I'd also avoid the cheerios because of the ingredients... additives and stuff... but other kinds of cereal-y things can be okay. We get organic kamut puffs and DD looooooves those, just the perfect size for her little pincers.
As for eating out at restaurants, what's wrong with butter and spices? Why would that be different than at home? I can understand about 'fast food' with chemical additives and all that. But DD loves spicy food, there's nothing 'wrong' with that at all.
We generally feed her what's on our plate with just a few cautionary exceptions. Tonight we had homemade french fries, we bit off the pointy ends and gave her the rest and she was in heaven (good irish girl, loves her potatoes). Last night I made BBQ beef ribs (from grass-fed pasture-raised hormone-free cows) and pan-fried potatoes with onions. She loved it all.
DH fed her from his watermelon at lunch today, she ate an entire slice on her own.
Anyway, when we want something quick and not messy, like for in the car, the kamut puffs are our default. Sometimes at home we might go for bits of cheese too (that depends on how adamant you're being about dairy of course, we're going ahead with 'cultured' dairy like cheese and yogurt but ignoring straight milk, which we hardly use anyway).