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i have so many questions, but i'm trying to only ask the ones that seem relevant right now... i'm 27 years old in very good health and my husband and i are going to start ttc our first child next month.<br><br>
i know that having a natural birth at home attended by a midwife is how i want to bring my baby into the world. i have complete confidence in my body and as long as the pregnancy is healthy, i know this will be a safe and gentle way for me and the baby to experience birth. my husband completely supports me in this, but i know he would feel a bit better being *at* a hospital "just in case"... even though there is a good hospital about one mile from our house.<br><br>
so now i am wondering when is the right time to start calling midwives to find the right one for me? is it too early since i am not pregnant now (but might be in another month)? i also think i should call a ob/gyn just to explore the options (though i've pretty much ruled this out if things progress well), but i'm not sure how to even bring up the topic of home birth with a doctor. when i tried with my gyn her response was, "i would never take that chance, when things go wrong in birth it is a matter of seconds, not minutes."<br><br>
and one other related question, do most midwives have specific ob's they call if there is a need to transfer to the hospital? is there just a doctor on staff all the time to handle things like that?<br><br>
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Welcome to Mothering!!!<br><br>
And congrats on this exciting time for you and your dh!<br><br>
In my area, alot of midwives do a pre-pregnancy appt. Its basically you interviewing them and they go over your questions and they talk w/you about diet, health etc. when TTC. Some do a blood work-up, some don't. This might be something to consider doing.<br><br>
Hope this helps~<br><br>
Lisa:bf
 

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thanks!<br><br>
i have now called and spoken with 3 midwives...<br><br>
one was no longer taking new clients.<br><br>
the second was very warm and she is sending me an information packet that i can read before a consultation appointment that she is happy to schedule before i become pregnant.<br><br>
the third was very helpful and willing to share lots of information but suggested i call back when pregnant to schedule a consultation. this last conversation actually took me by surprise a bit with how verbal she was on how political the decision is to plan a home birth with a midwife. i really do understand that this is an issue - in fact i am particularly concerned about how my MIL will regard this as she was a labor and maternity nurse for about 20 years and i have heard she found midwives to be more difficult to work with than doctors... but politics of birth options seemed like sort of a strange introductory conversation.<br><br><br><br>
so, at risk of sounding neurotic from calling so early, i've begun the search.
 

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Flitters, how wonderful for you. Networking is a great idea. Also, you might start saving from your homebirth now! Many attendants (at least here in the Bay Area) require you to pay in full by the 36th week. That's $4000 in 32- weeks! Ouch.
 

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Flitters, it is great that you're considering looking for & consulting w/ midwives now before you get pregnant. About half of my clients have read my information papers (called Informed Choice Document) & had an initial no-strings-attached consult before getting pregos. It sure does cut down on the time that some folks need to find the right midwife for them & some search far & wide for the right one. Most folks also want to know right from the get go about diet, supplements,exercise & all kinds of questions. Best Wishes, Karen Valcourt of BirthTender in the foothills of the NC Mtns.
 

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it makes me feel so much better to have as much information as possible! reading and learning about gentle birth options was really very pivotal for me in that it really helped me realize i was ready to be a mother. now that i'm off birth control (very exciting!!!) i just can't get enough information and i'm really looking forward to my first consultation! i got some good vitamins from my regularly doc and we discussed diet but i definitely have more specific questions about exercise and sports which are really quite a big part of my life.<br><br>
and laurata - thanks for the pointer on starting to save now - really a good suggestion!
 

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yay! i'm so excited. i got my first info packet in the mail today!<br>
it is thick and i'm gonna make dh read all of it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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