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When did you tell?<br>
Your boss?<br>
Workmates?<br>
Friends?<br>
Partner?<br>
Parents?<br>
Extended family?<br>
Facebook?<br>
Your boss? ( worried about this one so mentioned it twice! Ha ha)
 

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<p>I told DH the day I got the BFP, our parents at 9 weeks, extended family at 12 weeks, and my boss around the same time.  We announced on Facebook after our 13 week scan (so around 14 weeks).  I'm lucky that my boss is super kid-friendly (he has four of his own), so I wasn't too worried about telling.</p>
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<p>How far along are you?  Good luck breaking the news!</p>
 

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<p>This time around... My husband was the first to know. After the test turned positive I came out and showed him. It was a total surprise to us, so there was a stunned silence! And my Mother was staying with us at the time, so she was told rather quickly and I told the rest of my close relatives within a few days of finding out: in-laws, parents, etc. I never really announced it at work, but I had morning sickness and was a little obvious, ended up telling one person and it just SPREAD. I had people I never talk to asking me all about it! It was a little weird, but ah well. I was about 7 or 8 weeks at that time. I didn't say anything on FB until I heard the heart beat at about 9 weeks. I just can't keep a secret. I'm horrible at it and I was so excited to hear the heart beat, because it was something I never experienced with my daughter and as I said, I can't keep my mouth shut! </p>
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<p>I had a friend/co-worker at my old job who didn't tell anyone until after the baby was born. She was tall and built a particular way that you really couldn't tell... I thought she just gained some weight and after pressure from another co-worker who was convinced she was pregnant, I asked her if she was, and she really seemed hurt I asked! And I felt like an ASS for asking after she denied it! But apparently she was all along and just didn't want to tell anyone! I'm not sure of her reasoning behind it, but after I moved away she sent me an e-mail with pictures and she had a beautiful baby girl! I don't think I could ever could be capable of doing that, but it would fun to surprise people like that! </p>
 

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<p>I told my parents and brother the day I found out, but only because DH was overseas on business and I couldn't really talk to him for very long that morning, and I just had to talk to SOMEBODY. I was going over to Mom and Dad's anyway to watch a football game with them, my brother, SIL, and niece, and ended up telling them all. DH told his parents a few days later when he got back from his trip, then we told my best friend (who is also pregnant) a week or two after that. I told my bosses at the end of the first trimester, and we made a FB announcement just recently when we had the anatomy scan at 18 1/2 weeks. I haven't told a ton of people at work, but only because there never seems to be a great time to tell them. I just talk about it more openly now with my coworker/friend and others who know, and hope that the rest of them will overhear and spread the word. I'm a big lady so I'm not showing all that much.</p>
 

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<p>I told dh right after the positive test... I can't imagine waiting any longer than that, unless your partner would be upset/angry/violent about you being pregnant. But maybe there are other reasons?</p>
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<p>We told our families (parents and siblings) at 6 weeks because I was horribly morning sick and we had to cancel travel plans and so would otherwise be left explaining why we were back home a week earlier than planned.</p>
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<p>My best friend ended up finding out around 5 weeks, because she's a doctor and I wanted to ask her some questions, and dh's good friend found out about the same time because he was supposed to be going on the aforementioned trip with us.</p>
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<p>We told grandparents at 8 weeks when we heard the heartbeat, and started telling close friends shortly after that.</p>
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<p>We told Facebook/the world at 12 weeks when we heard the heartbeat again.</p>
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<p>I'm currently not working, so the boss/coworkers thing isn't something I had to deal with. Though I told a couple of my former coworkers around the time I had my first appointment. I'm not sure if word has spread about that or not. I'm planning to go to my old workplace next week, though (17 weeks) and spread the word. <span><img alt="smile.gif" id="user_yui_3_4_1_2_1330367219380_161" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif"></span></p>
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<p><span>If I had still been working... I probably would have had to tell my boss because of my severe morning sickness. If that wasn't a big issue for me, though, I probably would have waited until the end of the first trimester to tell. I probably would have told a couple of coworkers (the ones I did tell, in fact) earlier than that, but they're pretty good at keeping secrets. OTOH, since basically everyone at work (except my bosses) knew we were doing fertility treatments and trying for a baby, the cat may have gotten out of the bag earlier.</span></p>
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<p><span>Good luck!</span></p>
 

