[aiea]

Hi All,<br><br>
My DD is 8 months old next week, and she's got this squealy-shrieky-squeaky thing she has been doing (increasingly) since 6.5 months. It's extremely shrill.<br><br>
When I went to the last ped visit at 6 months, 3 weeks, DD was doing this a lot because she was overtired (minimal naps in two days, too much to see I guess). The ped exclaimed "That's a temper! That's a tantrum for a baby her age!". I tried to explain over the shrieks that she was overtired but don't know if my explanation was understood.<br><br>
Anyway, babe has been doing this off & on all day today & yesterday. I do think it's her frustrations, tiredness and general stress being vocalized. It's also enough to drive me up the wall. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
When & how do you begin to show babe that a "temper" is not exactly something that others find pleasant? I know she's too young now, but when?<br><br>
April

 

[GoonieMom]

I would very highly recommend reading the book Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves by Naomi Aldort. I am reading it now, and its changing my life! I also have a DD who is 9 months and she does that screeching thing as well. With tantrums, try to tune in to what your child is communicating or why they are throwing the tantrum. This book is helping me to not listen to the voice in my head that says "what does everyone else think of me?" (and a million other thoughts that go through my head) and instead to focus on the needs of my child. This book is great because it helps you deal with your own past and relationships, and then it helps you to be a better parent. It doesn't matter if you have a baby or a teenager. Anyway, hope that helps!

 

[esthersmom]

I'm glad I found this thread because my 8 month old DD does that shrieky thing sometimes and I never thought about it that much... didn't know it could be a temper!

 

[J's Mama]

My son is now 10 1/2 mos. but has been demonstrating a temper for about 2 mos. now. usually when we won't let him do something (dangerous) that he wants to do. He lets us know immediately that he does not agree. It's generally very short lived and we just try to calmly explain why we're not doing that thing and distract him if necessary. Sometimes (esp. if he's tired)it goes on longer or louder and then we just hold him and try to help him calm himself, telling him that he will be okay. I'm of the opinion that it's never too early to help children through these things. Although, when they're a little bit older (12-18 mos) pointing out the reaction of others to their behavior is helpful. Telling them that "it hurts Mommy's ears when you do that" and being facially over-exaggerated helps them to begin to understand that their behavior has an effect (sometimes unpleasant) on others.

 

[edamommy]

on the day he was removed from the womb!

 

[lovingmommyhood]

My DS started doing that at eight months. He's nine months currently. I'm so happy to know that it age seems to be a factor!

 

[2bluefish]

DD at birth, came out of the water looked me in the eye and proceeded to give me an ear full. DS was mellow for a couple weeks - but he's shown his temper from very early on as well. You don't give him what he wants when he wants it - watch out!

 

[AnnesMoM]

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> That's my ds. If his toy falls, he looks at you and screams, if you tell him "no!", he looks at you and screams. He screams at his sister if she's in the way of his walker, etc. It's not just a scream, either- it's a "I want it my way and that's it!" kind of scream.<br><br>
And he's not even 6 months old!

 

[katheek77]

OMG...my DD (9.5 months0 has been throwing tantrums for at LEAST the past month and a half. Seriously. I know my daughter, and these are definite tantrums! You utter the word "no" toward her, and she goes into a full scale, on the floor, hitting tantrum. Holy moly.

 

[quirkylayne]

Around 9 months (at least that is when I figured out what was happening). He throws his head back, arches his back and "yells".

 

[MollilyPan]

DS started throwing fits at 6 months... mostly over diaper changes/getting in car seat. Everything else wasn't fits (from frustrations, mostly) but just voicing his needs. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">

 

[Satori]

I don't remember when my oldest started but my now 10 mo old started throwing fits at about 6 months. She started the car seat fits about 2 weeks ago and those actually make me laugh most of the time because she refuses to sit (and yells at me in protest) and all I gotta do is hand her something to catch her attention and she totally forgets she was throwing a tantrum and I've got her strapped in before she realizes whats happening but by then she to engrossed in what ever toy I gave her lol<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">

 

[katheek77]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">those actually make me laugh most of the time because she refuses to sit (and yells at me in protest) and all I gotta do is hand her something to catch her attention and she totally forgets she was throwing a tantrum <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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My daughter's like that, too, when she tantrums, except her distraction is people.<br><br>
Another person walks into the room, she stops her tantrum immediately to smile and flirt with them.

 

[2 in August]

My ds is 8.5 mo and he's been having little temper tantrums for at least a month. It's def different than his normal need something cry. It's a p*ssed at the world scream, complete with throwing himself back, arching, and flailing. Plus, any attempt to calm him down, makes it worse.

 

[tubulidentata2]

My DD has been throwing tantrums since probably six or seven months of age. They just keep getting more extreme! She's nearly 12 months and I dread every diaper change. My DH and I were thinking that she is exceptionally stubborn and fiesty, but maybe this is normal (for the record, I am rather stubborn and fiesty <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">).<br><br>
~Carrie