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The most important is intelligence.<br><br>
Other important things are open mindedness, respectful, communicative, devoted, and funny.<br><br>
You know, looks can be important. I've been involved with people I was not physically attracted to... even downright repulsed by. I cringe now if I see them out and about. Just because you feel you're better looking than somebody, and you're a better person, does not mean that they'll treat you right to keep their prize. I think that's what I had in mind when I got involved there.<br><br>
I am madly physically attracted to my BF now. I think he's *HOT*. Some people might not agree cuz he's a big guy, but that's what I like about him.
 

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'Good looking' is pretty relative to me. What I do need is funny (or thinks I'm funny <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: ), awareness, some sort of spirituality, intelligence and must love my kid. People get better looking to me the more they show the above attributes.<br><br>
Oh, but I DO need to be sexually attracted to them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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Friendship - laughing at the same things, enjoying the same things, and having fun.<br><br>
I knew my bf for a year before I ever started looking at him in a romantic sense. We were good friends and I was not physically attracted to him at first although there was a tremendous mental attraction if that makes any sense. Over time the mental attraction lead to a physical attraction (especially after he started working out and losing weight <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">) and its awesome! Being friends first and foremost is a very powerful, wonderful thing.
 

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Respect and compassion are big ones! A general awareness and sense of caring for social and environmental issues.<br><br>
Looks aren't that important to me as far as first impressions etc., though I don't think I could be in a long-term relationship with someone who I wasn't physically attracted to.
 

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I have a odd opinion on this topic. I've been attracted to men because of looks, but those men<br>
haven't turned into something special. The long term relationships I have been in their looks<br>
was not what first attracted me to them, it was a conversation. I'm usually taken by surprise<br>
when I'm really attracted to a person, it comes on suddenly when they say something I'm drawn<br>
to. Usually something personally intelligent, like an opinion of theirs. Then all of a sudden angels<br>
sing and I look at them like "WOW your cute", when before it was "ah, their okay".<br><br>
I do go for a type usually. I like messy boys, tattoos, a casual unique look, but I've also dating<br>
uptight tucking their shirts in their jeans boys, cause they said something I liked. So for me it's<br>
all about how they look at the world, and express themselves.<br><br>
It's funny cause if I was asked to create my perfect looks type it's a really easy list to active.<br>
1) taller than me (5'10)<br>
2) brunette<br>
3) heavier rather than thinly built.<br><br>
I have never dated a person with all three traits, and I see this type of man constantly.
 

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Honesty, respect and compassion!<br><br>
After that there is a few other things...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"><br>
Funny and he also has to think I´m funny, I´m kinda funny <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I have to be umm...sexually attracted to him, I think dreads are sexy or no hair, a kinda "shabby" look, you know? And tattoos! And I like a guy who doesn´t know he´s sexy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> Oh, now I´m dreaming.<br><br>
He has to be crunchy!! Like me! I don´t think that´s too much to ask! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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There are many things I look for-<br>
He has to be Jewish, dark hair, tall(generally 6'0'' or over). I typically date Israelis and I have always only dated Military or Policeman. Sounds like a fetish and maybe it is but my entire family are Police and I went to school for it so it just works out that way.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"><br>
Likes kids and wants kids( since I want more) is certainly important now.<br>
They have to be attractive but not stunning.<br>
In good shape but can have a few extra pounds- generally I like muscular guys.<br>
Religious(Jewish of course)....<br>
Romantic<br>
Very Masculine<br>
Very traditional and old fashioned<br>
Conservative- in just about everyway including politics.
 

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Trust. Respect and honesty follow very closely behind. But trust is the most important to me (if you're not being honest to me I don't trust you. If you don't respect me I don't trust you).<br><br>
Of course, there are many other things I look for in a partner. But trust is the biggie <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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