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I think it's time I figured out at least approximately when I will stop working. I need to give my office quite a bit of heads up and we need to start looking for someone to take over while I'm gone (how long that will be in a completely different topic).<br><br>
I'm a massage therapist, so my job is pretty physically demanding. Not the most, but enough that I won't want to work when I'm huge. Also, I'm the only therapist at my office and my clients are all familiar with me. So I want to have enough time to find a good replacement and give everyone affected lots of heads up.<br><br>
I'm thinking I will want to be done by August at the latest, but I really have no clue! What's everyone else's opinion/experience?<br><br>
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DDDC .... but with my first, I wanted to work until the bitter end, for several reasons.<br><br>
I wanted to max out my maternity leave WITH my baby.<br><br>
I didn't want to sit around at home and wonder when the baby would come, and drive myself crazy.<br><br>
Work gets really easy at the end (esp. when the end is an approximate date) because you have already trained everyone else to do your job.<br><br>
Good luck with your decision!
 

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Working in a deli I could have worked up until birth... despite that the job was quite physically demanding (a lot of movement, somewhat heavy lifting and strenuous scrubbing to sanitize everything appropriately)<br><br>
I quit a month before just because it made me feel more comfortable and gave my job time to find my replacement as I was quitting rather than coming back.<br><br>
Depending on how long I got for maternity leave if I stayed... likely the normal 6 weeks... I probably would have worked up until I went into labor.
 

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I'm a nurse, and we work 12 hour shifts. I'm planning to work until the end of August. I think by that time I will be huge and tired and don't need to kill myself trying to work longer. I may change my mind, but I doubt it. I think it's important to be rested and relaxed going into birthing. (But if I do work until the end, what could be more convenient than just going into labor while I'm at work? I'll already be there!)
 

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Worked right up until giving birth in my first two pregnancies. For my first I wanted to have maximum maternity leave WITH the baby (I ended up quitting to be a WAHM) and with my second I didn't want to sit around being anxious waiting for labor to start. I will work right until delivery again this time. My job isn't physically demanding, though.
 

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Maternity leave as far as getting paid is a no-go. I'm an independent contractor and I only get paid for the work I do. I'm not really worried about it though.<br><br>
Also, I'm not sure if I will be going back or not, and if I do it will be very part time (I work 3 days a week now and I will probably let him know I would only want to work 1 day a week when/if I come back). I can be gone as long as I want really, since I would be fine with not going back to work. I'm mostly just want to work because I really enjoy my job and I love the people I work for and with. I don't want to stop too early and be bored out of my mind and miss people. I just want to be able to give them an estimate so no one gets stressed out about it. There is the problem though, I have no idea what to expect as far as how I'll feel working and being preggo.
 

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With my first, I stopped working at 30 weeks.<br><br>
I planned on being a SAHM after the baby, so maternity leave wasn't an issue. I was waiting tables and also going to school full-time and I was completely worn out. I could have worked longer and saved more money, but I was done, and my husband agreed with me.<br><br>
It was funny but my husband kept asking "when are you going to stop working?" the longer the pregnancy went on, but I felt so fantastic all through my second trimester that I didn't really feel like I had to. But since we'd agreed that I'd stop early in the third trimester and focus on getting all of my school work done up ahead of time (I was due during exam week. And she ended up coming a month early. So I was glad that I busted my butt and got all of my term papers written early on) and getting ready for the baby. I decided on 30 weeks because it was the end of a month and it sounded like a good number.<br><br>
Man was that a good choice. Up until 28 weeks, I was bursting with energy, glowing, feeling fantastic. By 30 weeks I was completely exhausted. At 31 weeks I was put on modified bedrest. So, good timing for me.
 

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I was pregnant with my third when my BFF was pregnant with her first. I waited tables and stopped working at 34 weeks because I was worn out. She is a registered massage therapist and found she had to stop working at aroung 35-36 weeks because of the demanding nature of the job physically.
 

