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I'm debating on a good timeline to notify my employer of this pregnancy. I'm finding it hard coming up with excuses to why I can't take on certain projects or planning for future work (my work is very cyclical as I work in higher ed).<br><br>
When are you going to notify your employer?
 

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I already told them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: However, I nanny, and one of the children had something that could have been harmful to the baby if I was pg. I hadn't got a <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/pos.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="positive"> yet, but I was pretty sure I was pg, so she sent me home until the child was better. But for me, the plan all along was to quit working before ttc (oops!). Once they knew I was pg, they offered to let me go an entire month earlier, so it all worked out in the end.
 

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Depends....planning on 12 wks, but if I start needing to take sick time b/c of morning sickness (which so far I've been spared...but I'm only just 6wks) then I will tell my manager earlier. She's super cool and already knows I've been ttc b/c of my m/c back in February (I took a week off afterwards).
 

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not sure.. I run an in home daycare so I'll probably let them know when I start showing... which will probably be around 12-14 weeks.
 

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I have a midwives appt on May 15 and I will be 11 weeks. If they can hear the hb I'll tell at work that day. I can't wait.
 

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I had to tell them at 8 wks because I'd been asked to take on a project that was going to require a longer term commitment. Instead of making something up I decided to be upfront about it but let my VP know that I still wanted to take the project on. After giving him the news he still wants me to head up the team. I figured he'd be peeved with me if I agreed to take it but didn't let him know about my pregnancy.<br><br>
I know it's a creepy double standard but it's a reality and especially here in Canada where we get a year off for mat leave I felt I owed it to him to prepare for my departure.<br><br>
It ended up garnering some good faith and he was really glad that I was honest.
 

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This is a <i>major</i> delima for me! I work in an OB office, but I just started there two months ago, and my 90 day probationary period is not up yet. I am reluctant to say anything until that time is past. I don't really know my bosses at all, so I have no idea how they will take it. It will be more work for them when I am out.<br><br>
It also stinks that I will be unable to use the FMLA because I will not have been there for a year when I deliver. You would hope that women in an OB office would be understanding, but not everyone is. I've never been in the situation where I was afraid to tell my employer! An additional aspect to this problem is that this is my second pregnancy, and even though I'm not quite 6 weeks, my pants are tight, and my breasts are really blossoming. If I get sick, I know they'll put two and two together before I even get the chance to tell them.<br><br>
Does anyone have any experience or advice for me?
 

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As late as possible.<br><br>
They were not very supportive of the 2 miscarriages I had so I'd rather wait to the 12 week mark to tell them this time.
 

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I've already told. They can't do anything to us in Canada and we're entitled to our year off anyway. Actually, since they found out, they offered me a promotion.
 

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I will probably have to tell after my first OB visit, about 9 weeks. I am an RN, and the place where I work recently enacted a new "pregnancy policy". Which I'm not even sure if it is legal...but because we work with potentially violent people ( I don't do the hands on care so my risk is minimal) they came out with this policy that says that you have to tell ASAP and get your care provider to "certify you are able to perform your job functions"<br>
I only work 2 days a week anyway, so I guess i don't care if they know, it's just something about being told that I have to tell that bugs me, ya know?
 

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Already did, at about 5 weeks. Suffering silently through morning sickness and having my boss wonder is NO fun. At least now I can piss and moan about it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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i want to wait until the 12 week mark when your less likely to miscarry. Although I'm a little concerned because I'm only 6 weeks and gained a couple of pounds and very bloated so I've had a few comments made whether I was gaining wieght which I found rude or if I am pregnant I just said stare a few more months maybe you"II be surprised.
 

