my dd is only 9 mo old. YOU HAVE TO HOLD HER!!!!!!!!!!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/argue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="argue">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/rant.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rant">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/soapbox.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="soapbox"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hammer.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hammer"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hammer.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hammer"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hammer.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hammer"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hammer.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hammer"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hammer.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hammer"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hammer.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hammer"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/splat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="splat"><br><br>
OK what would you do!!!!!!!!!!!!! this is the second time she has let her "fall over"<br>
She was a toddler teacher for 10 years!!!!!!! what's up!!!<br>
help I am sooo mad. I don't want to see her for another 10 years. but she lives 7 mins away <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br>
ok kids fall, I know that, but if you look at the %age. she gets to hold her like 0.25 % of this childs life. she has never fallen off anything with DH or me or anyone else for that matter (she rolled and done stuff like that, she has a 4 year old sister and they play all the time) but this is different. this is falling on the head and needing to go to the doctor. SO! all the falling is done in this 0.25%
 

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YIKES....poor baby!! Honestly, I'd just avoid letting MIL hold dd in places she's likely to fall. You actually probably only have a couple more months left to worry about it...after that, she'll probably get up and walk away from MIL if she gets distracted... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Was she remorseful? My sister was watching DS and he fell off the couch (I was actually in the room but doing some work and looked up just in time to see it). DS was fine (cried for just a minute, but was easily comforted and had no bumps or bruises), but my sister was a wreck! She was practically in tears and felt awful... Things like that happen sometimes.
 

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I hate to have to admit it, but my babe fell off the bed before under my watch. Sometimes these things happen--and it hurts so bad when they do! I agree with Queen of Cups--if she's remorseful and it was truly just an accident, that's something different than her being neglectful. Is MIL older and having trouble holding onto a wiggly baby? If that's the case, maybe just suggest that they play together on the floor. Or even better, show MIL how to sling her!<br><br>
If MIL is careless and neglectful, I wouldn't let her have my dc. Period.
 

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I agree with PP's...if she's remorseful, accidents DO happen. My babe has fallen under my watch too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> The first night home from the hospital I fell asleep with him in my arms and he fell.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl">
 

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Yeah, that's a tough one. After you take a deep breath and can calm down, try and look back to what happened. I would be totally pissed too but accidents really do happen. My dh fell on the stairs with our dd and fell on top of her!!!!!!! I was so scared (she was totally fine, not a bump/scrape/bruise) then really pissed because he was carrying dishes up the stairs with baby girl. grrrrrrrr. He felt TERRIBLE but I do often remind him to focus on one thing at a time. He was almost in tears when it happened.<br><br>
I understand how you feel though. I would probably be really close by for a while when mil is around. If she is totally neglectful and not sorry (oh no big deal, it happens) then I would either avoid her or be really direct and state your feelings about this.<br><br>
hope your little one is feeling better!
 

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that's the thing. I came back 2 hours later to get some things and she says "I am really sorry, I got distracted, but I can't promise it won't happen again" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/huh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="huh"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/duh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="duh"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/footinmouth.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="footinmouth"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:<br>
I told her "THAT IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME"<br>
it was a concrete walk way that the picnic table was on. you should always have one hand on the baby.<br><br>
I am taking some time-out from her. she is in her 50's and not old, just a space case.<br><br>
thanks for your support. it really helped me.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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"I am really sorry, I got distracted, but <b>I can't promise it won't happen again</b>"<br><br>
I normally would have said that accidents happen and not to worry about it, but that second part of the statement screams to me, "don't let her hold that baby!"
 

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I can't imagine what I would say if my mil said, sorry I got distracted, cant promise it wont happen again!!!!!!????!<br><br>
That's just wrong!<br><br>
I might be tempted to get 'distracted' and 'accidently' kick her in the shins.<br><br>
But seriously, I might say, something to her like:<br>
Well, if you can't be sure that you won't get distracted, maybe its better if you don't watch my child. Little ones are always on the move you know! ( I would keep it as upbeat and 'cheerful' as you possibly can....let your husband tell her she is being crazy...she will likely take it better from her son than from you)<br><br>
Im SO SORRY!
 
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