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She's slowly learning to read - although she really doesn't like reading books to me, once in a while she will. She mostly just wants me to read to her.<br><br>
When she reads out loud to me, and is sounding out words, should I correct her if it's wrong? Sometimes it's wrong pronunciation and sometimes it's the wrong word entirely (say if she's guessing).<br><br>
I have been correcting her, because I feel like she won't learn if I don't, but then I questioned maybe I was squelching that eagerness to learn by correcting her? How does everyone handle this?
 

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Why don't you ask her what she'd prefer? Let her know you are happy to help with difficult words, or happy to just listen to her sound them out, which ever she wants at that time! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I guess my biggest concern is how she will learn the proper way to say a word if I don't tell her? Like if she sounded out bake like back, then if I don't correct her, will she continue saying it that way?
 

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MY DD will usually say , "Now I am reading, no interrupting" when she does not want help. Other times I will "correct" her, but it is more just gently saying the word correctly right after without any tone attached to it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Like if she sounded out bake like back, then if I don't correct her, will she continue saying it that way?</div>
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I would guess that she will eventually encounter situations where she'll realize that, for example, "I help mom back a cack" doesn't make nearly as much sense as "I help mom bake a cake." And she'll sort it out from there. That's what my kids all did. None of them wanted to be corrected much when reading.<br><br>
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I would let her be your guide. My dd welcomed a bit of help, but if she were bothered by it I would have stopped. If she lets you say the correct word and it doesn't upset her - go ahead! You could always limit yourself to just one or two words a page or story.
 

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I would also say to ask her. She may feel uncomfortable reading aloud cause she's afraid of doing it wrong. If she welcomes it, then that's one thing. It's tough though.
 

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I think asking what she would prefer is a good idea. You might want to use different wording than "correct". Maybe say something like "would you like me to tell you how to say words that you aren't sure of?", or something like that.<br><br>
When I "correct" ds, I either say the word right after, in a matter-of-fact way, or will talk about <i>why</i> a word is pronounced a certain way, or we talk about how funny English is as a language (how so many things aren't logical). He really likes it when we talk about how illogical the language is. He doesn't feel like he's done anything "wrong" then, but that the English language sometimes goes against what seems right and logical. Unfortunately, I can't think of any eamples right now, but hopefully you know what I mean.<br><br>
Anyway, ds is very resistant to corrections, but enjoys learning the rules of the English language and talking about why something is said a certain way. That doesn't mean he doesn't need reminding. He's only 6 (almost 7), and needs a lot of reminding about a lot of things (like "your brother doesn't like to be knocked down when he's practicing walking" - but that's a different topic altogether <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> ).
 

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Use the rules when you correct. Remind her that when there is a silent e, that the first vowel says it's name. Knowing the rules will help her and it's an easier way to correct. And you don't necessarily need to correct every word, either. Just correct some of the words this time and tackle different words next time.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Use the rules when you correct. Remind her that when there is a silent e, that the first vowel says it's name. Knowing the rules will help her and it's an easier way to correct. And you don't necessarily need to correct every word, either. Just correct some of the words this time and tackle different words next time.</div>
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that's what we do. or if ds asks what a word is I tell him, if he's tryign to sound it out i leave him alone to do it. If he mispronounces them i repeat it correctly and tell him teh rule that goes with it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I guess my biggest concern is how she will learn the proper way to say a word if I don't tell her? Like if she sounded out bake like back, then if I don't correct her, will she continue saying it that way?</div>
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I agree.<br><br>
I could never let any of my children say something wrong or write it wrong without correcting them. It's just in my nature to do that. I feel like as a parent it's my duty to correct them if I know they are doing something wrong, whether it's through discipline or teaching.
 

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There are times when DS wants help, and times when he doesn't. And there are plenty of times when I read TO him, with him looking at the book, that he gets a chance to hear what the word is WHILE looking at the correct spelling.<br><br>
When he's reading out loud, he lets me know if he wants to be corrected or not. Usually he doesn't- but sometimes he specifically asks me what a certain word is.<br><br>
When my 11yo reads book out loud to me, I do correct her. There are far fewer words that she mispronounces, and she truly does appreciate knowing how they're pronounced. It's hard sometimes, when reading books silently, to know if a new word or a name is being "spoken" properly in your head.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Why don't you ask her what she'd prefer? Let her know you are happy to help with difficult words, or happy to just listen to her sound them out, which ever she wants at that time! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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