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I've always been happy about dh and my relationship, when we were dating, even when MIL was living with us, even when we had a high needs kids who never slept etc.
Now that the second baby is here and I'm a SAHM and I'm finally 'better' from being pregnant since 2009; I feel like we should be on easy street. But things are crappy.
It's jsut a general feeling-- I can't put my finger on it. Hugs are fewer, kisses are fewer. We snap at each other. We barely have sex. Small things, like if he's passing me as he leaves the room, I'll think he's going to hug me, but he doesn't. Sometimes I feel so angry at him! Right now I almost literally hate him. I've never felt like this before. I don't know if it's just me (i have an appt for ppd on tuesday) or him too.
I've tried to talk to him over and over it seems like. He says that he doesn't feel any differently towards me; no anger, no resentment. When I ask him about concrete things that i feel that are different; he chalks it up to just feeling tired. which is true, we are tired. But I feel that something is off. I feel a lack or a hole in my heart, and i don't know what to do? Could it really all be in my head?
Now that the second baby is here and I'm a SAHM and I'm finally 'better' from being pregnant since 2009; I feel like we should be on easy street. But things are crappy.
It's jsut a general feeling-- I can't put my finger on it. Hugs are fewer, kisses are fewer. We snap at each other. We barely have sex. Small things, like if he's passing me as he leaves the room, I'll think he's going to hug me, but he doesn't. Sometimes I feel so angry at him! Right now I almost literally hate him. I've never felt like this before. I don't know if it's just me (i have an appt for ppd on tuesday) or him too.
I've tried to talk to him over and over it seems like. He says that he doesn't feel any differently towards me; no anger, no resentment. When I ask him about concrete things that i feel that are different; he chalks it up to just feeling tired. which is true, we are tired. But I feel that something is off. I feel a lack or a hole in my heart, and i don't know what to do? Could it really all be in my head?