My bro and sil are expecting this fall. They will not know the gender until birth. She is a pretty smart woman and I know she'll educate herself to a point, but she sadi herself that she gets overwhelmed with info sometimes and has to be left alone. I'm pretty sure my bro is pro circ (he's 50), thinks the whole topic is gross etc. I know she can stand up to him but might give in just to shut him up. She's VERY guarded; we've only become close enough to talk about intimate stuff in the last year and I've known her for 12! So I don't want to shut her down. She's aware that I am a lactivist; when she revealed the pregnancy she joked that "now we're gonna get some propaganda!" This was not a negative comment (It's hard to tell in writing) - basically she's open to the bf info, and she's SMART, so I have no fear there. But no clue as to the circ issue - even when I threw it out there as an example of something I felt strongly about - she didn't indicate anything about it. So.... how to gently offer info without looking like I think she's incapable of thinking for herself?? I do NOT want to insult or belittle, even by accident. I respect my sil and love her. I love my bro too, but he's an idiot about some things LOL. I have time - they're due in October. Any help here?