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When did your kids move out of the family bed?

  • under 2 years of age

    Votes: 6 25.0%
  • 2 to almost 3 years

    Votes: 3 12.5%
  • 3 to almost 4 years

    Votes: 3 12.5%
  • 4 to almost 5 years

    Votes: 3 12.5%
  • over 5

    Votes: 6 25.0%
  • other

    Votes: 4 16.7%
  • Did they make the decision on their own?

    Votes: 4 16.7%
  • Did you encourage their move?

    Votes: 10 41.7%
  • Do they sleep alone (if not in the family bed)?

    Votes: 10 41.7%
  • or with a sibling?

    Votes: 5 20.8%

When did your kids move out?

818 Views 8 Replies 8 Participants Last post by  UrbanPlanter
I'm attempting a poll--hope it works.

So, both of my kids now sleep through the night.
: I never ever believed this would happen. Which makes me wonder if maybe they really will sleep on their own one day. Has this ever happened to you?

Do you kids sleep in their own room? How old were they?

Did they reach this decision on their own or did you guide & encourage it? How?

Ever move your kids together; ie. I'm guessing I'll move both boys at the same time to share a bed in the other room.

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hmmm; I can't do the poll since DD still hasn't moved out at 4 yo. She did sleep by herself in a crib from 7 weeks (when she came home) till we had some emotional trauma in our family when she was almost 3. She's been in my bed ever since, but naps in her own bed. When DS was born she moved to the foot of the bed, but DS moved to a crib when he started rolling over at 3 months. He is still in the room of course.

DS1 co-slept, but I honestly don't remember when he moved out. Probably around 18 months (it was 25 years ago) he is my best argument when people try to tell me that I'll never get my kids out of my bed/room. I always tell them DS1 not only sleeps in his own bed, but in his own apartment
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It would be hard for me to accurately do the poll too... two kids, and they are in different places with it I guess. Can you only choose one option?

My first child (boy, about to be 13) slept with me almost every single night of his life till age 3. About the time he was 2.5 yrs I had my second child (daughter, now 10.5 yrs) and they both slept with me then too. My son started to sleep other places gradually around 4-ish. He'd sleep on my floor in his sleeping bag, on the couch, and he eventually slept in his room. It was all his choice, always. He still often came to sleep with me up until he was about 7/8 yrs old.. but then he started to prefer his own space. He will come in sometimes now if he is sick, scared, or just needs his mom.

My daughter has been very different. Going on 11 she still sleeps with me and dad I would say about 35% of the time. She will often start out in her own room, but come into my bed around 3 or 4 am. She likes to make forts under the table and sleep in them sometimes, or she will fall asleep in the living room watching a movie. I encourage them to sleep where they feel comfortable. As long as we are happy, and sleeping it's a great thing
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I voted 3 to almost 4 since mine moved out after she was 3, but for a year leading up to that, she and I were sleeping in our own room. So we started trying to move her out of our bed when she was about 2.5 and the thought was that I would nurse her to sleep and come back to my own bed. I just gave up and slept with her in another room. DH had moved to another bed when dd was about 18 months old, but we traded at around 2.5.
Ds started sleeping part time in his own bed (but in our bedroom) when he was around 2yo. He went to bed there, but spent most of the night in our bed. At 3yo, he spends most of the night in his bed, but will continue to wake every couple of hours if no one is next to him. Dh often goes and lays with him since I am 8.5months pregnant and it's a little uncomfortable to lay in a twin bed with him. But I'd say 1/3 of the time, ds still ends up in our bed sometime in the middle of the night.
My 3 to almost 4 year old still likes to co-sleep about 50% of the time. we got her a double bed futon in her room that she does like, and usually chooses to sleep in there all night. But she is still welcome to sleep with us.
Ditto for my 8 1/2 year old girl. She got a bed at age 4 (when I was pg) and sleeps mostly in there, but still sleeps with us a couple of times a week, and that is fine too.
So I did encourage both by getting them a bed, letting them pick out bedding, etc, but it is not a huge issue.
We moved both kids out when they started crawling. Previous to that, naps had been in their crib after about 4 months of age. I'm not a big touchy-feeling peson when I'm sleeping, so once they started crawling is about my limit for physical interaction at night. They both come into our room and have snuggles in bed.

Our girls share a room and it works great. They both sleep through the night now, too.

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