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My dd is almost 18 months old. She is very verbal and often speaks in sentences or phrases, like, "night night necklace" when she takes her necklace off before bed. She said her first word at six months, and she was saying "mama," and meaning it before she turned seven months. I tell her I love her often, usually after she gives me a kiss. She just looks at me kind of sideways, but makes no attempt to say she loves me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"> Usually she'll try to repeat just about anything I say, even if it doesn't quite come out right. Why not "I love you?" I'm probably just paranoid, but it sometimes makes me sad and makes me wonder if she'll ever tell me she loves me. When did your toddler start saying those magic words, especially if you had a very verbal toddler?
 

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My ds is also 18 months old, and very verbal for his age. He says about 100 words now, and uses short sentences, but none of those sentences have been "I love you." He does hug me and say "Awwww, mama." I'd say that if your child is comfortable hugging and showing you that she loves you, you don't have anything to worry about. And I'll be waiting with baited breath to hear those words too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My ds is very very verbal. He started talking at six months.<br><br>
He didn't say I love you until he was almost 2 years old.<br><br>
Be patient.
 

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it took till 3 years of age till dd said that to me, now she says it all the time and what a good Mommy I am.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My son started saying "love you" when he was around 14-15 months.<br><br>
Actually, that was his first "sentence"...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
But I don`t think you need to worry at all!<br><br>
Kids will say what they want, when they want it!
 

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I received one of my sons at 6 days old (he stayed in the hospital 6 days for jaundice and for DSS to remove him from his birth parents). At 2 weeks old he smiled at me and I just broke down crying (not even nearly my first child, something like 10th). That's what I felt was him staying "I love you". The only children who use the words to say it are the older ones, 5 and 6. My little ones do it by hugging and kissing and coming to me in tears whenever something has bothered them or a million other ways. I think that the words "I love you" never convey nearly as much as you really feel and children are too genuine to substitute inadequate words for the real actions that mean what they want to say. I do use the words quite a bit to my children, but really feel that the more important ways I convey it are really listening to them and meeting their needs.
 

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This was also my daughter's first sentance at 14 months. It came out kind of like "I la loo" and was always said with a hug. I am absolutely positive that she new that it meant something sweet, and warm, and wonderful, but I don't think that she understood the meaning of all the individual words. It wasn't until she started using pronouns consistently (about 18-19 months) that she said "I love you" clearly. Then, for a little while she would get confused and say "I love me", "me love you", "me love I". It was funny.<br><br>
I think when she first learned it, it was just a kind of song that meant something sweet. Pronouns are hard to explain and to learn. I'll bet that is why your sweetie doesn't say it yet. She is probably too smart to learn it as a song like mine did. She wants to know what all the words mean first.<br><br>
I agree that kids say "I love you" in many more meaningful and important ways first and that kids just do things at their own unexplainable pace. It will come.<br><br>
Lara<br>
Mommy to Rowan 21 months
 

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My ds is 33 months old and does not say I love you. I think love is a very abstract concept and children express love much better by their actions than words. When I tell my ds that I love him he asks "why do you love me mama?" so I am not sure he translates the feeling inside with the word. But I know without a doubt we are still bonded nonverbally even as he becomes more and more a separate person.
 

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kayden wil be 2 1/2 next month & has yet to tell me.. but thats ok.. I get good kisses <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I think she told my mom on the phone the other day.. she was chatting with her & it sounded like it.. but I dunno..
 

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My 4 year old ds rarely says it, and probably hasn't uttered the phrase at all for several months now. But 2 year old dd says it all the time. I think kids are different...although now that I'm thinking about it, I guess I <i>am</i> a tad hurt. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> I hope yours says it soon. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I can't remember the first time she said it, but at age 2.5 I get to hear it all the time as well as the other praise about how great a mommy I am. I love it!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
It will happen soon enough. You'll be so surprised and amazed when it does. My dd was an early talker too, but I don't think she had said it by your dd's age either. I just got the big hugs and kisses instead.
 
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