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I told dh to remind me someday when I want to have more kids: I feel great physically, but emotionally this pregnancy has been ROUGH. No morning sickness or other ailments, but I've been a real mess psychologically. I'm seeing my therapist more regularly and I'm meditating, but still. It's a day to day thing.
 

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The stress. I had two early miscarriages last year and even though everything is right on track and I've seen the baby's h/b several times it'a hard not to fret a little. I can't wait until I feel regular kicks and movement to reassure me.<br><br>
Also being tired. I'm just wiped out this time. Hoping for more energy soon!!
 

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i'm sorta the opposite. i'm doing mostly great emotionally but physically this pregnancy has been so hard on me. i used to walk everyplace often i would walk 6 miles to get where i was going and now walking around the block just wears me out and really sever nausea that makes it hard to leave the house at all on some days. i guess emotionally i have mostly been fine but after feeling icky physically for a while it starts to wear me down emotionally to. i had planned to see my therapist less often because of how hard it is on me to go there and back but she is moving to another country this summer so i have continued to go twice a week except i have had to cancel a number of times because i was to sick. so the hardest part for me is the nausea and fatigue<br><br>
i hope you feel better psychologically soon yumadoula
 

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So far the hardest thing for me is that I had to stop wearing my toddler in the ergo and start using the stroller (I carry my babies really low, and the ergo waistband is really uncomfortable now when it presses on my belly).<br><br>
I know that doesn't sound like a big deal, but with our urban lifestyle it makes me feel almost like a shut-in... we can still walk to everything in walking distance, but since it's so much more of a hassle to take a bus or streetcar with a stroller, we aren't getting to the arboretum, the beach, museums, music class, etc. as often as we were, and it's more of a hassle to visit friends too.
 

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Mood swings have been dangerous this time. Physically I've been fine. Just today I had to take ds out of the sling, because it was hurting my tummy where I had just ate.
 

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Definitely fatigue and "pregnancy brain". I had to push a couple of really important deadlines back because I can't concentrate or write as well as normal.
 

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The nausea and exhaustion. And due to the nausea/exhaustion of HG, the depression that comes with it.
 

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The fatigue. I wish my toddler could sleep at night. Each time he wakes up, it takes me an hour or so to go back to sleep. I'm so sleep deprived that it makes me worry for the baby.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">So far the hardest thing for me is that I had to stop wearing my toddler in the ergo and start using the stroller (I carry my babies really low, and the ergo waistband is really uncomfortable now when it presses on my belly).<br><br>
I know that doesn't sound like a big deal, but with our urban lifestyle it makes me feel almost like a shut-in... we can still walk to everything in walking distance, but since it's so much more of a hassle to take a bus or streetcar with a stroller, we aren't getting to the arboretum, the beach, museums, music class, etc. as often as we were, and it's more of a hassle to visit friends too.</div>
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Have you tried the waist extension belt to make it long enough that you can really get just the strap under your belly? Would that help at all?<br><br>
For me, the hardest part of this pregnancy is all the stress from everything else we have going on. 1) I just started up a new babywearing business (well, redid my existing business, but basically from scratch) and there is SO MUCH to do. 2) I have to take the NJ state bar at the end of July if I'm ever going to practice law in this state. Fun fun fun. 3) We're moving from our rental apartment to the house we just closed on in a month. 4) Plus the joys/stresses of raising two little kids.<br><br>
If it was just one thing, or two things, I would be better equipped to deal, but as it is I feel like I can just put one foot in front of the other most days and I don't know how it's going to be in a couple of weeks when the rubber really hits the road and we have to pack up at the same time that I have to buckle down to study.<br><br>
It's hard not to resent my dh sometimes for his job transfer that brought us here, away from an awesome house that we'd redone and absolutely loved, away from so many friends I'd made, away from a great city for me to start my legal career back up some day, to a place where it's more expensive to live, where I don't know anyone, where his commute is twice as long.....<br><br>
It's just hard to enjoy the pregnancy and look forward to the new baby with all this crap going on.<br><br>
Sorry, majorly vented! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/fever.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Fever">:
 

