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I am curious to know when your kids started using spoons and forks to eat.<br><br>
My ds is almost 22 months old and we have always fed him (except for snacks, like fruit, which he eats with his hands). He doesn't know how to use a spoon effectively and he is only somewhat successful with a fork. Dh and I were reluctant to let him practice on his own when he was younger as we were so tired we didn't want to deal with the extra mess.<br><br>
These days, although we sometimes encourage ds to practice eating by himself with utensils, he won't. He insists that we feed him. So we do because if we don't then he doesn't get full, then he doesn't sleep well at night, etc.<br><br>
I regret not encouraging him to practice using utensils at an earlier age. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I am wondering if there are other parents out there like me. But if not, please tell me at what age your dc started using utensils to eat.
 

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My dd is 19 mos old and recently began to demand using a fork and spoon. We give it to her and she uses them. She makes a glorious mess in the process and often has as much food on her face and hands as in her mouth but she is, indeed, using the utensils in her own fashion. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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So, Verde (and others), did you wait to introduce the spoon and fork until your child started asking to use utensils? Or did you provide them with utensils and encourage them to eat on their own before they showed any signs they were interested?
 

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Our son demanded at set of utensils for himself when he was about 14 months old. He is a bit head strong and there was no way for us to tell him no.
 

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We have given our DS a spoon and fork for about 7 months now (he is 2 this week) but he still often chooses to use his fingers... faster/easier for him I believe. He is not great with utensils but I don't worry about it. I don't know any adults who can't use a fork effectively b/c their parents didn't teach them soon enough. YKWIM?
 

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We started eating meals at the table consistently when our two were about seven months old and could both sit up in their booster seats. We gave them each a spoon to play with but no food. When we started solids around eight months, they expected silverware so we gave it to them. By 14 months they were able to use a spoon and a fork (though certainly not neatly...). Now at 31 months they make it through most of a meal and then like to be fed. I think the novelty wore off a long time ago.<br><br>
Does he have special toddler silverware? If not, could you take him out to pick out a special spoon and fork just for him to use? I don't know if that would be enticing or not but worth a try? Good luck, that's got to be frustrating!
 

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My dd has been completely independently feeding herself with spoon since she was somewhere around 13 months. For several months before that, she would feed herself with the spoon if I put the food on it for her, but she had trouble getting the food out of the bowl...she liked to try though. She has been a bit slower to get the hang of the fork. She often just uses it like a spoon but sometimes she will actually try and stab the piece for food. Often times she just ditches the fork and uses her fingers.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I did always give dd a spoon to play with when she ate. She actually insisted on it. If I had a spoon, she had to have a spoon. After a while, she started to grab the spoon with food on it out of my hand and put it in her own mouth. Things just sort of evolved from there.
 

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At 16 months I give them a toddler fork with their meals but everything I give them is finger food so mostly they just pick it up and self-feed. Sometimes they try to stab food. I haven't fed them since we started table food at 9 months except for yogurt. If I put it on the spoon they will put it in their mouth but they don't quite have the scoop it up part down.
 

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I gave dd a spoon at about 10-11 months to "try out" and since then she's been using a spoon or fork in some compasity. I would say she uses a utensil about 80% of the time now at 23 months. We expect her to at least try to use the utensil but understand some things are harder to spoon or fork. Does your ds ever see other kids near his age using utensils? Peer pressure and modeling is great in situations like this.
 

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We started giving dd utensils to play with very early on, to get her used to holding them. She's about 29 mo now and knows how to use them well, but usually just eats with her hands because she likes it.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
Although, she always uses a spoon with her soup and if I give her a plate w/o utensils, she says, "I need a fork please, Mommy." So sweet.
 

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Ds started with a spoon when he started eating solid food and started with a regular adult fork around 12 months. He's 17 months now and proficient with both (although he does still use his hands as well) so I just started bowls of cold cereal with milk and introduced a small child's butter knife for "cutting."
 

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Although it's not a fabulous idea overall... we decided to let Jonathan, our 2 year old, practice his spoon usage with ice cream for a couple of weeks. He LOVES ice cream so we'd give him a small portion. Since it was something he REALLY wanted to eat, we knew he'd use the spoon. Anyhow, just suggesting that you could find a food, any food your child REALLY likes, and give him/her a spoon/fork to practice. If they don't really like the food they are eating, they won't be eating as much, and thus won't use a utensil and get practice as long. Am I making sense? Wine is diluting my words a little! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Hey, SAHM needs a friday night break.
 

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As soon as dd asked for one..."Poon" @ about a year, she got one. She's pretty coordinated and has eaten relatively mess-free from the beginning.
 

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ds2 feeds himself with a spoon/fork fairly well at 14 months. He's insisted on having his own utensils and feeding himself since he started eating table food at 6 months. he's never really let me feed him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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DD is 14 months and has been eating by herself with utensils since about 11 months. She wouldn't even touch her birthday cake until she was given a fork. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I've let dd use utensils from when she started solids. She was pretty good with them from around 15 or 16 months.<br><br>
I think that it's better to let babies and toddlers self feed so we never fed her more than a taste here and there.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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We didn't really bother giving DS utensils until he was around 18 months (we just gave finger food), but he picked it up really quickly once we started handing them to him... we usually just let him have a regular sized fork and/or spoon... he is 20 months now and uses them pretty well, although he prefers to feed us with them rather than to feed himself.<br><br>
He also gets to try chopsticks frequently, and occasionally manages to grip bits of food with them. If we help him get the grip started, he can maintain it long enough to get the food in his mouth (and he looks oh so proud!)
 

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My dd is 20 mos and just now starting to show some interest in utensils. We never really fed her, just gave her finger foods to pick up. She just seems to prefer eating with her hands for the most part. It doesn't really bother me, but it is kind of limiting...no soup, for instance.
 

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Jack always had spoon...he would refuse to eat anything without a spoon in his hand...<br><br>
he has been feeding himself since he was about a year or so...now he almost exclusively feeds himself (he was 2 yesterday)
 

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DD has been self feeding since she is just after 1, with her hands or a fork and spoon. We (DH and I) always use a fork and spoon when we are eating, so we'll just give her a small fork and spoon with her food too. But I know that she didnt started using a fork (for eating, that it, she sure used it to do alot of other stuff!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) till she was maybe over 18months. She is now 2.5 and can use a fork and spoon as well as most people.
 
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