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DS is 18 months. I give him a spoon or fork every now and then, but all he does is use it to bang on the table or push food off the tray, and then he forgets to eat anything because he's so busy playing. So I usually stick to finger food. My MIL is horrified - she insists on giving him a little fork with every meal and guiding his hands to make him eat with the fork. I really couldn't care less. But I'm curious - are most 18 month olds out there using silverware? Or am I raising a ragamuffin? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My kids were using spoons by 12mo and proably a fork by 15mo. But, I'm not one to feed them myself. By the time they're eating, I'm just putting food on the tray and letting them go at it. They were both spoon feeding themselves yogurt/cereal/soup by their first birthdays. And they both used forks on their birthdays.<br><br>
Personally, I'd give him a spoon/fork at every meal so he can learn. Good luck!
 

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My almost 17 month old uses a fork sometimes. Mainly it's just playing with it and the food, but sometimes she does manage to get the food on the fork and in her mouth.<br><br>
A spoon? No way. It's a flinging instrument of doom. And don't put a bowl or plate anywhere near her or it all goes overboard fast. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I wouldn't stress over it at this age at all. Have the utensils there -- show him how to use them when you're inclined, and let him go at his own pace. Your MIL needs to chill out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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My DD (14 mos tomorrow) uses a spoon fairly consistently, and can use a fork if the food is something that holds up well to her spearing it with a bit more force than is necessary.<br><br>
She's FASCINATED with our "grown-up" silverware, but we only let her use that if we're RIGHT THERE with it...<br><br>
She still uses her fingers often, however.
 

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14 months I think is when he actually got food into his mouth via spoon or fork.
 

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Oh no! It appears that I AM raising a ragamuffin!!<br><br>
*sigh* Getting out the tiny fork and spoon again.
 

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My dd just turned 2 and only recently started using silverware. She has always prefered to eat w/ her hands. I started giving her a fork or spoon around 16 months or so but she never used it. It was faster and easier to use her hands so why not? She will still use her hands on occasion but now enjoys the challenge of using silverware. I wouldn't worry. Leave it out next to his plate, if he tries it out cool, if not who cares? He'll want to try it out eventually. Doesn't sound like a ragamuffin to me.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My DS just turned 2, too. He's fairly capable with silverware, and insists on having the same place setting that everyone else has (so DH and I cut up our meat with butter knives now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> ), but he still uses his fingers more than 2/3 of the time. When he does choose to use his silverware, it's often in a creative manner (such as spooning water out of his glass and slurping it up that way).<br><br>
He's free to eat his meal in any way he pleases without any comments from us, as long as he doesn't throw food, splash water, forcefully bang utensils on his dish (hard enough that it might break), or wildly wave sharp utensils in the air (threatening to put out someone's eye). I'm sure he'll eventually decide that he wants to act like other people at the table.
 

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Spoons by 14 months and the twins just now started using forks about a month ago at 18 months. My one twin actually refuses to touch his food sometimes unless you give him a fork...he will point at the silverware drawer and do the sign for more and start fussing til you give him one.
 

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ds is 21 months old and can spear things pretty well with a fork but he gets sooo frustrated when he tries to use a spoon. He won't hardly touch any food with his hands if it's the least bit sticky, slimy, mushy or if it crumbles which makes meal times a little harder on me because i have to sit and feed him or guide his hand. I think he may have some sensory issues so they're going to work on it in therapy next week so maybe that'll help. I wouldn't worry about it, seems like your dc is doing just fine <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My DS is 15 months old and uses a plastic fork. He's a DIY kind of guy though and just insists that he a) gets to do things the way we do it and b) does it himself.<br>
I also just found a good baby fork a few weeks ago. A lot of them look like forks but actually don't spear anything so they end up pushing stuff off and being frustrated. The Gerber Disposables are great (we keep them and don't dispose) since they actually work...<br>
I don't make him eat with silverware. It's there and he chooses to use it. If he wants to use his fingers it's fine too.
 

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DD learned to use a spoon at 14 mo and a fork at 16 months. But then she stopped using them once the fun of learning how to was over. She rarely uses them now, although I always offer. She is now 22 months old.
 

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i can't remember when we introduced them, but at 2 she uses utensils very well. she uses regular adult sized utensils, she didn't like the tiny ones.
 

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I start giving mine spoon/fork when they start begging to use them, which has been at about 14 months. By the time they are 17 months they are pros. LOL My dd, who is 19 months eats cereal and milk with a spoon every morning. But I think she was motivated watching my son use his spoon.
 

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I gave both my boys utensils when they started really grabbing for them - around 12 mos and then with pretty much every meal that wasn't best (most easily eaten) by hand. My oldest loved his special spoon and fork so much, and he still is quite selective at meal time, choosing his own utensils from the drawer of 'special' silverware. I love giving my younger son his fork, not only because he loves it and gets a great sense of being 'big' from it, but it gives him something to focus on so Mommy can get the rest of the food on the table more easily! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 
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