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I am a kind of small person and I can already get it extended far enough without the extension that it slips all the way down over my hips and falls off... the problem is that I carry my babies really low and my belly bump basically starts all the way down by my pubic bone. So there just isn't any place to put the strap where it isn't cutting into my belly bump and hurting. I also can't wear "below the belly" maternity pants because they aren't below *my* belly, and seat belts in cars bother me too, even if I push them way down low. Thanks for the suggestion though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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The physical stuff has been really bad for me. I am also really having some mental issues this time too. Another thing is I am going through that whole "How will I be able to love another baby as much as the first thing." People always say that of course you do, but it just isn't helping.
 

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I would have to say the physical fatigue. I can be on my feet around the house for about half an hour, then I have to rest before I do more. I changed sheets in shifts the other day because I was so winded from doing just one bed. So consequently I alternate work and housework and neither gets done as efficiently.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The physical stuff has been really bad for me. I am also really having some mental issues this time too. Another thing is I am going through that whole "How will I be able to love another baby as much as the first thing." People always say that of course you do, but it just isn't helping.</div>
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I went through that when I was preg w/ #2 also. You won't believe it or get it until the baby's born. Hearing other ppl tell me I'd love #2 the same as #1 was just not helpful at all. You have to experience it.
 

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The emotional stuff for me, too. lots of crying. "I don't know how to be me anymore," I was sobbing all night. Sex is the one thing that makes it better, restores me to my senses.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am a kind of small person and I can already get it extended far enough without the extension that it slips all the way down over my hips and falls off... the problem is that I carry my babies really low and my belly bump basically starts all the way down by my pubic bone. So there just isn't any place to put the strap where it isn't cutting into my belly bump and hurting. I also can't wear "below the belly" maternity pants because they aren't below *my* belly, and seat belts in cars bother me too, even if I push them way down low. Thanks for the suggestion though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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I have this low bump thing too. No pants fit right and I couldn't use the Moby or the Ergo immediately after I became pregnant.<br><br>
That is a sad part for me, but the worst is the nursing situation with DS. It has been heartbreaking.
 

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For me I think it's been the fatigue that I can't seem to shake. I have SO much that I need to get done, especially because I already have chronic health issues that interfere. But now, I feel like a total failure as a mother and wife because I can do so little! Somedays it seems to get better, then I have a day like today where I'm sick and can do NOTHING. Thankfully DH is being really sweet today, but I know he's totally sick of my being so tired all the time.<br><br>
I'm praying for an energy boost so I can clean my house, unpack rooms, get prepped for the baby, AND run my business!!<br><br>
tamagotchi, have you tried a wrap tied in such a way that it goes over your shoulders and NOT around your belly? I was at a babywearing/NINO meeting Saturday and they showed me how to carry DS that way. I ended up with NOTHING on my belly, but a decent carry for him! It was the first time I'd tried, so I think I'd do even better if I kept practicing. I think the Ergo would be pretty uncomfy for me at this point, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I have been carrying DS2 (2.5yrs, 30lbs) in a pouch, but I dunno that I could do it for an extended period of time.
 

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Hmm, I've been really lucky physically. And the extreme tiredness has mostly passed. I'm still hungry a lot, but not to the point of feeling ill as often.<br><br>
I guess the hardest for me is wondering, should we have waited a bit longer? Is DS going to be able to handle this? Am I? This was totally planned and wanted, but I still second guess myself. And I feel guilty, because, sometimes I forget I'm pg...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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I am tired, sick and still freaking out about miscarriage. I haven't miscarried and so I figure it's going to happen to me some time. I haven't been able to go to my groups for the past month to get me to quit freaking out about it. I'm also 15 weeks now and still sick. I threw up yesterday for the second time but usually I am just sick, all day long.<br>
I want to exercise so I can be ins some sort of shape for labor but if I push too hard I get bad bh. So Annoying!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I feel great physically, but emotionally this pregnancy has been ROUGH.</div>
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The same goes for me. It seems that everything sets me off these days. There are moments when I just want to move far away from everyone and just be by myself for a day or two. *sigh* Hopefully it will go away soon.
 
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