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<p>I found out a week before Christmas, and waited until Christmas Eve to tell my husband.  Well, I was pretty sure he knew I was pregnant (because we were trying to conceive, and it was past the time of the month when I usually get my period) but I really wanted to have that delicious secret to myself for a few days-- plus I knew it would be a good gift for Christmas!   I really enjoyed having a week where I was the only one who officially "knew." Also, my husband has a really big mouth, and, sure enough, as soon as he found out he was on the phone telling friends and family.  We told our parents on Christmas morning. </p>
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<p>I'm about 14 weeks along and still haven't mentioned it on facebook, not really sure why-- everyone we see in real life already knows!</p>
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<p>I told my boss at 3 months-- wasn't sure how she would react, but it went fine.  I think 3 months is the standard time, but if I had been really sick in the beginning I probably would have told her earlier.  I haven't told my workmates yet, though.  Again, not sure why except that it hasn't really "come up"  :)  I figure they will notice eventually. </p>
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<p>When I was working and pregnant with my first, I told my principal of the school when I was about 24 weeks.  I didn't really start showing until about 18-20 weeks and I wore baggy shirts and skirts, so it wasn't super evident.  One coworker knew but no one else did.  I had my own classroom, so it wasn't too hard to hide. </p>
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<p>Told my husband as soon as I found out every single time and told my family shortly after that.  Around 5 weeks each time.  I figured I would need support if the pregnancy stayed viable and especially if it didn't, so I gained nothing from keeping it a secret.  </p>
 

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<p>I always tell my DH , parents and our very close friends right away.... then it kinda leeks out here and there to select people until I make it public at 12 weeks. </p>
<p>Announcing before 12 weeks makes me really nervous... Last thing I would want is to have to go back and tell everybody i'm not anymore if it didn't take.. kwim?</p>
 

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When did you tell</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Your boss?  I wanted to wait until the end of the 2nd trimester but ended up telling earlier due to pregnancy complications<br>
Workmates?  Told one minutes before boss<br>
Friends?  A couple the week of BFP the rest many weeks after that<br>
Partner?  Right away <br>
Parents?  Day of BFP  His: Some weeks after<br>
Extended family?  2 day of BFP, the rest 16 or so weeks, some I still haven't<br>
Facebook?  Still haven't and don't know when/if</div>
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<p>With my first, I told everyone who would listen within a week of finding out, starting with family and close friends, and then everyone else we knew (even the waitress at Denny's). </p>
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<p>With my second pregnancy, we told everyone who would listen, but miscarried at 7 weeks. That was really difficult, the hardest part being having to tell everyone, and say it over and over.  Still, having the support of those who were close to me meant a LOT, so I didn't regret telling anyone. </p>
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<p>With my third pregnancy, we told those close to us within a week or so, and I waited until after 7 weeks to tell everyone else, because of the miscarriage.  (facebook wasn't so much a "thing" for me yet - 2005)</p>
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<p>With my fourth pregnancy, we kept it secret until about 7 weeks, except for friends and family, but miscarried at 3 months.  That was devastating, and telling people was absolutely excruciating, but again - having their support was VITAL during that time.</p>
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<p>My fifth pregnancy I had only known about for a week or so, and miscarried again.  Only two friends knew about it, and no family.  We just hadn't had an opportunity to tell them.  That was 2 years ago and I told my mom about it this last week - the first time I could talk about it. </p>
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<p>This is my sixth pregnancy, and I'm 5 weeks along.  With this one, I told my mom and 4 of my close friends right away.  I knew I would want their support if something bad happened, but I also really wanted someone to rejoice with because we are so excited to have this blessed chance once again.  My oldest has special needs and I have been telling all of the people on her team of teachers, therapists, and providers so that they will understand my limitations with lifting her, etc.  We aren't telling anyone else (including our kids) until I'm 4 months along, as long as I can hide it. I'd like to wait to tell our youngest until we can take her to the ultrasound. :)</p>
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<p>I don't work so I don't have to worry about telling my boss, but as soon as you are comfortable telling "the world" I would tell your boss.  You don't want him/her finding out from someone else, and you also would probably benefit from them having some understanding if you aren't feeling well.  :)</p>
 

