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The kids are making me crazy, I'm burned out they do nothing but fight.<br><br>
Dh has spent the better part of the last 3 months traveling, this is the problem, we all acknowledge it, but can't do anything about the work travel.<br><br>
The kids need time with daddy, they are getting almost zero, they fight, they whine, they just don't stop, then I get angry which as we all know only makes everything worse.<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/help.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="help"><br><br>
Nothing seems to be working, we have lots (but not too much) activity. They are getting lots/all of my time attention (which is leading to my major burnout). They just keep at it screaming/yelling/throwing things, it's making all of us miserable.<br><br>
My well is dry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I seriously have nothing left to give, I'm out of ideas when I have ideas I get instantly frustrated if they don't work and the fighting continues.<br><br>
Then when dh is home they are so excited that he is finally home they can't control themselves and it's acting out in a different way, and he's never home for more than few days before he is gone again (when he is home most days he's still at his office).<br><br><br>
We get out with friends have playdates ds goes to preschool 3 morning for 2 hours each. Dd and I try to do the errands then since nobody is coming home in the evening.<br><br>
I just can't take the fighting and whining over everything anymore. I can't talk and reason and emathize anymore. It's just not working.
 

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I'm sorry. This is so hard! My husband is a consultant and has had out of town jobs on and off over the last 10 years, so I know what you're going through. There were a few things we did that eased the pain for us a bit (though this is just a tough situation).<br><br>
We had the kids plan a special activity with Daddy, something they could look forward to and count on happening. It could be something really simple like going out for ice cream, an hour of swimming at the Y, a trip to the playground, etc. It seemed to help the kids to have something they could focus on. They would draw pictures of the planned event, talk to dad about it on the phone, write it on the calendar.<br><br>
Make time for yourself! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> If you can manage a babysitter one evening a week for a couple of hours I highly recommend it. It can be draining to be the sole caregiver all the time. A little time out can recharge your battery-- brouse a bookstore, have a glass of wine with a friend, or see a movie.<br><br>
I also had very low expectations of myself when dh was out of town. The house was not clean, dinners were not fancy.
 
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