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I live in California, so I get the month before my due date and 12 weeks after, although I'll be taking longer due to when I'm contracted again (beginning of January). I need to talk to my midwife about the month beforehand, because I canNOT do my job all the way up to my due date again. I tried it the first time and I was a mental BOOB by the end....it was embarrassing..LOL!
 

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i worked as a receptionist in an accounting firm with my first (so remember busy time Jan-April) .. i was due in march. i stopped working at 36 weeks, but I felt totally DONE at about 32 weeks and was raelly having a hard time keeping up (i had to run around a lot, not just sit and answer the phone, plus it was hard to get a bathroom break)<br><br>
if it hadn't been such a busy time of year i would have worked til the end (39 wks) ..
 

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I worked until the week I delivered (at a desk job).... that being said, I would shoot for 34-36 weeks as a massage therapist. That job is just so demanding (physically and emotionally). I used to work as a massage therapist and I think I would have given my notice, or stopped working by around 34 weeks.
 

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I worked until week 38 the first time (I was on 50% paid leave due to the demands of the job...I am a spec ed and was doing shift work in a group home setting). I'm thinking 38 or 39 this time. I'll see how I feel. I have a less strenuous job now. I want to cook and freeze 10 meals so DH and I can relax after the baby comes. I only have time for that if DD is at nursery school and I'm home. I just went up in time to try to save up for that. Even though we get years of maternity/paternity leave, I want it WITH the baby.
 

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Well, I have been thinking about this a lot too! I am also in CA where we get paid State disability starting at 36 weeks, but the clock starts ticking for me as soon as I take leave in terms of when I have to come back. I will take the 12 week after paid leave and then use up my vacation/sick leave. I had to go back when ds#1 was a little over 3 months and it was really hard for me. With ds#2 I was able to stretch my leave until he was 5 months (using a personal leave and saved money) and that was easier for all of us. The longer I work, more money, more personal leave availalble.<br>
I wish I could say I will work until 38 weeks, but I always hit a wall at 31 weeks and with my first pregnancy had to get up in a patient bed and do CPR chest compressions at 34 weeks and NEVER want to be in that position again. As my manager reminds me, it is my job to rescue patients what ever the case (they are falling, stop breathing, choking, etc) and if at any point I can phsyically meet those demands I should be on leave. I would say 31 weeks in an ideal world! Good luck!
 

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I worked until 38 weeks with my first and then quit, I was the director of a child care center and knew I wasn't returning. I stayed home for about a year following. Leave, etc. wasn't a concern. My replacement was in by about 35 weeks, I worked with her for about 3 weeks before I left. I told them at 20 weeks that I wasn't coming back from maternity leave.<br><br>
With my second I was working in my current job, doing community education, but on a different assignment. I was able to flex my time, finish my programming (teaching) at about 36 weeks, I took the better part of two weeks off for the holidays with my DD. Then I came back for a week and wrapped things up and left at like 39w2d. I had DS on my due date. This time around I'm working on a different assignment and teaching full day classes 8am to 5pm, plus commute time. I'm on my feet the whole time, teaching CPR & First Aid, which is hard to do over my belly. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> My employer will pay me 100% pay once I'm out on short term disability, and then for 12 weeks after regardless (6 weeks short term disability plus 6 weeks "parental leave". So I'm not trading time before for time later, IF I'm written off on disability. My midwives the last time were willing to write me off at 38 weeks without a special reason, just for being "pregnant enough". I'm not sure what my current midwifery practice policy is, but will be asking next week at my 24wk. appt. I've currently scheduled myself to teach until 36 weeks, use the 37th week to wrap up and them go out 38 weeks using vacation or disability. Honestly though, I'm really hoping to be put off sooner, early August, like 34-35 weeks would be fabulous! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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With DD I was doing massage therapy (never went back after). I had her on may 23 (due on the 18th) and quit working in the second week of March when I could no longer reach around my belly but i was *huge*. HTH. I've been debating the same thing now that i'm at an office and not doing anything strenuous.
 
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