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My husband and I were wondering this yesterday. Harvest is 8 months old and we have no idea if we should or shouldnt be intimate with him in the same room. We never are because we always manage to do it when he is sleeping but I was just wondering what everyones thoughts were about it. Any thoughts?
 

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Personally I could never be intimiate (and I'm assuming that by "being intimate" we are talking about S-*-X) with DH with my baby in the room no matter HOW young they were. Of course, I also don't like to have my dogs in the room either, so I may not be the best one to respond!
 

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Once it starts to make you uncomfortable, that's probably a sign that you should stop, just for the sake of healthy adult relations. But my guess would be that people all over the world who have family beds just get used to being very, very quiet.
 

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i agree -- once it seems "odd" to you.

DS is 15 months and generally he is in his own room now -- otherwise he'd not stay asslep.

however, I'd say around 14 months we snuck in a morning quicky -- spoon style -- under the covers -- while he was still asleep......so i am not saying it NEVER happens......

DS goes to bed, at night, in his own bed, in his own room, then comes to us (we go get him) the next time he wakes after we go to bed...so it is working out well for us to have time before he comes to bed.....he he was younger ... the floor, the guest room, the sofa......

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Personally I could never be intimiate (and I'm assuming that by "being intimate" we are talking about S-*-X) with DH with ay baby in the room no matter HOW young they were. Of course
Me nither.
 

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I found that after about six months the sound of the whip cracking woke her up so we had to re-locate.
 

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i am sure moms and dads found ways to be intimate....we did not always have tons of rooms and spaces to have s*x.....for thousands of years ....parents shared rooms and beds and spaces with their children and the species kept on.....apparently many parents were having intimate relations with their children about and managed just fine.....
that being said.....my dh and i do have intimate relations w/ our youngest two in the same room....it is VERY quiet...and very dark....
now....we also revel in the fact that occasionally our house is empty enough , through great miracles of fate...LOL....(and kiddos being at sleepovers and the like) that we are able to be in ANOTHER room other than where the little ones are and can....be more FREE ...
 

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Personally I could never be intimiate (and I'm assuming that by "being intimate" we are talking about S-*-X) with DH with ay baby in the room no matter HOW young they were.
Me too. We dtd in the guest room or living room.
 

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Weeellll...DD is almost 4....and she sleeps like a rock...and we have a huge Tempurpedic bed...and I'm a lights off kinda gal...soooo....we haven't relocated as of yet.

Thats not entirely true. DD has been sleeping in her room for the last few nights. Now its just the newborn and he can only see a few inches in front of his face
so I figure I got probably another 4 years before I need to move!
 

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We have been intimate very queitly with our almost 2 and almost 4 year olds in our bed. Usually we go to one of the empty beds, but occassionally......
 

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While I think it is definitely up to the individual couple (if it makes you uncomfortable, then move), most families in the world throughout history have lived in very intimate quarters. It brings to mind that scene in Dances With Wolves where Kicking Bird and his wife are getting frisky in the teepee. It makes Dunbar uncomfortable, but the camera pans across to see all of the children and other relatives sleeping in the same teepee. It's only been rather recently when you think about it that we've had the luxury of larger domiciles with extra rooms and seperate bedrooms.
 

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I would never do that w/ a baby in the room. Of course, I can't do that with the cats in the room either. It just feels wrong to me. (not making judgements on other people, just saying what is comfortable for me personally)

We move DS to his crib and bring him back in with us when we are done.
 

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You mommas must have fun fun DTD than we do

we've never woken him....and to move him and then move him back would take more time and effort than the deed itself.


(course now that he starts the night in his own room, we hurry before he wakes up)...

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All kidding aside, I think we did it til she was 2... maybe 3. At some point she just generally started stirring around more in her sleep... not related in any way to our behavior... and that was sort of distracting. So we took the show on the road.

I still have solo sex in the same bed with DD and she is 6 1/2. But that's different, IMO.
 
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