With our first we told people right away. With this pregnancy, I'm feeling like I want it to be a secret between dh and I for awhile. I'm also not ready to tell my daughter as it would be a loooong wait for her, but I'm super excited to tell her so we'll see how long I can last! We haven't decided how long we're going to wait, but I'd love to get through the first trimester before telling people, we'll see.
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<div style="font-style:italic;">With our first we told people right away. With this pregnancy, I'm feeling like I want it to be a secret between dh and I for awhile. I'm also not ready to tell my daughter as it would be a loooong wait for her, but I'm super excited to tell her so we'll see how long I can last! We haven't decided how long we're going to wait, but I'd love to get through the first trimester before telling people, we'll see.</div>
I just found out today and I made my husband come home from work during lunch cause I couldn't wait to tell him and I didn't want to tell him over the phone. We told everyone about our dd right away....I was 19, so our parents were not that overjoyed at first. We feel like we should wait a bit before telling anyone because I am so early in the pregnancy. I am afraid I may hurt some feelings if i wait too long though(MY MOM). My daughter has been hoping for a sibling for a long time, but I don't think we will tell her until I start to show. Both dh and I are bad at keeping secrets, so we will see how long this lasts.
I can't keep a secret to save my life! DP and I have been saying that we will wait until 12 weeks, I am almost at 6 weeks, and many people know. Right now it's more word of mouth news, when I'm 12 weeks it will be more public information.
i generally go by the rule of thumb before 12 weeks: tell people i'd be okay with untelling. i miscarried my first two pregnancies-- the first time, i told everyone and their mama immediatly and it was horrible to tell them later there was no baby. i was lax with m and told more people than i did with k, because i really wasn't nervous.
We told everyone right away with Anneke, at about 5 weeks or so. This time we waited until 14. It was so nice to have it just a little secret between the two of us. It also gave us time to adjust to the reality of another baby before spreading the word. And it made the first trimester go really really fast. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
Six weeks. I was barfing all over the place and people were getting worried <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
We lost our first after 12 weeks, so we didn't bother waiting the "standard" length of time this time around. I'm enjoying each pregnancy and not having any expectations that something will go wrong. I want to share the joy. Pregnancy, birth, and loss are all huge parts of the human experience, and for myself, I don't understand not wanting to involve loved ones and close friends right away. Ditto with strangers and co-workers and such: I don't go telling everyone I meet, but I don't mind if they know both the good and the bad. Life happens. I try to embrace it.
Our first we told right away, or second we waited a couple months, our third we made it to the 2nd trimester. This is our 3rd in 4 years, we just figured people were sick of hearing about it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> And we just wanted to keep it to ourselves for awhile and avoid the questions.
I was about 4-5 weeks this time when I began telling people. The way I figured, I was pretty sure I wasn't going to miscarry, and if I did, I'd be telling people about that too, so I just announced my pregnancy pretty much as soon as we found out.
With our first, we told family at Hallowe'en (We dressed up as the THREE bears and let them fill in why they could only see TWO bears!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) That was about 18 weeks. We waited b/c we had 2 miscarriages prior to that. We told work/friends at 20 weeks.<br><br>
Second and third, we told early - probably somewhere around 7-8 weeks.<br><br>
Fourth and fifth (twins) we HAD to tell family and friends at 12 weeks. I was almost busting out of my clothing, but we had been trying to wait. Unfortunately, I had to take medical leave from work and my manager somehow mistook the written instructions, "I'm pregnant, this is confidential, I'll tell you when it's OK to discuss with other staff" as "within 24-hours of receiving these instructions, go ahead and tell everyone that my medical absence is due to pregnancy and related complications". It's a small town so it was a big panic to quickly tell our family first-hand while the gossip spread like wildfire. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: