and he/she is crying/fussy, what do you do? Lilah likes to be held just a certain way, or else she starts wailing. She likes being held on her belly, or facing out. Nothing too close and cuddly, and God forbid you try the cradle hold with this child!! (Unless I'm feeding her...) She really does not like laying flat on her back. So anyway...whenever we go to visit the in-laws, or my parents, of course, the grandmas want to hold her! They take her out of her carseat, she'll wake up, and then starts getting all squirmy and cranky. Sometimes she will really work herself up and scream. So the whole time she is doing all this, the grandmas will usually try to gently rock her, walk with her, switch positions...whatever. They don't just pass her off to me when she gets like this. They seem to enjoy trying to get her to calm down. I tell them what to do when she gets like this, (hold her this way...go walk outside...) but it doesn't always work because Lilah knows they are not ME. It's hard even for Dh to get her comfortable sometimes. It upsets me when she is uncomfortable, and it bothers me because I know exactly what will calm her down, and I know if I take her away from them she will be happy and content within 30 seconds. But, then the grandmas will get pissed! I know...who cares about them, what matters is that the baby is happy..but really, I can't just never let them hold her. If she really starts crying, beyond the fussy/squirmy point, then I take her from them even if they are not happy about it. So what do you do in this situation?