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When did you tell? For the record, I'm 12 weeks<br>
Your boss? Not yet! Though I did put in that I wouldn't be available to teach Fall 12 ... I really thought she'd ask then!<br>
Workmates? Again, not yet <img alt="smile.gif" class="bbcode_smiley" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif"> I'm thinking about not saying anything until someone asks, though that's kind of mean since no one wants to ask a woman if she's pregnant. It might be fun to mess with them, though.<br>
Friends? Some right away, and some kind of leaking out after, and some I still haven't told yet. I like to tell people in person.<br>
Partner? He badgers me into taking the test ... we usually read it together<br>
Parents? Mine, really soon, maybe 2 days after the pos HPT -- his at 11 weeks this time around<br>
Extended family? We're having a big get together next week, so I'll anounce then (13 weeks)<br>
Facebook? Probably shortly after that (14 weeks)<br>
Your boss? Maybe not until 22 weeks or so, depending on when she asks about my availability. We'll see if it comes up, but it's really not a big deal -- I'll take off the fall semester and that doesn't create any extra harship on anyone -- we have a huge pool of adjunct instructors and I only work part-time.
 

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<p>Friends?  some as early as 4 weeks<br>
Husband? right away!<br>
Parents?   6 weeks (planned on sooner but had scheduling difficulties)<br>
Extended family? mother-in-law 4 weeks pregnant; let it leak out to extended family<br>
Facebook?  Still haven't and don't know when/if</p>
 

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I told DH right away. I also told my mom shortly after because she knew my struggles with TTC #2. I still have yet to tell anyone else, planning to in two weeks at a family gathering.<br>
By the way I am only 12 weeks.
 

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<p>Answers depend on pregnancy.</p>
<p><strong>Oldest</strong><br>
Your boss? around 4 weeks, I was suppose to be going to the gas chamber (active duty military) and its a no-no while pregnant.<br>
Workmates? Found out really quickly, the corpsmen figured I had already told my command, called up and asked my company gunny to have me stop by and pick up my prenatal vitamins. Lasted about 20 seconds before the whole company office knew and about 30 before my boss and everyone higher up knew at my workplace.<br>
Friends? Pretty quickly after I found out, I had miscarried a couple months prior and needed the emotional/mental support from my friends. Also, I had severe morning sickness so no hiding it.<br>
Partner? The night I took the first test. I wrapped a onesie up and made a card saying "get ready for a new addition"<br>
Parents? That weekend, it was my fathers birthday so it felt right.<br>
Extended family? That weekend, we were pretty excited<br>
Facebook? Didn't have facebook at the time</p>
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<p><strong>Middle</strong>:<br>
Your boss? No boss at the time, Im a SAHM now<br>
Workmates? Look above<br>
Friends? I made the mistake of telling one "friend" because we went to dinner together and I got ill during it. She spread it around to everyone so a couple of hours later my phone was ringing off the hook<br>
Partner? He was there when I took the test<br>
Parents? Around 9-10 weeks. I was visiting and my MIL was really concerned because I looked terrible and was sleeping alot.<br>
Extended family? Around the same time,<br>
Facebook? Again, didn't have a Facebook account, I got an account when DD2 was a week old to share pictures with people</p>
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<p><strong>DS</strong></p>
<p>Friends? Around 12 weeks<br>
Partner? He was there when I took the test<br>
Parents? Around 10ish weeks<br>
Extended family? Around 10ish weeks<br>
Facebook? After the first ultrasound<br>
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<p><strong>This baby</strong> (10-11 weeks along)</p>
<p>Friends? Not planning on it for a long time<br>
Partner? He was there when I took the test<br>
Parents? Not planning on it for a long time<br>
Extended family? Not planning on it for a long time<br>
Facebook? Maybe when the baby's born <span><img alt="orngbiggrin.gif" id="user_yui_3_4_1_2_1332377857755_160" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif"></span><br>
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<p>When did you tell?<br>
Your boss? with DS - 14 weeks<br>
Workmates? same<br>
Friends? my closest friends know straight from the start because they are the same people I would want to talk to if I miscarried<br>
Partner? the same day the pee hits the test<br>
Parents? with my first loss right away, with my second loss they found out after we saw the HB at 6 weeks.  With my son's pregnancy at 14 weeks and my daughters at 12 1/2 weeks.<br>
Extended family?  Soon after my parents find out (after the 1st tri is over)<br>
Facebook?  After everyone close to me knows.  This time, I might not even share on FB though and just let it slowly leak out through photos tagged of me pg. :)</p>
 
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