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WHen they become uncomfortable. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
It is usually around the same time you see them wanting privacy when they get dressed themselves. Before that..if you are comfortable and they are comfortable....doesn't matter <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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When they're uncomfortable. My mom still changes in front of me and it doesn't bother either of us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
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I'm 33 and my mum still changes in front of me; my eldest is 14 and I still change in front of him.<br><br>
I don't want to hide my body from my children but I don't put it in their faces either. If I'm dressing and they want to talk to me I talk to them while I dress. They have seen me ordinary, pregnant, post-partum and breastfeeding. They see how my body can and does change. I don't want my sons getting all their perceptions of women's bodies from advertising.
 

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As long as the child is comfortable with it-why stop? As far as I am concerned there is nothing to be worried about or ashamed of. I tend to be quite the nudist myself and I am sure that Harvest will be used to it.
 

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I totally agree with Orange. Dh asked about when do we start wearing clothes to bed...I wanted to hug him for that cause my first though itsnt about the nudity its that he dosent see us putting ds in his own bed anytime in the near or far future. We usually have family time in bed before Dh falls asleep (he is in bed by 6pm to wake up at 2am) and ds gets a bit rambuncious and innocentlly crawls around on us and grabs ahold of what ever is avaliable (mostly daddys body hair poor dh).<br><br>
I am not worried about nudity I remember taking showers with my dad until pretty late in life like about 7, I believe it was up until I told my parents that daddy had a 'funny poochie' (that was my word for a yoni as a kid). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> its halarious to this day and we all still laugh about it. If we had a dd I dont know how dh would feel about it, it might be different. He is going to make me explaine to ds why we didnt circ him (dh will do it I know he is all talk sometimes) cause dh is and someday ds will notice the difference.
 

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And now a question of my own-- what about the father/daughter thing?</div>
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In our house, it's the same. When DD1 gets uncomfortable with it, then DH will stop. She is 4 and DH still wakes around naked all the time so it's not bothering her yet. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Honestly, she really doesn't even notice that he is different from her, we'll never made nudity into a big deal so it's not to her.
 

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And now a question of my own-- what about the father/daughter thing?</div>
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I don't really see any difference. It's a comfort thing. When someone becaomes uncomfortable you stop.
 

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With us...it did become uncomfortable for the oldest DD with her Dad around 7-8. Not really a big deal but enough that they both don't dress around each other or shower together at that point.<br><br>
Still no issue with mother/daughter at our house.
 

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I don't want to hide my body from my children but I don't put it in their faces either. If I'm dressing and they want to talk to me I talk to them while I dress. They have seen me ordinary, pregnant, post-partum and breastfeeding. They see how my body can and does change. I don't want my sons getting all their perceptions of women's bodies from advertising.</div>
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My parents continued long after I was uncomfortable with it.<br><br>
They were never very big on privacy either. Doors were never closed, and if I closed one someone would open it, just like that.<br><br>
My sister never cared about being seen naked or seeing anyone naked.<br><br>
To this day, my father and sister walk around not fully dressed even when they have company or are at someone else's house.<br><br>
They also leave the door open when they use the bathroom. I close it if I am at someone else's house or when I have company.<br><br>
To me it just seems rude to subject someone outside of your immediate family to your body without their permission.
 

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What about it? Naked bodies are natural and are treated as such in our house. If someone wants privacy, that's their right. But so far everyone is perfectly happy with everyone else seeing anything they happen to see.<br><br>
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When either mom/dad/child become uncomfy with it then it is time to stop. Till then it is no big deal.
 

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Oh gosh! My mom was such a big nudist. She did everything with the door open and it was groooossssss! I was around 12 when it started to get on my nerves. Even to this day, my mom and her sisters can use the pot & chitchat together while in the washroom. There's been times when we were staying the summer at my aunt's house where I'd have my cousin in the shower. My two aunts in the mirror, my mom on the pot, and then I'd come in and talk to. lol (Oh and there IS another washroom upstairs.)<br><br>
I have a tendency to leave the washroom open when I go, but lately I've stopped. My husband doesn't mind but I can't STAND to see that.<br><br>
I guess I'm trailing off topic. I'd stop dressing infront of my child when they are around 4. That's the age I stopped changing infront of my neice/nephew also.<br><br>
Just wanted to add, I'd only change my panties infront of my husband. I can't imagine doing it infront of my kids although my mum never cared lol...
 

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I hope I can get comfortable enough with my own nudity around DS that I can live up to that statement. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">When they're uncomfortable. My mom still changes in front of me and it doesn't bother either of us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
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Same here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My college textbook says that kids will develop a natural modesty around the age of six. This was true for one of my kids but not the other. Follow your child's cues.
 
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