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What's the difference between gentle weaning and CL weaning?

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DD is 26 months and I am so happy to say we are still nursing. She is VERY attached to her nursies and now likes to pick her side. LOL.

I was one of those mamas who wanted to go for 6 weeks. Then 6 months. Then a year. Then 2. Now I just say whenever she's ready. But I am not sure I really want that - I mean, she is SO attached to nursing that I could see her nursing until she is 4 or 5 and right now I can't imagine that. I admire mamas who can do it.

IS there a way to gently wean when she is 2-1/2 or 3? Or at that point is it going to be impossible to wean her and I will have to let her wean herself? I am not overly concerned about it because my feelings about it may change - just as they have up to this point.

So - what is your experience? Should I start gently weaning her now? What made you decide to do CL weaning as opposed to gentle weaning?

Thanks for the input!
1 - 3 of 3 Posts sounds as if you have followed your heart so far, why are you worried about nursing her longer now? Nothing magical happens between 2 and 3 or 3 and 4 to make it more difficult to wean. To me, it is like all of the child's needs, the more you meet them, the more independent they grow, not more dependent.

It sounds like your dd is very attached to you and her nursing. That's a wonderful thing. To answer your question re: "gentle weaning" vs. child led weaning is that one is initiated by you and the other is determined by the needs of the child. LLL has a saying re: weaning, "don't offer, don't refuse."

Your relationship with your dd ill change as she grows and her nursing "pattern" may change also. You may find it is a good way to remain connected as she continues to grow. There is nothing magical about nursing a 4 or 5 y/o, it is just listening to your heart and to your child.
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All I can say is "Ditto to that!". Joan, you said it perfectly.

Just take it one day at a time. If you are busy thinking of the future then you might miss out on the beauty of the present.
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