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I have a friend who does everything with her homeschooled children. Just yesterday she was asking me if I wanted to drive an hour for this 45 minute presentation that they give homeschoolers a discount for. bad example since I am actually pretty excited about that oneut that is but one example of the 15-20 things she invites me to each week, and some are as far away as 2-3 hours. there even if she has to fudge her childrens ages. she also has them in lessons and stuff. and they are at every homeschool event and always have friends over (not complianing - my dds are often said frieds :LOL) Always running from one event, lesson, craft, museum etc. . . to another. i t is insane.<br><br>
It seems really crazy. I actually hadto volenteer to host stuff in my home to ensure my children get there :LOL I am so laid back andhave nno desire to take my children all over town. Especially to something free where there are going to be crowds of people. we try to keep it to one consistant homeschool event a week (girl scout, gym, ), one athletic endevor (snowboarding, swimming), one thing at our gym, one church activityand one other activity like a field trip or party. And that just feels really busy to me.<br><br>
it is hard for me to keep a handle on homeschooling events. I want her to be social and have friends but at the same time I don't want to overschedule. it just seems like homeschoolers, or at least me and the crowd I run with) try to over compensate to provet o people that our children don't lack oppritunities and friends. Also it seems a bit like since we do have time to do more we start stacking things on our plate without thinking about how much we really need. and of course there is always so many good things to choose from which doesn't help.<br><br>
What do you guys think is a good amount of activity for homeschooled children? what do you think overscheduled would look like? how do you draw the line without being the big meany? I mean there is a lot of really great stuff going on. of course my friends dd always invites my dd without asking me first and then I have to tell her no, you have enough going on this week. we need to be home some.<br><br>
just curious on what your thought were.
 

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I'm with you. We do a fair amount, but it is all really local, and I am careful about scheduling things so all the things on the same day are in the same directions. Neither my kids nor I do well when we do much more.<br><br>
I know a few families like you describe, and I find them to be frustrating. It seems these same families often also do a lot of volunteer work, and they are often not doing what they need to do for their volunteer groups. They are overextended, IMO. I never arrange playdates with these people because they are always cancelling on me because there is so much going on or they all get really sick because they just can't take it anymore.<br><br>
I think everyone has their own limits of what is too much or too little and has to find what works for them and their family.<br><br>
For us too much is overwhelming and too little is depressing (at least I get depressed -- my children just get bored and fussy). I know we are going too far to one extreme or the other when I am feeling either overwhelmed or depressed and then I change things.
 

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I think it just depends on your family. I would prefer to stay home most days, and my son is like me. My dd would go somewhere every day, though. We compromise, and I think it meets everyone's needs. For us, one sport/class/playgroup/whatever a week on a regular basis plus the incidentals of life is fine. For others it may not be, though.
 

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Q: What do you guys think is a good amount of activity for homeschooled children?<br><br>
A: Whatever that particular family is happy with.<br><br>
Q: what do you think overscheduled would look like?<br><br>
A: If the kids or parents are unhappy and stressed out.<br><br>
Q: how do you draw the line without being the big meany?<br><br>
A: Thankfully my dd has not shown much interest in lots of organized activities <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> She's giving soccer a try this fall and that's it so far.<br><br>
I am a lot like you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> However, I don't think a full plate is a bad thing. It depends on the family. For myself and my dd a full plate IS a bad thing. We get stressed if we attend more than 2 or 3 "activities" in a week. At the same time, I know (aquaintence) a homeschooling mom and dd who do at LEAST one organized activity a DAY (weekdays - maybe they rest on the weekends?). The mom and dd are quite happy that way! Me? I would explode after one week of that. If my dd didn't take me out with a major meltdown <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> For me, being able to relax is one of the benefits of homeschooling <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I agree that it really depends on your family. Rain's passion is musical theatre, and her ambition is to be a sucessful actress in the genre. So, we have rehearsals up to 4 or 5 days a week until a show opens, and then performances 3 days a week, and by then she may be rehearsing another show... and she takes dance classes (3x a week) and sometimes voice lessons... and then homeschoolers clay class, because it's the most wonderful unschooling clay class with a tecaher she loves... and we do occasional homeschool events and lots of getting together with friends.<br><br>
She thrives on this, I could do with less. When she's doing two shows at once it gets overwhelming for both of us at times, so we slack on everything else for a while.<br><br>
She's clearly driving this, though. It sounds like the person you know is maintaining this full scheudle because she wants things that way, not necessarily because her kids are asking for all these activities. I think that makes a difference.<br><br>
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I think that it depends on the family. I know that it wouldn't work for us. We have a lot of stuff that we do, Monday park day with our Ap group, Tuesday homeschool park day, Wednesday AP parkday, Friday swimming at the lagoon. It's nice to know that all of these things are available to us, but we pick and choose what to do on a daily basis. If we feel like staying home, we do <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Some weeks we're feeling very social and do everything, other weeks there will be days that Gavin and Avery get so caught up in playing together that I don't dare disturb them. I keep my eyes open for interesting activities going on in the community, but we rarely drive more than 30 minutes to get to them. The one exception is the Natural History Museum up in Los Angeles which is free the first Tuesday of the month. The kids are usually begging to go up there, so we try to do that whenever possible and it's a 45 minute drive. There is a very active homeschooling group in the southern portion of our county, but I don't want to have to get on the freeway and drive 45 minutes in order for the kids to participate in their activities and park days. We're hoping that the local homeschooling group here in our city picks up and gets more active.
 
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