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At what age is it safe for a child to bathe by herself? My eight year has been asking to take baths again and I just don't have the time to supervise her in the bath. I do allow her to shower alone when I'm in the next room.
 

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Age 5 or 6, I think. Whenever they can actually pick themselves up if they slip and their head goes under the water. Personally, I'd let her take a bath and check in every few minutes. We just leave the bathroom door open when ds wants to spend more time in the tub than his sister does.
 

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We allowed our kids to bathe alone around age 5 -- with the door open. By age 8, our older son was certainly independent and closing the door.<br><br>
You can check the stats if you want, but I'm fairly certain that a shower is more dangerous than a bath! Its very easy to slip and fall when you are standing in the shower.
 

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I left Rylie for brief intervals around 2-3 and now she spends lots of time in there at 4. I can always hear her (small house) but I feel completely safe with her in the tub alone. She can swim, and I would come running if I heard anything strange.<br><br>
Eights seems plenty old to take a bath alone.
 

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I'm in and out with my 3 1/2 year old. I don't leave him for more than 2 minutes or so - always with the door open and ears perked up. I might step out to grab the phone or toss in a load of laundry. He is reliable in terms of asking for help getting out of the tub and not standing, jumping, etc. My anxiety level tends to start going up pretty quickly when I step out of the room so my absences tend to be brief.
 

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My ds is 3 and I've started leaving him in the tub for brief intervals while I"m in the next room checking email (or MDC) but he talks CONSTANTLY so I always know what he's doing in there, even if I'm not watching him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I think we started allowing dd1 to bathe alone at around 4 yo but always with door open and checking on her often. Depends also on your childs personality, dd has always been mature for her age and very cautious so I know she would sit on her bottom just playing with her toys like she was asked to do.
 

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We live in a small 2 bedroom aprtment and I think I started wandering out of teh bathroom here and there around 2 1/2. She's always sat and played nicely and understood not to stand up quite young. she really listened to bath tub rules. My DS OTOH probably wont be left in the bathroom alone until he is married <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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This is DD, too.
 

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I think that when they are able to follow tub safety rules it is safe. I let dd do some baths alone and she is four. I think by age five they should be bathing and washing themselves without parent supervision. Taking a shower is actually more dangerous than a bath because standing up and slipping is more dangerous. If there is another concern like autism maybe the answer is different, but eight is a little old to have a mother in watching you naked to be sure you soap all of your body and don't drown yourself in the bath water.
 

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My son was bathing by himself, without me checking on him every 2 minutes, by the age of 3. I know I was TOTALLY uncomfortable with anybody checking on my by age 6...I would close the door and demand privacy by age 8. I think 8 is beyond plenty old enough to be able to take a bath without supervision.
 

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I think he's fine at age 8. I started allowing myself to leave the room for brief intervals at age 3 1/2 or so. Now my kids are 4 and 6 and they love to play together in the bath. I sometimes let them have that as playtime (usually when I'm trying to clean up the house for company, so they're not "undoing" my cleaning efforts). I think I'll always have an ear out for them, but I'm not really worried about them anymore.
 

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My crew all started bathing alone around age five.
 

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I would think eight is perfectly safe. I'm sure you're already doing this, but be sure you prepare and test the bathwater for her. I have a friend who was severely burned after she ran her own bath as a child. The hot water heater had malfunctioned, and she wound up spending months in a children's burn unit.
 

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DS takes a bath alone now with me hovering 1 or 2 steps nearby.<br><br>
I can always see and hear him.<br><br>
Just make sure there is a bath mat in the tub so she won't slip and fall.
 

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My 1.5 year old takes a bath by himself (in 2.5 inches of water.) I sit on the toliet (seat down) and either read or work on a project.<br>
Him and I talk through it - and he loves it. He loves to slip and slide in our big tub, and splash about. *see sig*<br><br>
I'm never away from him, and I do not worry about him one bit, its minimal water, and he's very aware of how to maneuver.
 

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One of the biggest worries about baths and young children, is before the age of 2-3 when their heads are so large and heavy. They could easily slide under the water and not be able to get their heads lifted up enough and never make a sound.<br><br>
Later it is slipping.<br><br>
My oldest was about 3 1/2 when I would leave him to move laundry, but he also talked non stop, so I never had to wonder what he was up to. The twins are much quieter, so they will be older before I leave them. Also, with two kids in the tub, there is more likely problems with slipping and holding each other under the water.
 

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My DS has been taking baths without constant supervision since he was 4. He is very, very mature and responsible for his age -- I completely trust him not to turn the water on himself or jump around in the tub. And our house is small enough so that I can hear his every move anyway. But I think 8 is very much old enough to take an unsupervised bath.
 

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<i>I'm feeling like a totally overprotective mother right now</i> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: . DD has been showering herself for a few years now. I'm not especially concerned about slipping and I trust her to wash herself independently. I was concerned about drowning in a tub but I guess she is past the age where this is a danger. She'll be so happy the next time she asks to bathe istead of shower and I tell her she can.
 

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Awww, that's alright. Somehow I think your daughter will stay out of the therapist's office in spite of having to bathe supervised for the few years of her life. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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About 3 or 4. Ds (almost 4) bathes alone, but I'll periodically tap on the door or lean in and say "you okay in there?" Dd1 (7) bathes alone and independently; she would be offended if I checked on her or tried to supervise her while bathing.
 
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