That's a tough one. He's probably learned this from the boys in school, not neccessarily from being picked on. It was probably best that he didn't cry right then, as he would have been humiliated by that other boy. I don't think you are being over protective. Maybe you could talk to him about expressing his feelings in a safe place, such as at home with you. In fact, it might be better coming from his dad, as he will relate more to a man. Boys are tricky, aren't they? I wish I could be more help. Try to get Daddy to talk to him "man to man".
"what's wrong? BABY! You gonna cry?!"
GRRRRRR
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DS - 4 was playing in a moon bounce with a bunch of other kids. They got playfully pushy - all of them bumping into eachother and nocking eachother around (something I wasn't happy with but let it go on for a while since they all seemed to be doing it "nicely" ya know?) Well wouldn't you know DS got his head nocked and he started holding back the tears by huffing and puffing (something he just started doing and it kinda bothers me because I don't mind if he crys when he's hurt and I don't know why he suddenly wants to hold them back). Anyway, this other kid (about 5-6) comes up and gets in his face and starts pushing him saying in that mean voice "What's wrong BABY! You gonna cry!?" I let it go the first time, but he kept pushing and getting in DS's face so I pipe up and in my most effective drill sergent voice I say "Hey, no pushing! All of you!" to both DS, and the little boy, and everyone else involved.
So when do kids start trying not to cry? Is this normal for DS, or do you think other kids at school have been picking on him? He has said "only babies cry" to me before. To which I replied, "no, it's not nice to whine and cry when you don't get your way, but everybody cries when they are sad or hurt. Mommy cries, daddy cries, everybody cries."
Part of me knows that he's naturally going to want to "toughen" up at some point, but I'm not sure when. On the one hand, I don't want to hold him back, but on the other I don't want him to toughen up too much too soon. Am I being over-protective?
DS - 4 was playing in a moon bounce with a bunch of other kids. They got playfully pushy - all of them bumping into eachother and nocking eachother around (something I wasn't happy with but let it go on for a while since they all seemed to be doing it "nicely" ya know?) Well wouldn't you know DS got his head nocked and he started holding back the tears by huffing and puffing (something he just started doing and it kinda bothers me because I don't mind if he crys when he's hurt and I don't know why he suddenly wants to hold them back). Anyway, this other kid (about 5-6) comes up and gets in his face and starts pushing him saying in that mean voice "What's wrong BABY! You gonna cry!?" I let it go the first time, but he kept pushing and getting in DS's face so I pipe up and in my most effective drill sergent voice I say "Hey, no pushing! All of you!" to both DS, and the little boy, and everyone else involved.
So when do kids start trying not to cry? Is this normal for DS, or do you think other kids at school have been picking on him? He has said "only babies cry" to me before. To which I replied, "no, it's not nice to whine and cry when you don't get your way, but everybody cries when they are sad or hurt. Mommy cries, daddy cries, everybody cries."
Part of me knows that he's naturally going to want to "toughen" up at some point, but I'm not sure when. On the one hand, I don't want to hold him back, but on the other I don't want him to toughen up too much too soon. Am I being over-protective?
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I'm not sure where they pick that up from, but sad to say, I think it's just a pervasive attitude in our society. Weird, huh? We say "only babies cry" and then use CIO to make sure they do!
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As for what happened, my mama bear instinct started raging just reading that. I probably would have told that boy off, and said something to make him feel silly for saying that, like "who told you that? that's such nonsense! and how mean of you to tease someone like that!".
As for what happened, my mama bear instinct started raging just reading that. I probably would have told that boy off, and said something to make him feel silly for saying that, like "who told you that? that's such nonsense! and how mean of you to tease someone like that!".
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