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...what does that mean to you? Does it strike you as odd in any way?<br>
Almost makes me think this person sees a baby as a fashion accessory. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: Like picking out a style and color...<br><br>
DH thinks I'm overreacting--that maybe she just really feels a passion for promoting inter-racial relationships and diversity.
 

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I'm trying to imagine the circumstances in which someone would feel the need to slip this little comment into the general conversation, but I'm having a hard time. What the heck?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I agree, it sounds objectifying. And coming from a white person, it sounds like a kind of fetishizing of whatever race they hoped to "mix" with.</div>
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i agree with this. also, it doesn't seem to take into account the struggles that face POC or mixed heritage.
 

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does that mean they want sperm from a male, and a egg from a female? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
it irks me when i hear people say they want a "mixed" child, i myself am bi-racial, and my dd is multiracial..so i just look at them like <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
when i hear people say it, it makes them look like IDIOTS! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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It seems odd but... I've often said I wanted a red-haired baby... isn't that kind of the same thing?<br><br>
(Dh has wonderful red hair. I'd hoped that one of our kids would get it but they didn't.)
 

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It strikes me as kind of weird. It does make it sound like the child is a fashion accessory. I'm trying to decide if I think it would still be weird if someone said they always wanted a child with blonde hair, or a daughter.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm trying to imagine the circumstances in which someone would feel the need to slip this little comment into the general conversation, but I'm having a hard time. What the heck?</div>
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As a very fair-skinned person who burns easily in the sun, it has come up in that context. Is it bad to say I am very glad my bi-racial daughter can play in the sun without worrying as much as I do?
 

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I think it's a little silly.<br><br>
But then, I also aways had a little longing for a fiery red-headed child or two.<br><br>
Not likely to get that. My kids are biracial and there's only a tiny bit of red-head gene me, and none in dh.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">As a very fair-skinned person who burns easily in the sun, it has come up in that context. Is it bad to say I am very glad my bi-racial daughter can play in the sun without worrying as much as I do?</div>
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Not bad at all, but that's not the situation set up in the OP.
 

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Well, whenever it comes up in conversation, I tell my melanocompromised children that it would be a good idea to find a melanocompetent partner so their children will have a better chance of avoiding skin cancer. Perhaps your friend was thinking along those lines?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm trying to imagine the circumstances in which someone would feel the need to slip this little comment into the general conversation, but I'm having a hard time. What the heck?</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br><br>
FWIW, my 'mixed' babies are beautiful. But that makes them sound like cake batter <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br><br>
FWIW, my 'mixed' babies are beautiful. But that makes them sound like cake batter <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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I really would be interested in knowing the context of the comment though.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I agree, it sounds objectifying. And coming from a white person, it sounds like a kind of fetishizing of whatever race they hoped to "mix" with.</div>
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I agree, and if said by <i>anyone.</i> These things are not just offensive when "whites" do them.<br><br>
Although I am wondering, because I've had single friends go the insemination route and choose an ethnicity different from their own, if it was said in that sort of context. Because I suppose that's somewhat more understandable?
 

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"Mixed" children do come out butiful. but they also have a hard time in school, at least were I grew up. I dont think I would have a "mixed" child just cuz I wanted a kid with pretty skin color ya know? Have a kid with whoever you fall in love with and marry.
 

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I don't think this is weird in and of itself. I'd like to know more about the context, though.<br><br>
I think biracial people, regardless of the mix, tend to be very good looking. I don't think it's any weirder than wanting a boy or a girl, or a brunette or redhead.<br><br>
And, as a melanoma survivor, I completely understand why a fair skinned person would want their kids to have stronger melanocytes, less skin cancer risk, and (probably) be better looking into old age.<br><br>
I also think that for a lot of people the idea that their children could inhabit multiple communities is an appealing one.
 

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Her comment definitely had nothing to do with fair-skinned vs. not and sun exposure.<br>
I don't remember the exact details, but it had some context in her commenting on a beautiful "mixed" baby she had seen. And also in her being distraught in leaving her loser boyfriend, because with him she could have a "mixed" baby.<br>
She's actually made the "mixed" baby comment several times.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Personally I think biracial people are same of the most beautiful people out there.</div>
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I agree. What's wrong with wanting a "mixed" baby? I mean aside from the fact that the term "mixed" isn't really pc. Alot of people want babies with blue eyes or dark hair or whatever... what's the difference? I always thought that biracial people who are part Asian and part Black are so beautiful, and being half Korean I always thought I'd like a biracial (or is it triracial?) baby. Now I have one and he is beautiful! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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