[DeerMother]

I just saw that dd has top and bottom teeth coming through at the same time. Ouch!

So. . . when they were newborns, ds was needier. Now he is more content to play and explore by himself. Roles have switched and dd is now needier - won't sleep, needs to be held/nurse more etc. But when dd is constantly nursing or needing me, it hurts my feelings leaving ds over there by himself, not getting as much of my attention. It stinks him not getting read to or played with for hours on end. HOw do you sage women deal with this? Is part of it just knowing that they will flip flop always and it is fair even if in the short term it doesn't seem like it?

 

[Gena 22]

It's so hard when one baby is doing well on their own, and you need to pay so much more mommy attention to the other twin! I want to let the happier twin know how well I think she's doing and how much I love her, but the other baby needs me more.

So long as the one babe is content, you just have to let him be. Like the rule against ever waking a sleeping baby, if he's playing happily, you just have to let him play as long as you're needed by the other babe.

Teething! This too shall pass, or something.

My two favorite new teething aids: cooked then frozen apple slices and even better, celery. My girl are entertained by celery for a good 20 minutes, tearing it apart with the few teeth they've got!

 

[Intertwined]

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My two continue to flip flop. I think it will all even out. Once a day I try to lay in bed with BOTH babies and just snuggle the three of us. It's my favorite time of the day.

 

[4Marmalade]

My babes are only 5-1/2 months but they've already flip-flopped a few times too. Ds used to be the one I needed to hold and nurse more. I could nurse dd, lay her down and she would sleep for 3 hours. Now I nurse ds to sleepy, put him in bed awake (

sorry, still getting used to this one. No other baby of mine has ever gone to sleep by themselves babbling away happily) and then focus on dd. She wakes up multiple times per nap and I have to nurse her down again.

I have to believe it will always balance out. We try to be as fair as we can depending on the circumstances.

 

[Llyra]

Yeah, flip-flop here, too. DS was an incredibly needy newborn, and it used to break my heart how much more time I spent with him than I spent with DD2. But now that they're toddlers, DD2 demands the lion's share, while DS is far more laidback. I used to worry about it, but now I've seen that it all evens out in the end, and they're capable of letting me know when they feel like they're not getting enough attention.