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I'm 16w pg with #4 (1 and 2 were twins) so this is my third pregnancy. The twins were induction followed by c, and DS was a wonderful natural labor, followed by c... He's only 10m old, and I still remember how hard going through labor was, even though it was overwhelmingly powerful in a positive way... Since DS's birth wasn't even a year ago, I'm wondering when I will get that strong motivation of "I can do it!!!!!" that I had when laboring with him... Right now, I'm still so tired, that I can't fathom going through labor and having the energy to do so...<br><br>
When did you really start to focus and zoom in on birth, labor, motivation, energy... to get really charged up? I'm hoping to be allowed to vbac since I've had 2c's already (during my last c, the surgeon said my uterus was really thin and if I got pg again, I should consider an elective c...)<br><br>
I took a wonderful bradley class and read lots of great books on natural birth - which I plan to re-read... but I found my biggest challenge was in knowing how to push! I was able to labor drug-free ok with DS and our fantastic doula... but when it came time to push, I was exhausted already, and nothing was happening... I felt like I was doing all the work myself - pushing and pushing...<br><br>
thanks for any help and advice!<br>
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I planned my third pregnancy partially (small part) just so I could have a VBA2C <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: I was really determined to push that baby out of my vagina and I made it happen, despite some obstacles. You can do it. You'll be suprised by the burst of energy you get it when it comes time to push.
 

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With my first vbac pregnancy I thought I had to have a c section for all other pregnancies. I was told that in the hospital after the c section. the nurse practitioner I was seeing told me that I was an excellent candidate for a vbac. I asked her some questions and started researching.<br><br>
I just happened to see a flyer in the newspaper about our local LLL having an enrichment meeting about birth like 2 days later. I won the book Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way as a door prize and I met my soon to be good friend and bradley instructor at the meeting as well. It just all fell into my lap really. the more I read the more jazzed I got and empowered I felt.I fired my OB and went to one an hour away and had my first vbac an hour away with this wonderful OB.<br><br>
Since then I have had a vbac in a birth center 2 hours away, since the hospital changed their policies and my OB had some health issues, I am now planning a homebirth.<br><br>
It was written in the stars for me!!<br>
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I started to consider VBAC around week 22 or so. I read "ina May's Guide to Childbirth" and realized what I was missing out on by scheduling a repeat c-section. I became obsessed with VBAC, devoured all the info. I could, and joined forums like this one to talk to like-minded women. I recommend you consider seeing a good midwife if possible. Until I met my midwife I was always full of doubt and left all my OB appointments feeling like I would be doomed into having another section. I know this is the case with so many women ... a good VBAC-supportive care provider is super important.<br>
Good luck to you!
 

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Before conceiving. It wasn't an "I hate my sections" or a "no more surgery" thing for me. Truth be told, they weren't bad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> It was when I had the realization of how different a birth AWAY FROM THE MEDICAL ESTABLISHMENT was for the baby, how peaceful and gentle. THAT is the birth I wanted. Section or normal, I could honestly care less, but since I can only birth normally at home that's how it has to be, LOL! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: I wouldn't even attepmt VBAC in a hospital, I'd take the section, it's not about that, it's about BEING HOME.
 

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Shortly after ds one was born I had decided I would not have a repeat section and that I was gonna VBAC. So for 3 years I was really planning my vbac and I got it!
 

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I wasn't gung-ho on a VBAC until I was already several weeks pg with this one. My c-section wasn't as bad as I'd imagined it would be, so I just figured I'd go ahead with a repeat c/s...<br><br>
I'm not sure what point exactly changed my mind, just that at some point my body just knew that a VBAC was what I was going to do!
 

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I was resentful about the first c-section going into it, so I decided in prep for it that the next one was not going to be a surgical birth.<br><br>
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I kinda struggle with this stuff because it never occurred to me to do anything but give birth to my second child. As Henci Goer says, we should no more wonder about whether or not to labour with a baby after surgery than the baby before it. It's just a birth. You go into labour, then you push a baby out. I had surgery the first time, then the second time I didn't. I had my appendix out once, and I've never had another operation on my gut since. No one thinks I need special preparation to use my intestines despite having needed an operation on them once. Your body works, you just need to have an environment in which to let it work. I had no monitoring, no VEs, nothing to impinge on my labour and there is no way I'd have birthed my baby in a hospital because my labour was really really long and came after a week earlier hindwater leak. You can give birth just like you can breathe, digest food and poo it out. No difference <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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this is all so helpful.... thank you all!!!<br><br>
my fear is - if I couldn't do it twice before, how will I be able to do it now? My abs are completely shot, and my energy is so low right now (17w pg, nursing 10m old baby... not sleeping well...) so I'm hoping I can gain some strength somewhere (or motivation) to convince myself and believe that I can do it. I was so pumped and motivated last time around... that I'm hoping I'll get there again...<br><br>
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With DS 1, I had a really cool doc do the unplanned C ( the midwives I had couldn't do them )and while doing it he said in the OR " You can definitely have a VBAC next time. " Those little words meant a lot. I started planning on having a VBAC right after the doc said those kind words. DS 2 was born about 2 years later by VBAC!!!
 

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mama coltrane, that's awesome!!!<br><br>
when I was in the or last time with my 2nd c, the dr. said if I were to have more children, I would want another c since my uterus was getting so thin... which kind of scared me... and since I got pg so quickly after DS was born, I'm still concerned about complications during a vbac... but I suppose if I'm monitored properly, they'd be able to suspect complications before they became 'bad'...<br><br>
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