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I told my supervisor after I recieved my <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/pos.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="positive"> . I usually have to handle Infectious matierals during my working hours and the boss lady is very protective of her pregnant workers and has a policy about wanting to know ASAP. Not a problem!! I dont have to deal with the icky stuff now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><br><br><br><br>
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stcelia - I would definitely wait until your probationary period is up to share the news, if you can...just to be safe, since you don't know your bosses very well yet.<br><br>
Not sure if this will help, but I got pg with my first just 1 month after starting my current job. They still let me take my full FMLA, plus the additional 6 wks paid time they give as company benefit (total of 12 wks paid mat leave), PLUS another 3 mos unpaid time off! So it never hurts to ask....I'll be sending positive thoughts your way!
 

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I really don't know when to tell. I told my immediate supervisor, but her lips are sealed. She is trying to get transfered to another store and won't do anything to jeopardize that. When she leaves, I will be the de facto supervisor, not sure if I want that job or not regardless of the little bean. Also, my boss only comes around every few months so unless I tell him, he won't have a clue. I work for a canadian company in the US so I don't know how the two law sets will mesh.<br><br>
When should I tell? My fp doc doesn't want to see me until mid june (like 12 wks).
 

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I told my boss' boss today. He kept a co-workers pregnancy a secret for 2 months, so I know he's trustworthy.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
We've had a string of people leave, so I thought it only fair I mention that to him as well. Also, if something should happen before everyone else knows I have a contact that can speak on my behalf to the rest of the office.<br><br>
We did have a good midwife visit today, so I was feeling confident about this pregnancy (my midwife did as well).
 

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I could REALLY use your opinions. I know I posted a little before about my situation. Basically, my bosses are only in my office with me about 1/2 day a week. When here they are in a big hurry and there is no time for socializing. I am coming to the end of my 90 day probationary period, and I am also beginning to show at just 8w. There are two bosses, both female. One is a little friendlier and laid back (we'll call her "Type B"), the other is very business-like (to the point of seeming rude sometimes - and we can call her "Type A") and seems to be the one who runs the show. I don't know either one of them well at all.<br><br>
I have only a few random days with Type A over the next few weeks. None with Type B at all. I think Type B will be easier to tell and talk with, but it is Type A that seems to be in charge of things and also the one I'll have an actual opportunity to see in person.<br><br>
Here is my question: Should I come in on one of my days off so that I can talk to Type B in person OR should I talk with Type A on one of the days we are scheduled to be together? Type A is nearly always in a rush, and tells me that she is always available by email - would it be better to email her this, or force her to talk when I know she is feeling pressured to be elsewhere?<br><br>
I'm very nervous to tell them this, as my delivery will only be 10 or 11 months after I started. Their whole reason for hiring me was to make their life easier and require them to travel to my office less. Type A has a way of making me feel nervous, and I think the way she says "hello" sounds accusatory. I know I'm making a mountain of a mole hill, but I'm so anxious and have never dealt with this scenario before.<br><br>
I surely would appreciate any thoughts or advice on how to handle this situation!
 

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I already told my boss. He's super cool, and excited about it.
 

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My husband and I own our business (a restaurant) and we're there constantly. IN fact, I was there when I took the pee stick test (although none of the employees were) I didn't plan on telling anyone for a while. Two days after my test, I was standing at the hostess station, checking reservations when one of the servers says "you look different.....did you get a haircut...no....hmmm. Those aren't new clothes....OMG are you pregnant?.....You are, aren't you...AAAHHHH" And there was no way I could keep a straight face. I'm no poker player. There must have been about 10 people around, all in earshot, and they all heard the conversation, so the news spread fast. We already have 5 daughters, so now we have like 60 people praying the boss gets his son this time!<br><br>
The funny thing is, I have cut my hours down a lot (in march I worked over 350 hours, in April i went down to about 90 and so far this month I'm at 20.) and every time I go in I end up bitching at everyone from the minute I walk in the door until the minute I leave. "Don't serve bread in a bowl, use the right size plate, push those chairs in, water the flowers, don't stack the plates on your arm, scrub the floor drains, and you can go home now, you're not in uniform." I have to say it is so much fun. I have absolutely no interest in trying to find a nice way to say something. And when they see me coming, they MOVE. I should have been like this a long time ago.
 
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