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DS used to go to bed sooooo easily most nights (around 7pm), even after weaning. But ever since the time change, dh getting home earlier and my MIL coming to live with us, NOTHING about our old routine is the same!!<br><br>
We try to read each night and then both dh and I lay with him in our bed until he falls asleep. It doesnt matter if we try to put him down early (730 or 8pm) or later (9 or 930pm) it seems to take him forever to relax and go to sleep! Ideally I'd like him to go down around 730 or 8, I miss that little bit of time after he went down to either go to sleep myself or do something I wanted to do alone!! Do you think that early of a bedtime is unrealistic for an almost two yr old?<br><br>
Whats your routine? Whose room are you in? Is it you, dp or both? What time do you start it all?<br><br>
Thanks for sharing!!
 

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We start by cleaning up toys, then do a naked run around the house (his favourite part <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) Then have a bath, put on lotion and jammies, read stories, get a drink of water, turn out the light then I lie with him and sing songs for about 15 minutes. Sometimes he falls asleep while I'm singing, sometimes I get through my whole repertoire then tell him night night and then he goes to sleep.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We start by cleaning up toys, then do a naked run around the house (his favourite part <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) Then have a bath, put on lotion and jammies, read stories, get a drink of water, turn out the light then I lie with him and sing songs for about 15 minutes. Sometimes he falls asleep while I'm singing, sometimes I get through my whole repertoire then tell him night night and then he goes to sleep.</div>
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Your ds is about the same age as mine, thanks for sharing! Whose room are you in? What time does he go to bed?
 

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My daughter goes to bed in her room at 8. We brush her teeth, get a drink, read a book, and sing one song. Then I tell her goodnight and leave the room. She talks and sometimes I let her read by herself. I think this is a great time for her to relax by herself. She usually falls asleep within 5-15 minutes. I know not all kids are this 'easy' but it works well for us. Some nights she might need more attention before she goes to sleep, and lately she's been wanting the door open, but I think this is just her wanting to know what's happening in the house after she goes to bed.<br><br>
For us the most important thing was finding something that worked and doing it EVERY TIME. No variances. If we change even a little detail she has a harder time dealing with it.<br><br>
Good luck! I hope you find something that works for you all.
 

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My daughter is the Great Routine Destructor. In other words, we don't have a routine. She won't allow it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Our evening goes something like this -- bath, night clothes, lay down on the couch with Mommy, get up and play for a while, jump around on Mommy, run around like a wild monkeygirl, lay back down, get still enough for Mommy to think she's going to sleep, jump back up, eventually crash on the couch around 11 PM. I move her to her own bed in her own room, and she sleeps all night after she finally goes to sleep.
 

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We do the bedtime prep in his room, he has had his room since we moved into our new house, he had just turned 2. He has a twin bed so there is room for me (or dh) to lie with him. He doesn't often sleep thru the night so it's easy for him to climb out and come get us. He likes to go lie back in his bed but likes to have one of us come and lie with him. Often I will spend the rest of the night in there with him (Dh hates being kicked).<br><br>
We start bath at around 8 and the whole routine generally takes an hour and 15 minutes to an hour and a half. So he's asleep usually around 9-9:30. That's on days he takes his usual 2 hr nap, which is on days he's in daycare. On days when he's home, he doesn't always nap that long so I will move the whole routine up accordingly.<br><br>
It's almost always me doing the bath, then dh comes in to his room for the rest of it. Then dh says good night and I sing the songs and lay with him till he falls asleep.
 

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Our routine goes something like this:<br><br>
Dinner<br>
Play (5-20 min.)<br>
Bath (10-30 min.)<br>
Nakey Butt Run (5-20 min.) [dh joins the routine around this time, stays until end]<br>
Dipe & Pajamas & Tussling Around on Bed (5-20 min.)<br>
Nurse and Read in [Family] Bed OR Nurse and Play Guitar/Sing in Bed (5-20 min.)<br>
Lights Out, Lullaby & Nurse to Sleep (1-15 min.) in the Family Bed<br><br>
It works best for everyone when the whole thing wraps up around 8.30 PM. I would say the AVERAGE is about 60 minutes for the whole routine from Bath to dd falling asleep.<br><br>
Sometimes we have a late dinner, we are busy doing other things... and we rush through the routine at 9.30 PM or 10 PM. In which case, I just go to sleep with dd. If we finish early enough, I get up and do things around the house, hang out with dh, etc. Depends on how tired I am!<br><br>
We nightweaned dd about a month ago, so she pretty much sleeps through the night now, wakes up around 6.30 and nurses again.
 

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Our 17 month old goes to bed between 8 and 8:30 most nights. If he comes with us to rehearsal or a gig it ends up being much later but it doesn't seem to throw him off at all.<br><br>
We don't have a very extensive routine, just jammies, a little snuggling, a book, kisses for everyone, and to bed with his lovey, a stuffed frog. He sleeps until 7 or 7:30. We do baths in the morning.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My daughter is the Great Routine Destructor. In other words, we don't have a routine. She won't allow it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Our evening goes something like this -- bath, night clothes, lay down on the couch with Mommy, get up and play for a while, jump around on Mommy, run around like a wild monkeygirl, lay back down, get still enough for Mommy to think she's going to sleep, jump back up, eventually crash on the couch around 11 PM. I move her to her own bed in her own room, and she sleeps all night after she finally goes to sleep.</div>
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Sounds precisely like DS. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
The only thing routine is the book we read each night, the fact that it will take 1-2 hours, and DS sneaking back into my bed at 430am. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Glad to see the nakey butt run is a tradition in a lot of other families too! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
7:30 bath (but DS has been resisting big time, so I just try to get him as naked as I can and sponge off whatever I can reach)<br>
8:00 nakey butt run! he runs to pick out a pair of jammies then runs back to the bathroom to put them on<br>
8:05 Stories and milk with DH<br>
8:30 in his crib, lights out<br><br>
sometime between 12 and 2 -- wakes up, calls mama, I bring him to our bed<br><br>
This is as of Friday. The routine had always been the same, but his wakefullness had been creeping later and later, culiminating in him staying up till 11 last Thursday. I don't know exactly what we've changed, we'd leave him in his room before and after Thurs, he was happy, playing, and happy. We come when he cries or calls us--but as of Friday I've made those visits very short--I still go in and rub his back but that's it. He really doesn't seem upset by this change, we're just more clear that we're not going to be playing with him or lying down with him or anything. And my boy is falling asleep before 9 again!!! Which he hadn't done for months.<br><br>
ETA as of Friday we've also put a time limit on stories--they'd gotten up to an hour. I'm probably tougher and I KNOW I'm MUCH less AP than most MDC moms, but we are all so much happier this week than last week!
 
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